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Posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 17:46:23
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Posted by zenhussy on December 13, 2008, at 17:51:15
In reply to Ostracism on social networking sites hurts, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 17:46:23
Posted by fayeroe on December 14, 2008, at 8:48:16
In reply to Ostracism on social networking sites hurts, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 17:46:23
It does hurt. Alot. I've felt it over the years and ir hurts the hell out of me. Especially, if I've grown to feel that I can be accepted and loved.
I was more than bothered with all of the hell that was raised last week over HF..after the fact..Letting someone hurt that long without having a private chat or making more effort to help her is also a form of very painful ostracicsm....sorta takes the support out of "support forum" for one, doesn' it>
But I look at it the same way that I look at a person who tries to disrespect me with words.
At work, some people will become upset if a student tries to "have their way" with me verbally. I look at it like this, PC...as much as they think that they are disrespecting me...huh uh..they disrespect themselves more.Anyone who practices the skills of ostracisms on social networking sites already had a problem (themselves) before me..but they ain't gonna become my problem. People like that aren't worth the time it takes a frog to sneeze!(New Central Texas saying..1 minute old)
I love you oodles and oddles and unconditionally and with sugar on it and a spot of tea and sour cream cookes by a creek kind of love. Pat
Posted by Phillipa on December 14, 2008, at 13:30:28
In reply to Ostracism on social networking sites hurts, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 17:46:23
Yup
Posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 12:07:13
In reply to Ostracism on social networking sites hurts, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 17:46:23
I'm not sure what's being referred to PC, but I certainly hope you weren't ostracized.
(((((((((((((((((((you))))))))))))))))))))))))
luv ya bunches, Kath
Posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 12:08:48
In reply to Ostracism on social networking sites hurts, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 17:46:23
PS - does ostracized mean the same as ignored in this context?
K
Posted by Partlycloudy on December 15, 2008, at 12:31:54
In reply to Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized, posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 12:08:48
> PS - does ostracized mean the same as ignored in this context?
>
> KNo, it means excluded. But I disengaged myself from the network in question, so it won't bother me any more.
Just as I intend to suspend posting here before I get blocked.
Be back soon.pc
Posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 14:12:18
In reply to Re: Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized » Kath, posted by Partlycloudy on December 15, 2008, at 12:31:54
> Be back soon.~ ~ That's the part I like hearing!
I'm sorry PC. Glad you're taking care of yourself.
I send my love, Kath xoxo
Posted by fayeroe on December 15, 2008, at 14:20:20
In reply to Re: Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized » Partlycloudy, posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 14:12:18
Thank you , Kath. I like hugs!
Posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 14:24:09
In reply to Re: Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized, posted by fayeroe on December 15, 2008, at 14:20:20
> Thank you , Kath. I like hugs!
You're welcome.
I guess I did feel ostracized myself. Or more just sad.
Way back when I had returned after years, it was before the Toronto get-together & I offered to help out, as I lived near Toronto. I didn't "know" anyone on PB any more & nobody answered my offer. :-(
I am so sad now that I know so many of you nicies.
I could have met you!! (those who came).
oh well.
(((((((((((((((you)))))))))))))))))
:-) Kath
Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 15, 2008, at 16:11:02
In reply to Re: Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized » Kath, posted by Partlycloudy on December 15, 2008, at 12:31:54
((((((((((((((((((PC))))))))))))))))))))
I'm so sorry about the ostracism stuff. Being ignored is painful, but the active collective disinterested malice of ostracism can be excruciating.
Enough big words. I'm sorry that you're hurting.
Take frequent breaks and deep breaths when indicated. Please disengage if things get too intense. I don't want you to get burned :(
adhesively,
-Ll
Posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 20:35:52
In reply to Re: Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized » Partlycloudy, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 15, 2008, at 16:11:02
Llurpsie - I just have to ask - the adhesive doesn't come from anywhere near your nose, does it?
Kath
PS - couldn't help being silly, however I am also very sorry that PC is hurting. She, of all people, doesn't deserve to hurt.
xo Kath
Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 16, 2008, at 7:04:28
In reply to Re: Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized » llurpsienoodle, posted by Kath on December 15, 2008, at 20:35:52
> Llurpsie - I just have to ask - the adhesive doesn't come from anywhere near your nose, does it?
>
> Kath
>
> PS - couldn't help being silly, however I am also very sorry that PC is hurting. She, of all people, doesn't deserve to hurt.
>
> xo KathKath, you are a funny one :)
you make me smile!PC and I have a tradition of "sticky hugs". Those are the hugs that feel close, but not smothering. Warm, and sincere, without being threatening. She's a very good hugger.
so, the adhesive comes from her emotional core, I believe. If I imagine a scenario in which one of us is crying and all messy-faced, I suppose the adhesive might be somewhat ... nasal...
((((((PC)))))) I'm sorry she's hurting too
I like your curiosity :)
-Ll
Posted by Kath on December 16, 2008, at 10:39:44
In reply to Re: Hugs for anyone who has ever felt ostracized » Kath, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 16, 2008, at 7:04:28
And that doesn't surprise me because you're both special people.
:-)))) Kath
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 16, 2008, at 13:41:59
In reply to Ostracism on social networking sites hurts, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 17:46:23
PC....sorry you are feeling bad and ostracized. That is the story of my life, actually...heh. Take good, good care, okay?
Jay :)
Posted by Partlycloudy on December 16, 2008, at 14:06:36
In reply to Re: Ostracism on social networking sites hurts » Partlycloudy, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 16, 2008, at 13:41:59
I disengaged from the few places where unpleasant (for me) paths had crossed and sent cursory emails explaining what had happened. Folks were more than gracious and understanding.
Much better now, but this is a messy business, this 21st century stuff.
Many thanks for the hugs of all varieties - I'm happy to have them all :-)
pc
Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 16, 2008, at 14:18:27
In reply to I think I got the mechanics fixed, posted by Partlycloudy on December 16, 2008, at 14:06:36
Oh good,
I'm glad that you're taking control over the Borg. Don't get sucked into the 6 degrees of separation internet madness thing.happy tuesday,
-Ll
Posted by Partlycloudy on December 16, 2008, at 14:20:08
In reply to Re: I think I got the mechanics fixed » Partlycloudy, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 16, 2008, at 14:18:27
> Oh good,
> I'm glad that you're taking control over the Borg. Don't get sucked into the 6 degrees of separation internet madness thing.
>
> happy tuesday,
> -Ll
Oh, no! It's all I can do to manage my Flair :-)
Posted by TexasChic on December 18, 2008, at 1:02:44
In reply to I think I got the mechanics fixed, posted by Partlycloudy on December 16, 2008, at 14:06:36
I'm sorry I didn't offer my own hugs before now. I know we don't chat much these days (my fault I know), but you are still one of my all time favorite people. I've been keeping up with some of your posts and thinking about you and wanting to offer you comfort. If only my thoughts could be transmitted directly to the person I'm thinking of!
-T
Posted by Kath on December 18, 2008, at 11:38:33
In reply to Re: I think I got the mechanics fixed » Partlycloudy, posted by TexasChic on December 18, 2008, at 1:02:44
>I've been keeping up with some of your posts and thinking about you and wanting to offer you comfort If only my thoughts could be transmitted directly to the person I'm thinking of!
>
> -T~ ~ Makes me think of me saying to a friend, "if you had a sheet of paper for every time I think of you, you'd have enough to wallpaper your whole house".
:-) Kath
Posted by Partlycloudy on December 18, 2008, at 16:39:01
In reply to Re: I think I got the mechanics fixed » Partlycloudy, posted by TexasChic on December 18, 2008, at 1:02:44
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