Posted by rayww on February 18, 2003, at 12:31:20
In reply to sexual compulsives, posted by seemsnormal on February 18, 2003, at 9:30:56
It is hard to have strong values in a world that is so confused on the issues.
It is hard to have strong values when mood disorders affect our desires.
It's hard to have strong values when another person is being more kind to you than your partner.
However, the only way to help yourself is to help yourself. A pill won't correct an addiction that was fostered in a mood disorder. Action is more difficult to reverse than thought.
Writing helps. Avoidance of the person helps. Every time you resist just a little bit, it strengthens your resolve to resist the next time. Every time you succumb it decreases your ability to resist. The sooner you correct your behavior the easier it will be, but no matter what, it will not be easy. The easiest course through life is the one prescribed by the LDS church and its word of wisdom. You don't have to be a member to live by the values. I have been an active member all my life, and still have problems, but have managed to keep myself above the fall by clinging to obedience and to my values. Being close to God gives you additional power of protection.There is a balance beam called the "line" that divides right from wrong. As long as we don't climb up onto the line we will never fall over to the other side. So, if you can stay away from the line, and avoid the temptation to do the line dance, you will be safe. We often choose to dance the line. Unless you are really good at tight-rope dancing, it is not a safe place to play.
Avoid flirting. If you are falling, write a story. Express your fantasies in your story, there are no rules in the writing. You can create anything you want, and work it out to be the right ending too. Re-direct your desire toward something productive like writing or reading, or coming here for support. I don't know if this is the kind of support you are asking for, but it's all I have to offer. Good luck.
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