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Posted by woolav on April 29, 2005, at 17:54:31
i had a hypomania episode. (it was bad) he has only seen my major depressive episodes and now doesnt believe that there are such things as hypomania episodes. Is the only way to get this through his head is by taking him to my pdoc or therapist and letting them explain? Or for some ppl will they never understands us???
S
Posted by tom_traubert on April 29, 2005, at 19:29:48
In reply to my husband doesnt bp2 is an illness, posted by woolav on April 29, 2005, at 17:54:31
Your husband isn't a psychiatrist. Try not to take it too hard. It took me a long time to lower my expectations and not take it personally when family members or friends would question my ocd and anxiety--in their way, it's out of love, they're trying to tell you that they have faith that you can pull yourself through it without doctors. But for me, for a long time, I felt they felt i was a failure, weak, or flawed in some way for not being able to snap out of it. I internalized that and felt that way about myself. It's poison and you don't need it.
I have a lifelong friend, a great guy, like a brother. I'd do anything for him, and he for me. But to this day, he doesn't believe in most psychology, saying it is a copout to personal accountability and weakness. I buy him books to read about ocd, he does, and says it's trash. What can you do? His arguments, underneath, are from deep friendship and support: he wants me to get better, he wants me to believe in myself, he's a good friend. But he's not a psychiatrist, and more importantly, he's not me. And likewise, I'm not him--he's just as entitled to his opinions as I am.
Went off on a little tangent there, but the point here is to tell people how their views may make you feel, and that's really all you can do. And that people understanding is a good thing but not a requirement for recovery.
I'm sure everyone on this site has encountered this is one way or another. Hopefully your husband will come around.
tt
Posted by woolav on April 29, 2005, at 20:30:34
In reply to Re: my husband doesnt bp2 is an illness, posted by tom_traubert on April 29, 2005, at 19:29:48
Thanks. I think you are right. I just wish there was this magic way of making ppl see/feel the way you do so they can understand. But I guess I understand what you are saying. I know its hard for others to see what they cant see, if you know what I mean.
Take care,
S
Posted by Phillipa on April 29, 2005, at 20:51:06
In reply to Re: my husband doesnt bp2 is an illness-tom, posted by woolav on April 29, 2005, at 20:30:34
Have you asked him to read other posters experiences with BP2? If he won't then yes, let your pdoc or therapost talk to him. It certainly can't hurt. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by smith562 on April 30, 2005, at 5:47:07
In reply to my husband doesnt bp2 is an illness, posted by woolav on April 29, 2005, at 17:54:31
Hey Woolav,
Sorry to hear you going through such difficult times. It is hard for others to understand mood disorders. In fact, I didn't understand my brothers and fathers bipolar II until I got sick years later.
Maybe you could show him the website www.psycheducation.org. Dr Phelps states that 90% of visitors on the website are families looking for information.
Smith
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