Posted by Racer on April 3, 2006, at 11:41:52
In reply to Is this a Bipolar symptom?, posted by becksA on April 3, 2006, at 10:52:05
Doesn't sound like bipolar to me. Does certainly sound familiar, though...
I can still recreate insults, rejections, etc, that happened to me long ago, and thinking about them still sends me reeling. I attribute it to shaky self-esteem, and putting too much importance onto external judgements. I have found that, when I'm feeling pretty good, and pretty good about myself, and pretty good about whatever is being commented on, unkind comments don't bother me nearly so much. (Just had an experience related to that about a week ago, with my mother, in fact. She commented negatively about a top I'd knit for myself, and it slid right off my back -- because I liked the top. A day or so later, when my mood had slipped more, I found I was rolling her comment around in my head again, and feeling self-conscious about the top. {sigh})
I've talked to my T about this, and we agree that the goal is to progress to where I can place more importance on my own opinion than that of others. I suspect that this is an area where some CBT skills would help -- mostly stopping to compare what's said by others with your own opinion.
And for me, it's related to OCD/ADD type symptoms, too. It's a lot worse when I'm more obsessive, and more distractable. So, it's more complex than just a symptom of one particular disorder, I would guess.
Hope that helps.
And I have to say this, I tried to avoid it -- about that girl? First, you don't know why she didn't call you back, but get rid of the concept of "out of your league" when it comes to the female of the species! Get right the heck over that. You'll be happier, and you'll be better able to make a woman happy about you, too. Also, the best way to get to know a woman is to make friendly gestures, not necessarily romantic ones. Trust me on this: romantic is scary for a lot of women, friendship is something more of us are good at.
Good luck with that, too.
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