Posted by thewife on August 18, 1999, at 6:56:39
In reply to Re: mood disorders and the new anticonvulsants, posted by thewife on July 24, 1999, at 21:33:43
We have hit bottom.
I posted on here that my husband needed help. This week I found out about a "secret life" I knew nothing about. An affair, and a real obsession with pornography.
I recognize this as a variant of mania, since this behavior is ssoooooo untypical.I need to get over the anger, because he never confided in me or his half dozen mental health professionals over the past few years.
What can I do now? I have kicked him out of the house, and got him into partial hospitalization, but I don't know how much to help, since it's obvious that all my well-intentioned "helping" have caused him to not face things. He still acts like Bill Clinton when I talk about the affair and internet porno adventures.
Can anyone give me some advice? How much do I blame him, how much do I blame the disease? He was on 1000 mgs of depakote at the time, as well as Dexedrine and Prozac.
--ginny
I am trying to help my husband because I understand psychopharm rather well.
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> He's a mood disorder nos/ADHD kind of guy, which means lots of irritability and no frustration tolerance, as well as energy levels that come and go, like gearing up when just sitting and talking. No off the wall mania. He's not a real garden variety bipolar I, I am suspecting a mixed state bipolar. Also history of grand mal seizures in high school, none for 30 years.
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> Depakote, Prozac, desiprimine, remeron and wellbutrin haven't done much, some of the ADHD responds to Dexedrine.
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> Next move is a better mood stabilizer. Doc wants to try Neurontin, but I am leaning toward Lamactil because of the antidepressant effects. Doc is scared of the rash phenomena. I like the anti-depressant effects.
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> Please forward any advice you might have. He took one of my son's risperdals this week in an effort to calm himself, a dumb move since it made him very tired and he fell asleep in a parking lot, fortunately after calling me.... and he lost a realllllllly good job last year.
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> While we're at it, any anecdotal advice yet on Topamax or tiagibine? The doc says Topamax makes you stupid, whatever that means.....
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> Thanks.....
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> Klonogirl:
> > > I have severe anxiety but not necessarily panic attacks. I was put on Klonopin 2 weeks ago, but he wants me off of if cuz of the risk of becoming dependent. He is having me take neurontin with Klonopin right now and trying to wean me off the Klonopin. Do you think the neurontin will work alone? I'm scared cuz the Klonopin has been great although I am already building a tolerance to it. Chrissy
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> > Chrissy.......
> > Neurotin was never offered to me. I have no idea how it works. I sure would NOT go on Klonopin. Yes it is addictive and yes it does work.....but the side effects are pretty major.
> > Check it out with your Doctor.
> > Good Luck....Klonogirl
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