Posted by Racer on August 13, 1999, at 1:19:42
In reply to Re: Stunned....., posted by gail on August 12, 1999, at 23:43:22
How awful for you. At least this place allows you to tell someone, and get some feedback.
For several years now, I haven't expected anything on my birthday from anyone, and that's about what I've gotten. Gee, at least it was the right size. It is horrible, though. I feel so wretched, especially since I try to do something for my friends and family on theirs. That's the way the world is some days.
Remember though that sometimes we fail to see what we do get in life. Maybe there's another present from the world that you missed? Maybe the present is just that no one gave you an expensive and hideous THINGIE that you feel obligated to keep?
(Here's a little story to show what I really am trying to say: a friend and I were talking one day, both complaining that we didn't feel loved by our families when we were growing up, and so don't feel loved as adults. My friend said that she only wanted to be loved unconditionally by one person in this world, and then she'd be happy. My epiphany, which I shared with her? I love her unconditionally. That part is totally true, even when I haven't approved of something she's doing, or don't agree with a decision she's made, I still love her without qualifications. I'm fortunate to have a friend I feel that way about, and more so because I have four friends of that sort. Well, she said that that "wasn't what she meant", but also said that it was in a way, just not the way she wanted to see it. Does that make sense? She really had what she thought she wanted, but she had always pictured it coming in the form of a sexual relationship. Since ours isn't, she didn't recognise it as wish fulfillment.)
Enough. Sorry to go on so long.
Hippo birdie! And many more to you, happier than this one.
poster:Racer
thread:9979
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