Posted by sid on May 2, 2002, at 18:51:47
In reply to Boyfriend seems to be psychotic.. how to help??, posted by Lateralis on May 2, 2002, at 14:42:44
I must agree with Carly.
Over time I've learned that first you must take care of yourself, then you can choose to help take care of others, but unless they are children or mentally handicapped people, they must be their "primary care takers."
It sounds like you're in a relationship that's way too complicated to continue it as a romantic endeavour. He needs to be taken care of by professsionals first and foremost, not by someone who's in love with him. If you stick by him, please make sure you don't become his caretaker; that's not what love is, if you include yourself in your definition of love. You can't do it all. What do you get out of this relationship? What good does he do you? In what ways does he take care of you? You need to give but also receive, else you will find yourself emptied out at some point.
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