Posted by g_g_g_unit on June 5, 2012, at 8:39:26
In reply to Re: Acceptance Of What Can't Be Changed » g_g_g_unit, posted by Phil on June 5, 2012, at 6:35:52
> You can't move forward if you deny reality and refuse to accept it.
Many people with mental illness will never self-actualize. It's very easy for therapists etc. to promote an agenda of 'acceptance' as a way of downplaying that deep psychic trauma.
My interpretation is that he was digging beneath the 'feel good' quality of acceptance - with its Zen-like connotations - and examining it for what it really is, i.e. defeat. I'm personally aware of what I might have been capable of had I not become 'sick'. Yes, I can accept the life I have and try to do the best with what I've got, but, for me, it becomes complicit with defeat in the sense that I have to stop striving to be the person I set out to be, because they're nothing more than an illusion at this point. And I find that -- everything I've missed out on in life -- the most heartbreaking and damnable part of being ill.
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