Posted by allisonm on July 1, 2002, at 22:20:44
In reply to I've often thought of a lobotomy..., posted by Phil on July 1, 2002, at 21:17:15
Creg, Shar and Phil,
Thanks for the encouraging words. You all are sweeties.
I got his stuff back to him this morning without having to see him.
Were were suupposed to meet in person, yesterday, but he called about 45 min. before the meeting and claimed that he'd hurt his back and his wheel bearings on his car sounded bad, so didn't want to drive. He wanted to postpose the meeting for another week. I said no and had him leave my stuff in his garage. I went there while he was at work and got my stuff and left his.Basically what he's done is changed the rules of the game.
We'd both agreed were weren't looking for a longterm relationship. Somewhere along the line he decided that he need longterm and I didn't fit that bill. He has always had this fear of death and dying. His dog is very old and declining, so it seems he's obsessing about the time he has left and doesn't want to waste any more time w/o life partner. Gee, someone more messed up than I am!!Trouble is, he couldn't tell me this. I had to call him on it. So after he admitted this, I asked him how long would this situation have continued had I not brought up the subject. He didn't know. Asked why he hadn't told me, he said he didn't want to hurt me and he is afraid of being alone.
Cats make great companions. I highly recommend them.
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