Posted by Jacki on November 24, 2000, at 15:14:29
In reply to Re: Janice!, posted by Doug Anderson on November 23, 2000, at 5:33:04
> I am lost. The lady that I love suffers from PMDD. The thing is that she won't go for help. Maybe she thinks that there is some other problem. You seem to have this too. I have stood by her for a year and have tried to show her as much information as I can just to get her to a doctor. She has suffered long enough. This has plagued her for 30 years. How do I approach this? She tries things for a while but then gets down and gives up on herself. Then she gives up on me because she does not want to hurt me. She knows she has a problem. She then comes back and asks forgiveness. If I did not love her so much I would not have lasted this long. Who said women are the weaker sex...ha! What an idiot. If men had to deal with these emotional storms we would be institutionalized in a heartbeat. I am physically and emotionally drained. I keep reading and learning more. There really is so little written about this subject and yet it afflicts millions of women. I guess that is because men control the research to to the most part. I will continue to try to help the one I love but any help from you would be greatly appreciated. She is my soul mate and I won't give up until I have a solution. I know this just does not go away completely even with tratment. It will continue to take patience and love on my part even when the storms subside. Well thanx in advance.
> DougHello Doug, couldn't help but respond to your note, here. I have been reading back pretty far... just wondering, has your Lady friend tried antidepressants in any form? I think you mentioned seeking help that is not medication like that, and I truly understand that. I must share, though, that I suffered so long, spent a lot of money and energy trying to fix myself with diet, herbs, vitamins and excercise - all of which are good, I must add - but finally caved in and tried antidepressants 1 yr ago. I have been on Celexa (an SSRI) for a full year and I honestly urge anyone who is resisting that route to consider it. (This note is for Scott, too!) There is a link in women who suffer with PMDD and hormonal imbalances with seretonin levels (that is, they are markedly low). I NEVER wanted to use any kind of drug and I am glad I was desperate enough to surrender. I have been taking a HALF dose of what was prescribed to me to be conservative in my approach. Almost immediately I felt something "click" into place and it has helped me greatly over the past year to move from debilitating PMDD to a functioning existence. I am now (last month and presently) experiencing more difficulty with my PMDD and emotional/physical symptoms, so I'm on line here doing more research. Perhaps a switch or increase is needed. I plan to see my doctor for an update and tune up. Still, it is nothing like it was one year ago. PLEASE consider antidepressants as a valuable medical tool in correcting an imabalance. If she were diabetic wouldn't she take insulin? Also, just a note for you... I am very impressed at your devotion and compassion with your loved one. I must tell you, that like any serious condition (ie:alcoholism, etc.) we must desire help for ourselves when we are miserable enough. Don't lose yourself trying to help someone else if she is not willing. It's hard, but nec. for her to seek help herself. That's all for now!! - God Bless, Jackie
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