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Posted by Crazy Horse on February 23, 2007, at 11:20:13
I've been dumped twice because of my depression/anxiety disorder. It hurt like Hell! The first was my fiance' when i was 22 (my first depressive episode) she adored me until i got sick, then she was real cold and booted my *ss out the door like it was my fault for fu*king up her life. The 2nd one was another girl i was in love with..we were maddly in love! She hung in there for about one month then she jetted.
This has a happy ending however, i found my "true Love" at age 28 (she has seen me through many bad depressive episodes) and we've been married for 20 years with 2 wonderful boys ages 8 and 5. :) God is Good!
-Monte
Posted by Phillipa on February 23, 2007, at 11:34:48
In reply to Ever been 'dumped' because of your illness?, posted by Crazy Horse on February 23, 2007, at 11:20:13
Yes my whole family blames me for not being able to keep up with them. And not being the same person I was. But it's not my fault. Sorry but happy for you Monte. Love Phillipa
Posted by karen_kay on February 23, 2007, at 11:50:54
In reply to Ever been 'dumped' because of your illness?, posted by Crazy Horse on February 23, 2007, at 11:20:13
my seven year before the itch (make sense? i was in a relationship for nearly about, i think it was 7 years, then got the itch... no, let me take that back, i had the itch well before the seven year mark, but we broke up at teh 7 year mark) anywhooooo......
i lost my train of thought.. i was really sick, going through a whole lot while with him. he was less than helpful. but, he didn't understand depression at all either. he'd have a beer when sad and everythign was groovy (lucky hippie nerd!) but, when i made the most improvements, we decided to break it off. i was the one who started the whole 'let's end this misery' conversation. so, it was kinda the opposite. i always felt guilty that he put up with so much from me (gee golly (gee golly??? how bout good god?) he put up with tons of crap) and then i started the process of leaving him. and boy was i horrible to him.
so, i always kinda felt the opposite way. he aided in helpig support me financially so i could get better (well, sort of), then, i got better (well, sort of again) and i dumped him (well, sort of).
well, disregard this (well, sort of).
:)
Posted by Fivefires on February 23, 2007, at 14:18:29
In reply to as bad as this sounds... » Crazy Horse, posted by karen_kay on February 23, 2007, at 11:50:54
KK ... wow ... u do what I do..., or at least, from what you've said, that's what I'm getting.
If ever I felt like a partner might be headed for the door, I'll start to push him out in a round about way ... leaving him to feel like he'd made the decision.
Until a few days ago, I thought I was being kind doing this ... letting him think it was his idea, ya' know lettin' him be able to say 'it was I who left her'.
But then I heard this expression, can't remember word for word, butt sounded something like this: 'blah blah is the coward's way out of ending a relationship'. After I heard that, I've felt bad! All this time, I'd thought it was the kinder way of ending a relationship .. but it's the coward's way??? Whoa .. me a coward? What do ya' think KK? Do ya' get what I'm saying, and does anyone think 'it is the coward's way'?
And hey M, once my illness surfaced and my almost perfect personality was somewhat pushed aside, I lost someone I still miss very much. Still I await what you finally found CrazyH!
5f
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on February 23, 2007, at 15:37:12
In reply to Re: as bad as this sounds... » karen_kay, posted by Fivefires on February 23, 2007, at 14:18:29
Actually no. The opposite in fact - I was merely just dating this guy, until I had my first massive depressive episode and I ran away to London (such a cliche!) - well he came and got me and sort of saw me at my worst, and well, we're still together (that was 6 years ago) and he very much supports me and my illnesses, so I think in essence it brought us much closer together. I thought perhaps he liked me being 'ill' but I don't think so. He suffers when I suffer and definately prefers me happy! Anyway.
I know someone in Boston who is actually divorcing her husband because he got depression really badly. Which isn't very nice!!!
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