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Re: I exasperate my T (and then some rambling)

Posted by DaisyM on April 1, 2004, at 20:58:36

In reply to I exasperate my T (and then some rambling), posted by crushedout on April 1, 2004, at 19:16:59

I'm so sorry Crushed, you sound so sad. I think the planets are lined up against all of us these days.

I totally understand the desire to cuddle. Can i tell you something my Therapist told me today? We were talking about magic phrases and how I so desperately wanted him to rescue me from this pain and say the right thing that would help me pull myself back together. He offered an interpretation of my request for the phrase: he said "I think what you really want/need is not help pulling yourself together but rather something to soothe and comfort you. You are so use to doing that for yourself that it really feels awful to not be able to. And asking for words from me is a safe request but I don't think there are words that will soothe right now. It is more primitive than that." We went on to talk about soothing things and how when we touch on those really needy places that physical comfort (cuddling) is the yearning that is unleashed.

So it sounds to me like this is a need that comes up commonly in therapy, and you shouldn't be embarrassed about it. Is there anyone else you can cuddle with? A friend, child, dog? Holding and being held is an OK thing to want. Even from your Therapist.

Be kind to yourself.




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