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Posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 14:38:39
In reply to There is a place for coworkers who say this » texaschic, posted by ClearSkies on August 9, 2007, at 14:14:43
Thanks CS. My weight has just always been a sore spot for me - even when I wasn't actually overweight. But I know I am now. Meds have contributed, but so has laziness and over eating.
It sounds simple to just eat less and exercise more, but I just don't seem to have the strength for it. Although today I did go walking with a co-worker who walks for 30 minutes at lunch. Maybe having a partner will help.
-T
Posted by Damos on August 9, 2007, at 17:27:28
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
That I can still remember the looks on peoples faces when we were on our 'date'.
All the girls green with eny wishing they looked as good as you, and filthy that all the boys heads turned and that their eyes were admiringly on you as you walked by.
All the guys giving me those "You lucky bastard" looks, wondering how someone like me could be out with someone like YOU!
For days afterward I was pestered by guys wanting to know who the "stunningly beautiful" young woman was that they'd seen me with =0)
And anyways, no amount of dieting and gym work will ever get her your eyes or your smile, or a heart and a soul like yours.
Take care TC
Damos
Posted by TexasChic on August 9, 2007, at 17:38:04
In reply to Ooi! I'll have you know.... » texaschic, posted by Damos on August 9, 2007, at 17:27:28
Oh Damos, I think that's the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me. You really know how say things. Thanks for making me feel better.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on August 9, 2007, at 22:28:33
In reply to Re: Ooi! I'll have you know.... » Damos, posted by TexasChic on August 9, 2007, at 17:38:04
T I've seen your pics too and you are extremely pretty. I bet she's jelous of you. Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on August 10, 2007, at 8:28:55
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
I think you are very, very cute and should I dare say...haawwtttt, TC! I easily know lots of guys and friends who'd agree. :-)
Don't listen to these other women. People criticize usually because THEY are very insecure about the issue in regards to themselves. Tell 'em to go f' off. :)Mr. Diplomacy
Jay :)p.s. If a guy made a comment like this woman, it would easily be sexual harassment.(At least according to our Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Canadians are kinda picky about these things.) See if you can sue her, or make her pay dearly. (Oh, in a nice way, of course. :)
Posted by ClearSkies on August 10, 2007, at 8:39:02
In reply to Re: If some co-workers had any brains.. » texaschic, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on August 10, 2007, at 8:28:55
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> p.s. If a guy made a comment like this woman, it would easily be sexual harassment.(At least according to our Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Canadians are kinda picky about these things.) See if you can sue her, or make her pay dearly. (Oh, in a nice way, of course. :)
>Jay, far more effective to get the person to make the coffee for eternity, IMO.
cs
Posted by Racer on August 10, 2007, at 13:44:25
In reply to Re: There is a place for coworkers who say this, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 14:38:39
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> It sounds simple to just eat less and exercise more, but I just don't seem to have the strength for it.Yeah, it does sound simple. Why don't you just do it?
OH YEAH! Because it doesn't work!
You know how some things sound so simple, but aren't? This is one of them. Weight is moderated by some very sophisticated systems in our bodies -- so much so, that no one really knows how it all works. What is known, though, is that "3500 calories in equals one pound, so 3500 calories out must equal one pound" does not work. Basically, when you try to lose weight, the first thing that happens for most people is that your metabolism slows down, because your body figures that you're in a famine, so it better conserve everything.
In fact, during my treatment, there was a period I started eating for real -- and lost weight. Even a lot of doctors wouldn't believe that I'd really been eating, but I was. It's just that my metabolism had kicked up again -- "Gee, there's food now, no more famine..."
Weight is a very complex issue. And you know that whole "x thousands of people die from obesity" thing? Not true. VERY few, if any, deaths are actually a result of obesity -- the statistics were skewed.
TC, I don't know you well, we don't interact, but you know what? Some of the most beautiful women I've ever known have been heavy. And many of them were not nearly as beautiful when they lost weight. There are many, many women I see who are even larger than I experience myself as being -- whom I envy for their gorgeous bodies. (One of those gorgeous women posts here, and was afraid of sending me a picture. She's stunning, and really oughta know that by now. She's also well loved, as she should be. And she dang well better know who she is!)
Your co-worker will never win the title Queen of Tact. And she may very well be jealous.
People say stupid things about weight. Hell, I had a woman stop me on the street to tell me I shouldn't go out looking like that, because I was just too thin, and really looked awful, so I needed to gain weight! Some stranger on the street! Maybe she meant well, maybe she thought she was "helping" somehow, that what she said would somehow cure my anorexia. Who knows.
Hell, my own aunt took it upon herself to tell me I was anorexic! Um... I'd figured that out?
Put it down to "some people's feet jsut dart into their mouths..." and let it go at that.
Oh, yeah -- and make her make coffee in that sludgy pot for eternity.
Posted by TexasChic on August 10, 2007, at 18:25:23
In reply to Re: There is a place for coworkers who say this » texaschic, posted by Racer on August 10, 2007, at 13:44:25
Thanks everyone, yall are too sweet. The thing about it is, this chic seemed to actually be trying to compliment me by saying that with my looks, if I lost weight I'd REALLY be gorgeous - which was what made me feel bad. Which doesn't really make any sense now that I think about it. Oh well, I'm over it now.
I was talking to my friend at work today (the one I walk with at lunch) and she said, "The only reason you don't have a boyfriend is because you never leave the house!" It made me laugh because I had just said something like that in an earlier post. I was like, "I know, I know." But you can't just walk out the door and start stopping people in the street saying, "So ya want to hang out?" I mean, I know there's things I could do to interact with people, but its hard to just start from scratch. But I'll figure it out. I'm okay for now.
Thanks for the support everyone! And thanks Jay for always saying I'm hot! :-)
-T
Posted by Gabbi-2 on August 13, 2007, at 0:01:32
In reply to Re: Ooi! I'll have you know.... » Damos, posted by TexasChic on August 9, 2007, at 17:38:04
. You really know how say things. Thanks for making me feel better.
>
> -TOy! He does doesn't he.
Listen up Damos, I hope you use that talent for good and not for evil :P
The only other man I know of who could say things that beautiful, without sounding syrupy or phony, ripped my little heart right out.
He may not have *sounded* phony but...
Well, you know the rest.
Posted by Phillipa on August 13, 2007, at 19:29:18
In reply to Re: There is a place for coworkers who say this, posted by TexasChic on August 10, 2007, at 18:25:23
T too bad you and Jay are so far away since you want a relationship? Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:27:20
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
Yikes - what a thing to say.
But the 'gorgeous' part is there, don't forget!!
Do you consider yourself VERY overweight? A few extra pounds, or even quite a few, don't make someone NOT gorgeous.
You must be pretty impressive, or she'd never have commented at all. Too bad she messed up!!
hugs, Kath
Posted by karen_kay on August 14, 2007, at 14:34:56
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
except that girl's an idiot!
want for me to beat her up? then you can tell her, 'you'd look really pretty if you didn't have a black eye!' (except it'd still be a lie, because with a personality like that, she can't be too pretty, now can she? then again, i've said some pretty stupid things in my life too though...)
i'd tell you you're gorgeous doll, but everyone's already said it. (and you are gorgeous! listen to damos, he seems to know what he's talking aobut!) and i've seen pics as well, so i know you're gorgeous.
but, you're also pretty darn precious putting up with your family, your car, and your daily ins and outs. frankly, i think you're the whole sheBANG!
tc, i think sometimes people have downright dumb moments. this was one of hers. you don't need to lose weight (unless it's something you want to do). you're beautiful just the way you are. i'm sorry her stupid moment happened to be at your expense. the offer's still open for the black eye though. i'm willing to have my stupid moment, jsut for you dear :)
take care gorgeous,
kk
Posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » texaschic, posted by Kath on August 14, 2007, at 13:27:20
Thanks Kath. I'm actually a recovering super-insanely-low-self-esteem-oholic, so I'm not very good at accessing my own looks. But I gotten much better at avoiding the negative self talk as much as possible. I'm actually pretty embarrassed that I posted this so I could get all these assurances that I'm "pretty". I mean, how lame is that?
Thanks for supporting me no matter how superficial and silly I'm being. That goes for everyone!
-T
Posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 21:14:19
In reply to i don't even know what to say! » texaschic, posted by karen_kay on August 14, 2007, at 14:34:56
Thanks KK! You always manage to make me laugh! I'm afraid I'm too much of a pacifist to have you blacken her eye, but I VERY much appreciate the gesture! Love ya, you sexy thing you!
-T
Posted by Kath on August 15, 2007, at 14:52:18
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » Kath, posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
> Thanks Kath. I'm actually a recovering super-insanely-low-self-esteem-oholic, so I'm not very good at accessing my own looks. But I gotten much better at avoiding the negative self talk as much as possible. I'm actually pretty embarrassed that I posted this so I could get all these assurances that I'm "pretty". I mean, how lame is that?
>>>>>>Oh you stop it!!!!! It's not lame at all!
We reach out for help when we need it & how do you think I feel always blathering on about my son this/my son that/ on & on????I just vaugely (sp?) remember I'm pretty sure I saw your photo...you're blonde right? And if you need input about your looks what's wrong with that?
If someone had anorexia & needed help knowing that others saw them as NOT fat, there's nothing wrong with that!
Please please try NOT to be hard on yourself, or at least no AS hard on yourself, okay?
hugs, hugs, hugs, hugs, HUGS oops....hope you're not someone who hates cyberhugs!!
If so I'm in trouble.
I send masses of love, Kath
> Thanks for supporting me no matter how superficial and silly I'm being. That goes for everyone!
>
> -T
Posted by Gabbi-2 on August 15, 2007, at 15:03:03
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » Kath, posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
It's not lame at all!
I mean it would be so much better if we all were totally secure with ourselves, but I think 99% of women understand comopletely.
I honestly didn't give it a second thought until you brought it up.OMG TC IS REALLY JUST ASKING FOR COMPLIMENTS THE NERVE!!
No.
Posted by caraher on August 15, 2007, at 15:43:46
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » Kath, posted by TexasChic on August 14, 2007, at 20:57:59
> Thanks Kath. I'm actually a recovering super-insanely-low-self-esteem-oholic, so I'm not very good at accessing my own looks. But I gotten much better at avoiding the negative self talk as much as possible. I'm actually pretty embarrassed that I posted this so I could get all these assurances that I'm "pretty". I mean, how lame is that?
It's OK. And it's a pleasure to be able to tell you you look pretty. I've seen pictures you've linked before and if I were single I think I'd file you in the "out of my league" category based on looks.
Posted by TexasChic on August 15, 2007, at 20:35:35
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by caraher on August 15, 2007, at 15:43:46
I feel the need to correct myself, I didn't 'actually' start the post just to get assurances, I just felt like it looked that way after reading all the nice posts. That's what I meant to say, but I somehow managed to make things sound even worse. Actually I shouldn't say 'somehow' as I'm pretty good at that sort of thing. ;-)
But anyway, thanks everyone! Especially caraher, that was really sweet!
-T
P.S. Okay, now everyone assure me I'm not shallow!
(((wink wink)))
Posted by Gabbi-2 on August 15, 2007, at 20:59:06
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by caraher on August 15, 2007, at 15:43:46
P.S
I have no clue what you look like, so I can't say anything.But I like what you have to say so that must mean you're very deep ;)
Posted by Jai Narayan on August 15, 2007, at 22:44:07
In reply to Re: Ooi! I'll have you know.... » TexasChic, posted by Gabbi-2 on August 13, 2007, at 0:01:32
> . You really know how say things. Thanks for making me feel better.
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> > -T
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> Oy! He does doesn't he.
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> Listen up Damos, I hope you use that talent for good and not for evil :P
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> The only other man I know of who could say things that beautiful, without sounding syrupy or phony, ripped my little heart right out.
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> He may not have *sounded* phony but...
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> Well, you know the rest.
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>I know he did. We are all vulnerable to sweetness. I guess, it's in our nature to love. You are a dear person. I'm so glad I know you.
Jai
Posted by Racer on August 16, 2007, at 14:09:31
In reply to Awww, thanks! You guys ROCK!, posted by TexasChic on August 15, 2007, at 20:35:35
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> -T
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> P.S. Okay, now everyone assure me I'm not shallow!
> (((wink wink)))But I wouldn't say you need a "No Diving" sign around your neck, either...
It must feel good to read all those responses. That's part of what makes Babble such a great place, isn't it? Babblers, on the whole, are so genuinely supportive, and so generous.
Then again, it might just be that you're so great...
:-D
Posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 18:28:06
In reply to Perhaps not so deep as a well..., posted by Racer on August 16, 2007, at 14:09:31
> It must feel good to read all those responses. That's part of what makes Babble such a great place, isn't it? Babblers, on the whole, are so genuinely supportive, and so generous.
Yeah, I told Gabbi if I can't shamelessly fish for compliments on babble, where else can I do
it??? Its sort of the point of the place.
> Then again, it might just be that you're so great...Awww. Thanks!
-T
Posted by cloudydaze on August 16, 2007, at 19:59:44
In reply to If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by texaschic on August 9, 2007, at 13:57:03
My grandmother told me the exact same thing the other day. It was kinda depressing.
She meant well, but she could have been more sensitive.
I've been battling with my weight for quite awhile now. I know I need to lose some, but hearing it all the time just makes me feel worse about myself, and less likely to help myself.
I've never seen a pic of you texaschic, but I do know you have a beautiful personality :)
Posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:01:27
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous!, posted by cloudydaze on August 16, 2007, at 19:59:44
>My grandmother told me the exact same thing the other day. It was kinda depressing.
>She meant well, but she could have been more sensitive.
>I've been battling with my weight for quite awhile now. I know I need to lose some, but hearing it all the time just makes me feel worse about myself, and less likely to help myself.
That's EXACTLY how I felt!
>I've never seen a pic of you texaschic, but I do know you have a beautiful personality :)
Oh, thank you so much! That's very sweet of you - makes me feel good! It seems like its been quite a while since I've talked to you. How are you doing?
-T
Posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:36:05
In reply to Re: If you'd just lose weight you'd be gorgeous! » cloudydaze, posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2007, at 22:01:27
Have you been around and I've just been totally unobservant? How's your little girl (I do have that right don't I)? Are you in your own place yet? I've thought of you now and then and wondered how you were doing.
-T
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