Posted by Raisinb on February 14, 2012, at 11:23:17
In reply to depressive emotions, posted by g_g_g_unit on February 13, 2012, at 6:21:10
I agree with others: this is a case for therapy. These are existential issues that even non-depressed humans deal with. They should be worked with. Personally I'm not a big fan of CBT; it always seemed like a band aid (when I need major surgery), but it helps many. The research says that whatever a therapist's orientation, the empathic steady relationship will help.
Religion does help many people. It is a light in the darkness, and again, research bears this out. However, if you don't believe it, you don't, and you can't make yourself. I used to believe in god, and now I am an atheist and I can't imagine going back. I simply do not believe in it anymore. I admire faith, but I see it as just another small human attempt to control and predict a chaos that just can't be controlled or predicted. That said, if religion is something that works for *you* then grab onto it with both hands.
Your post seemed to ask: how do I not feel these things that are painful to me, conflict with how I think I should be, and make me hate myself? It is different for everybody, speaking personally, I don't think you do make yourself stop. I think it makes it worse to try. I think you do everything you can to live through it, including therapy, exercise, meditation, church, kickboxing, or whatever else there is.
Again, I am speaking personally, and this may sound flip: you have to accept that it's gonna hurt. You will feel these things. There might not be answers. You live through it anyway. After about 20 years of mental illness, that is what I have come to.
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