Posted by tom_traubert on April 29, 2005, at 19:29:48
In reply to my husband doesnt bp2 is an illness, posted by woolav on April 29, 2005, at 17:54:31
Your husband isn't a psychiatrist. Try not to take it too hard. It took me a long time to lower my expectations and not take it personally when family members or friends would question my ocd and anxiety--in their way, it's out of love, they're trying to tell you that they have faith that you can pull yourself through it without doctors. But for me, for a long time, I felt they felt i was a failure, weak, or flawed in some way for not being able to snap out of it. I internalized that and felt that way about myself. It's poison and you don't need it.
I have a lifelong friend, a great guy, like a brother. I'd do anything for him, and he for me. But to this day, he doesn't believe in most psychology, saying it is a copout to personal accountability and weakness. I buy him books to read about ocd, he does, and says it's trash. What can you do? His arguments, underneath, are from deep friendship and support: he wants me to get better, he wants me to believe in myself, he's a good friend. But he's not a psychiatrist, and more importantly, he's not me. And likewise, I'm not him--he's just as entitled to his opinions as I am.
Went off on a little tangent there, but the point here is to tell people how their views may make you feel, and that's really all you can do. And that people understanding is a good thing but not a requirement for recovery.
I'm sure everyone on this site has encountered this is one way or another. Hopefully your husband will come around.
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