Posted by floatingbridge on January 19, 2010, at 0:30:42
In reply to (((fb))) » floatingbridge, posted by janejane on January 18, 2010, at 19:01:19
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> Just out of curiosity, does this downturn have anything to do with your menstrual cycle? I'm asking since it seems pretty sudden, and this is how it sometimes happens for me. I definitely have 4-5 days per month when there is a much greater tendency for me to feel abysmal.... I'm really not looking forward to menopause since part of what gets me through the really bad times is their predictability.Well, I think I'm hitting menopause. My last cycle was 40 days. This cycle is going on 50. Felt like menses was imminent for days, then blah. Nothing. I used to get a real boost the week and days before my period. The actual period itself was misery.
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> What things do you like to do to be nice to yourself?Chocolate that I just happened to have on hand, a walk with a friend (that is when I am not afraid of everyone), taking in my son's beauty, fruit, and flowers, yes, but where do you shop? I haven't seen a 5$ bouquet in years!
>Flowers just feel so wonderfully indulgent, even if they're only a $5 bouquet from the grocery store. When I buy them, I'll put the vase in my office in view of where I'm sitting so I can look at them intermittently. I find that enjoying their beauty and smell provides a little bit of a distraction from ruminating thoughts. They also help to make me feel special and deserving of good things.
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> I don't want to buck the trend here, but I think we should all strive for full remission. I actually read this in a psychopharm book, and I think it's a good goal to have. Never give up on feeling better. I lived with partial remission for a long time and regret having compromised. My goals are loftier now.What psychopharm book--is it worth recommending? My pdoc holds out this goal--but for me, it's too difficult to really believe. However, I do like to hear you say that--hold on to your goals! You seem to have found good coping strategies and ways to self-soothe.
No problem with sweaty hands--mine are like ice these days--darn raynauds syndrome!
thanks, sweetie,
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funny, the top of my reply was lost--about the emotional amnesia that you mention. Oh well. I also said I was feeling better, but a little shaken, and I thanked you for your kindness. So, thanks!
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