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Posted by rjlockhart37 on July 31, 2013, at 22:44:51
i was watching a show just a couple of mintues ago...they had a guy sitting down with a young guy, and that heart to heart people sometimes tell young people to talk about there problems, mainly teenagers with problems. And looking back, i really went through a horrible period of both people not understanding me, i had no one, my brother once and a while would do it with me, but it wasnt real, if people did care they would stick with the person, i've also had people tell me if i needed to talk about issues, they leave, disregard anything they said about caring or support, so thats why mainly i've become the person i am today, learn how do it one my own, and right now, not much to boast about, other than going back to skool in the fall, and considering doing martial arts......leave my past behind...like a file, the pages are put away, outdated....that's why im encouraging don't let the past stay with the present....
childhood memories, my worst memory... is being the target for people to make fun and i would always have to run to one of the hotshots girlfriend to tell them to be nice to me. That is WORST memory ever, i still feel that moment when im deflated....i still feel that terrible feeling when im in a social event of people who are loud, have to act like im one of them....
but still that makes me want to help other young people iwth problems, eve though i still am holding on to bad memories of rejection, im still alive....so thats all that counts...and that can make more able to understand in similar situations, and give advice and support...
thanks for reading
Posted by SLS on August 1, 2013, at 1:35:43
In reply to lost years, posted by rjlockhart37 on July 31, 2013, at 22:44:51
> i was watching a show just a couple of mintues ago...they had a guy sitting down with a young guy, and that heart to heart people sometimes tell young people to talk about there problems, mainly teenagers with problems. And looking back, i really went through a horrible period of both people not understanding me, i had no one, my brother once and a while would do it with me, but it wasnt real, if people did care they would stick with the person, i've also had people tell me if i needed to talk about issues, they leave, disregard anything they said about caring or support, so thats why mainly i've become the person i am today, learn how do it one my own, and right now, not much to boast about, other than going back to skool in the fall, and considering doing martial arts......leave my past behind...like a file, the pages are put away, outdated....that's why im encouraging don't let the past stay with the present....
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> childhood memories, my worst memory... is being the target for people to make fun and i would always have to run to one of the hotshots girlfriend to tell them to be nice to me. That is WORST memory ever, i still feel that moment when im deflated....i still feel that terrible feeling when im in a social event of people who are loud, have to act like im one of them....
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> but still that makes me want to help other young people iwth problems, eve though i still am holding on to bad memories of rejection, im still alive....so thats all that counts...and that can make more able to understand in similar situations, and give advice and support...
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> thanks for readingThe past is often a good source of lessons to be learned for living a better life in the present and moving forward into the future. You are doing a good job with this. I am going through something similar to what you describe, but I need more time to understand my past as it relates to my present before I can create a healthier future. For now, I am rather stuck, and I find myself haunted by my past. I am only now beginning to recognize the magnitude of loss. This is occurring because I am feeling better and have more cognitive resources with which to understand things. However, my thoughts are of a catastrophic nature, and my frame of reference is cosmic. It is somewhat existential. I work hard to avoid allowing derealization to emerge. For now, I am less resistant to thoughts of suicide. There is much for me to process psychologically and emotionally. I could probably use some counseling to help me with this. If money were not an issue, I would seek out a psychotherapist now rather than later.
- Scott
Posted by sigismund on August 1, 2013, at 20:22:50
In reply to Re: lost years » rjlockhart37, posted by SLS on August 1, 2013, at 1:35:43
>However, my thoughts are of a catastrophic nature, and my frame of reference is cosmic.
I am familiar with this and understand. Perhaps.
>It is somewhat existential. I work hard to avoid allowing derealization to emerge.
Never had much success myself controlling that.
>For now, I am less resistant to thoughts of suicide.
I am sorry, Scott.
I like that Amerindian saying 'Today is a good day to die', not in the sense that I need to die today, but that since I must die, and today is so beautiful, it might suit.
I never had any success resisting thoughts of suicide, but there's thoughts and thoughts with that.
Posted by SLS on August 1, 2013, at 20:26:39
In reply to Re: lost years » SLS, posted by sigismund on August 1, 2013, at 20:22:50
> >However, my thoughts are of a catastrophic nature, and my frame of reference is cosmic.
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> I am familiar with this and understand. Perhaps.
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> >It is somewhat existential. I work hard to avoid allowing derealization to emerge.
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> Never had much success myself controlling that.
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> >For now, I am less resistant to thoughts of suicide.
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> I am sorry, Scott.
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> I like that Amerindian saying 'Today is a good day to die', not in the sense that I need to die today, but that since I must die, and today is so beautiful, it might suit.
> I never had any success resisting thoughts of suicide, but there's thoughts and thoughts with that.Thanks, Sig.
It is nice to be understood.
- Scott
Posted by sigismund on August 1, 2013, at 20:27:36
In reply to lost years, posted by rjlockhart37 on July 31, 2013, at 22:44:51
>but still that makes me want to help other young people iwth problems,
Sounds like a good idea Matt, certainly a motivation on the right track.
Posted by alexandra_k on August 1, 2013, at 23:38:00
In reply to Re: lost years » rjlockhart37, posted by sigismund on August 1, 2013, at 20:27:36
i never felt like i had anyone to talk to, either. that was really hard. i'm glad you are here.
Posted by sigismund on August 2, 2013, at 17:25:38
In reply to Re: lost years » rjlockhart37, posted by SLS on August 1, 2013, at 1:35:43
> my thoughts are of a catastrophic nature, and my frame of reference is cosmic. It is somewhat existential.
Once going into a Buddhist lecture thing I turned to my friend and said 'The reason I read history is to collect evidence against them', a joke with some truth in it.
I started with the Holocaust and read backward, leaping the period between the 30 Years War and the French Revolution. Almost 20 years and a room full of books. I really don't know what to say about that. Most people feel that history is depressing.
Posted by rjlockhart37 on August 2, 2013, at 19:10:53
In reply to Re: lost years » rjlockhart37, posted by SLS on August 1, 2013, at 1:35:43
i do understand, the way I do thins rihtnow, is like the past I let all the past paper that are in a file, just fly away and start new....but that's my flaw because what I do is leave connections I had in the past, and cut them off....people I knew, that I was friends with them, but it didn't quite workout, so I just let the memory go.....don't talk to them, but that is a flaw, in my view....its hard to describe what, but how I think to improve is to redo the belief system, also like sometimes in the bible I refers t a sound "mind" and letting the lord well...in the new testament it states Jesus Christ as that, but its same entity as God in biblical refernces, but there has been couple times i left my problems to god or jesus christ, and nothing happened, nothing....it really destroyed my faith, some people would curse at him, but it is the truth....and starting over again in faith, is a good way...well for me in what happened, believing so hard that something would happen and nothing....what i've done is just start over again....but let me get back to what where talking about.....
in psychologically thinking, order to the thoughts, and not losing, or derailment of thought....if you think about the same thing over again, someone said its insanity....but i disagree with that belief somewhat, because you can try over again until you get it right,....but its not totally proven fact. But, letting go of the past, does help some but you have to have the past because its how it shapes people, all these books i've read where they just said "let it go" i don't agree with that totally...because working with the past into the present, is important...then know how to plan for the future....from recorded stuff of failure....and not to repeat it again, all this is so indpeth psychoanaylsis it would be too long to write....but thats kinda my quick version of my view....
im not a guru, a buddist munk who sits on mountain and gives holy incense to his clients for proserpity....or charge 24.99 for a book to read....and fill it with sugar coated flattery...lol and im not a in a position to give adnice because of my social status and success...no im just still at home and slowly planning my life out....
but i hope some of these thoughts are helpful....
r
Posted by rjlockhart37 on August 3, 2013, at 0:07:12
In reply to Re: lost years » rjlockhart37, posted by SLS on August 1, 2013, at 1:35:43
but to be quick, a random good thing to know, is that the past is something that made you who you are....and the pain of it can change....redo the wiring of the emotions.....and you have to know that who you are right now is the current, don't let regret get in the way, like a boat that went through storms, and got it off course....
i'll be back tommrow, discuss more if oyu want
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