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Posted by Joan797 on April 22, 2006, at 10:13:10
It's all falling down around me and I can't stop it. So many things happening, so many hurtful things and I am losing control. Drinking too much, not spending enough time with my kids, hurting others by my actions. All because I let someone take control of my mind and heart and now I am suffering the loss over and over again because I am too week to say STOP IT!!! I allow this hurt in everytime the phone rings or the computer say's I have mail. I am being used, I know it, I am allowing it, and I am not stopping it.
I am so weak.
Posted by TexasChic on April 22, 2006, at 13:33:55
In reply to Things are Crumbling Again, posted by Joan797 on April 22, 2006, at 10:13:10
I'm so sorry things are so bad for you right now. I certainly know what its like to feel overwhelmed by a situation.
I try to allow myself a period of time to hurt and feel helpless. But then I tell myself, if you want this to change, you're going to have to do something about it. Of course I know that's easier said than done, but just thinking it is always the first step for me before things start improving.
This might sound trite but, do you have a T to talk to about this? They can help you figure out how to channel you hurt feelings into something more constructive. I hope you see someone soon so that you can find a way to start feeling better. I recognize your pain all too well, and you deserve better.
Keep us posted on how you're doing, and vent here anytime (I know I do!).
-T
Posted by muffled on April 22, 2006, at 13:38:44
In reply to Things are Crumbling Again, posted by Joan797 on April 22, 2006, at 10:13:10
Mebbe not so much weak as tired. You made it this far. Is there anyone you can lean on some IRL?
Please take care. You are valued.
Little baby steps to get thru this.
Muffled
Posted by Phillipa on April 22, 2006, at 13:46:43
In reply to Re: Things are Crumbling Again, posted by muffled on April 22, 2006, at 13:38:44
Maybe break the story down in smaller pieces to get some perspective and maybe better advise in baby steps. Love Phillipa
Posted by Deneb on April 22, 2006, at 18:11:34
In reply to Things are Crumbling Again, posted by Joan797 on April 22, 2006, at 10:13:10
It's okay to take care of your own needs first. It's okay to be assertive.
Learn to say, "No". Say "No" over and over again until they "get it".
Deneb*
Posted by ClearSkies on April 24, 2006, at 21:34:52
In reply to Things are Crumbling Again, posted by Joan797 on April 22, 2006, at 10:13:10
You're not a weak woman. You've come through so much - your hurt and pain have circled around again and you're really vulnerable now with all you're dealing with.
Let yourself acknowledge your feelings. Things that hurt us do so for a long time. Don't beat yourself up for your own feelings!Take care.
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