Posted by allisonm on August 16, 2000, at 17:05:05
In reply to Re: Problems with Alcohol , posted by Lisa Simpson on August 16, 2000, at 10:35:52
Lisa,
You are not a failure. It takes many tries to stop. Please don't be so hard on yourself. It doesn't do you any good.
I understand your need not to tell your husband, but he should be in this fight with you. He should know that you're trying to stop. He should be helping you to stay sober. That means doing things with you that do not include alcohol. You will need his support in all of this. My mother had a sweetheart for a time who considered her alcoholism her problem. He continued to drink around her. He thought it was unnecessary to go to meetings with her, or even to the family week at the rehab center, which teaches family members about alcohol addiction and how to help yourself and your alcohol-addicted loved one.
I hope you will reconsider. Can't he understand how important this is to you? Can't he respect you enough not to go around talking about this as you wish? Without his direct support, you are greatly increasing your chances for failure, IMHO.
Best wishes,
allison
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