Posted by Bob on September 12, 1999, at 11:33:08
In reply to Re: Rating scales (where's that missing 0?!), posted by JohnL on September 12, 1999, at 8:04:06
Janice -- yeah, I guess you're right about that. I keep trying to kill off any sense of hope because, when it creeps back in, something always seems to happen to sabotage it. The disappointment and despair are too much to take. I really wish that I could stop hoping completely -- then, maybe, I could focus on actions and goals.
JohnL -- glad you like it =^). Me, with my training in psych, I have to resort to all sorts of individual difference constructs, but your list of lifetasks is probably better for a lot of people.
As for finding "the spot" through serendipity, I think that you're right -- that one way of knowing it is recognizing it's already where you're at after you've arrived. Noticing you're smiling, that you're looking at the sky instead of your feet, for no particular reason. I wish I could relax into accepting that. I was pushed so hard academically by peers, teachers, and advisors (of course, my parents had little to say ;^) that its hard not to look for a target to shoot at.
Looks like I need to reread (again) the Tao Te Ching and study up on the virtue of not-striving (which is an oxymoron in itself!)
Cheers,
Bob
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