Posted by KimberlyDi on January 23, 2004, at 17:05:07
In reply to Help dealing with my husbands depression, posted by jcsierra on January 21, 2004, at 14:27:26
Probably your husband is blind to many things that are occuring. Depression is a selfish disease, as another poster mentioned not too long ago. It sucks up all a persons resources. He's probably wishing everyone would just be quiet and leave him alone.
It is bad for you and the children. I have/had a similar problem. When my husband doesn't take his anti-depressant and high blood pressure medication, he becomes a monster. After he explodes, he really doesn't understand why the rage overtakes him. He doesn't want to drive me away. I demanded marriage counseling, which he didn't agree to until I wasn't giving him any more chances. It took an impartial person (the counselor) to help him realize how he was treating me and the kids. It also took the counselor for me to learn that he lives with fears too. You know, big strong men don't ever admit to having fears.
It sounds like his medication mix isn't working well, if he's taking anything at all. You are already being supportive by reaching psychobabble and asking for help.
Above all, remember that marriage is a partnership. He needs to be supportive of you TOO.
There is hope. :) KDi in TX
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