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Posted by adelaide curtis on January 9, 2010, at 12:48:26
a member of this site posted about a google group on administration..as an alternative to babble..i asked her about it..only to be told i was "not" invited..
i feel very hurt and rejected that she feels i am not good enough for this group..am i being over sensative?
anyone else get rejected ?
Posted by manic666 on January 9, 2010, at 13:38:44
In reply to hurt, posted by adelaide curtis on January 9, 2010, at 12:48:26
who ever could that be?????????????
Posted by muffled on January 9, 2010, at 15:14:57
In reply to hurt, posted by adelaide curtis on January 9, 2010, at 12:48:26
We did have a thread where we discussed options to babble, and some said they would prefer a closed group.
I did not wish such a thing, my concern was just what has occured...
I would like a group open to anyone cuz I think thats best.
But in fairness, I don't really have a huge problem if someone chooses to have a closed group, that is their perogative. However, I think they lose out if they start getting too choosy, but again, their choice.
If you are not invited to their group, then consider it their loss. They don't get to have you in their group.
I think some have been invited, but have declined cuz a closed group is not what they want. Even the process of yea or nay for new members is fraught w/peril methinks.
So yup, it open or nothing for me.
Anyboddy know of a good open group, let me know.
I just don't have the time ATM to set one up. It would be a learning curve for me that would take time that I just don't have. Cost to have server space and for programs is really not too bad actually.
Its just time....as I would not attempt to set up a board unless I had the time to manage it properly.
Maybe one day...
I think groups thru google etc are quite limiting. I would set up my own privately thru a server co.
There are things like wordpress too. That might be simpler in some ways...
Anyhow, I have the will, the ability, just not the time :( to research and manage.
Meantime I have another place that I post at, it was slow but has picked up quite a bit, the people are really kind and careful there. Its got lotsa boards to choose from, it was originally aimed at wounded healers but now seems to be open to anyone.
Its finable by googling.
Well, I shall say no more.
Just really hate to see hurt feelings.
There's lotsa places out there, good places, keep looking!
Take care,
M
Posted by adelaide curtis on January 9, 2010, at 15:51:08
In reply to Re: hurt, posted by muffled on January 9, 2010, at 15:14:57
thank you for responding...
I find it really hard to deal with the feelings of rejection.
who is anyone to judge my character..
they can have their closed room ..i just dont understand why she reached out to the board for members only to tell me i was not welcome..
Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on January 9, 2010, at 19:58:40
In reply to hurt, posted by adelaide curtis on January 9, 2010, at 12:48:26
believe me, if your welcomed here at the last where here for you. I got pretty hurt when I can't be a part of my brother's life because at that time i'm considered some reject and alway's the gossip talk of no good. I survived that...I just am not "accepted" in his life or his wife and that's funny because they where mentor's to me, sometimes mentor does not mean "friend", kisses from an enemy are on the cheek, so it's good when your rebuked instead of stabbed the back about people who don't give a rat's about someone.
Anyway's besides all that crap, she said you whernt invited? at least she didnt ignore you, just ask her for what reasons? and ask her to elaborate
Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on January 9, 2010, at 20:01:42
In reply to Re: hurt, posted by rjlockhart04-08 on January 9, 2010, at 19:58:40
i'm sorry I am idiot I didnt read the follow up posts! ahh!
Just know
kisses from an enemy are on the cheek, so it's good when your rebuked instead of stabbed the back about people who don't give a rat's about someone.
Posted by Phillipa on January 9, 2010, at 21:01:15
In reply to Re: hurt » muffled, posted by adelaide curtis on January 9, 2010, at 15:51:08
Seriously at least you got an answer I was completly ignored. Phillipa
Posted by adelaide curtis on January 10, 2010, at 7:45:26
In reply to Re: hurt, posted by rjlockhart04-08 on January 9, 2010, at 19:58:40
I was going to ask why..but I allowed myself to react so destructively to this situation that i must walk away..i made a mistake :(
Posted by adelaide curtis on January 10, 2010, at 7:46:22
In reply to Re: hurt » adelaide curtis, posted by Phillipa on January 9, 2010, at 21:01:15
sorry to hear about that Phillipa :(
Posted by muffled on January 10, 2010, at 10:56:59
In reply to Re: hurt » muffled, posted by adelaide curtis on January 9, 2010, at 15:51:08
"who is anyone to judge my character."
:) This made me smile :)
Damn straight!
Good for you!
You gonna be just fine.
TGC
M
Posted by Phillipa on January 10, 2010, at 12:43:01
In reply to Re: hurt » Phillipa, posted by adelaide curtis on January 10, 2010, at 7:46:22
Maybe we could be friends again? I know what happened was my mistake. I apologize. Seriously maybe we all could help to get babble back on track? What do you think? Love Phillipa
Posted by Sigismund on January 10, 2010, at 13:32:39
In reply to Re: hurt » adelaide curtis, posted by Phillipa on January 10, 2010, at 12:43:01
The best position to be in is when you can say 'I wouldn't want to be a member of any club that would have me', and the opposite is much worse.
All I can recommend is a resigned and detached view of human relations.
Posted by gabbette on January 18, 2010, at 19:09:41
In reply to Re: hurt, posted by Sigismund on January 10, 2010, at 13:32:39
I would not ever belong to a group which is advertised publically but not open to everyone.
It's like handing out invitations to an event, at a dinner party right in front of the "undesired"
Posted by Phillipa on January 18, 2010, at 21:12:09
In reply to Re: hurt » Sigismund, posted by gabbette on January 18, 2010, at 19:09:41
See admin. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on January 24, 2010, at 9:42:26
In reply to Re: hurt » Sigismund, posted by gabbette on January 18, 2010, at 19:09:41
I remember that feeling. Ouch.
Posted by Gabbette on February 10, 2010, at 22:04:15
In reply to Re: hurt » gabbette, posted by Dinah on January 24, 2010, at 9:42:26
Oh yeah, and I think however it may appear we're already vulnerable enough on babble.
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