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Posted by Racer on March 19, 2006, at 15:40:08
This has come up a couple of times for me lately, and it's somehow triggered a lot of -- wow, this might actually be anger, I think -- strong feelings for me. I'd be interested in hearing other people's reactions.
"Different -- and Special." It's that thing that some people do, "I'm Different, which means I'm Special -- so you have to treat me Special." Where it's come up near me lately, I've really wanted to say -- scream, really -- "Here's a News Flash for you, we're *ALL* Special, and we *don't* actually have to treat you Special."
It's the people who seem to be saying, in their reactions to things, that they are on a much higher plane of emotional sensitivity than the rest of the world. And ironically, it's the same people who seem to show the *least* emotional sensitivity to those around them. Besides, that is, showing how incredibly sensitive they are.
And, if you call them on it, they'll tell you off for being so emotionally INsensitive.
ARGH!
I don't know why it's gotten under my skin right now. I just know that right now, I want to say, "Hey, guess what? I feel too. And chances are I feel as strongly and as deeply as many other people in this world. And I don't have to prove it to you."
So, here's my message for all the Different -- and Special people out there: You did not invent suffering, and you are not unique in your emotional sensitivity. Other people around you are also capable of feelings. Even deep feelings. We get it. You're "sensitive." You can give it a rest now, 'K?
I'm sorry -- this hasn't anything to do with anyone online. This has to do with an IRL situation. I'm just upset by it right now. I hope I haven't upset anyone else by this, I know it's likely to be a trigger for others as well, and maybe I should have held it in, but I've been holding this in so hard that it's hurting. Maybe letting it out a bit will help.
Peace.
Posted by NikkiT2 on March 19, 2006, at 16:18:24
In reply to Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post, posted by Racer on March 19, 2006, at 15:40:08
<I>*cheers and applauds and memorises"</i>
Thankyou!
Posted by special_k on March 19, 2006, at 17:10:46
In reply to Re: Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post » Racer, posted by NikkiT2 on March 19, 2006, at 16:18:24
er... yes. we are all special k?
um... i hope people aren't thinking i am big headed... i really was thinking the breakfast cereal. really. and the _k was good... history etc etc.
and of course i am taking it personally
(not really - just clarifying)but...
i could of course change my name to:
weet-bix (which is kinda funny) heh heh
nutragrain (not so keen on that one)
musli (nope i don't think so)
porridge (okay so that has potential) heh heh.er...
cornflakes (thats a bit corny)
puffed wheat. hmm. then i could say 'well roll me in honey and call me honey puffed wheat!'. okay so its a bit too early in the morning... can ya tell...
Posted by LegWarmers on March 19, 2006, at 18:06:07
In reply to Re: Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post » NikkiT2, posted by special_k on March 19, 2006, at 17:10:46
> er... yes. we are all special k?
>
> um... i hope people aren't thinking i am big headed... i really was thinking the breakfast cereal. really. and the _k was good... history etc etc.
>
> and of course i am taking it personally
> (not really - just clarifying)
>I thought you were cereal.
> but...
>
> i could of course change my name to:
>
> weet-bix (which is kinda funny) heh heh
> nutragrain (not so keen on that one)
> musli (nope i don't think so)
> porridge (okay so that has potential) heh heh.
>
> er...
>
> cornflakes (thats a bit corny)
> puffed wheat. hmm. then i could say 'well roll me in honey and call me honey puffed wheat!'. okay so its a bit too early in the morning... can ya tell...I like cornflakes
or.. how about dorrito?
or.. poppy
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 19, 2006, at 18:49:55
In reply to Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post, posted by Racer on March 19, 2006, at 15:40:08
Yes.
That's it, that's how I feel right now.
I just made a similar comment on admin, and pointed the same irony/hypocrisy, of being bullied by the sensitive.A co worker of mine once told a group of us that she needed to have her "wounds honoured by us"
Do I need to add a comment to that?
Posted by special_k??? on March 19, 2006, at 18:53:20
In reply to Re: Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post » special_k, posted by LegWarmers on March 19, 2006, at 18:06:07
nooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
okay so the right mouse button isn't working and so i can't copy past links... but i just checked out wikipedia and would you believe...
weet-box and australian originally
(i'm about as traumatised as i was when i learned that vegemite was an aussie invention)
and then... the nerve...
their add campaign went 'aussie kids are weet-bix kids'
dammit.
when i was a kid i learned 'kiwi kids are weet-bix kids'
traumatised for life - i swear :-(
Posted by Phillipa on March 19, 2006, at 21:06:04
In reply to Re: Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post, posted by special_k??? on March 19, 2006, at 18:53:20
Have you had your coffee yet? Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Daisym on March 19, 2006, at 22:34:44
In reply to Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post, posted by Racer on March 19, 2006, at 15:40:08
This is probably too serious a reply because I get that you are venting and that is a good thing.
Here's what I've learned because in my line of work there are lots of "different and special" individuals, and I'm not talking about the kids with special needs.
Typically I find that people who need to keep pushing their sensitivities and wounds out on everyone else have not consistently had their needs met, nor have they any faith in anyone else's ability to be kind. They have fought so many battles (even if in their own mind) that they simply fight all the time and everyone to be seen and heard. They don't even give anyone a chance to treat them special before they demand it. Which of course makes us want to run in the other direction.
The other type I run into is the entitled type who have been told by: parent, therapist, support group, whomever -- that they DESERVE special treatment and therefore should demand it. I see this in so many places and the answer I usually get is that if they don't act they way they are, they are mistreated "even worse." *sigh*
When did we stop attracting flies with honey and start trying to catch them instead with sledge hammers?
I know you are in a rough spot. Hang in there. She can't hang around forever.
Posted by alesta on March 20, 2006, at 15:14:01
In reply to Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post, posted by Racer on March 19, 2006, at 15:40:08
> This has come up a couple of times for me lately, and it's somehow triggered a lot of -- wow, this might actually be anger, I think -- strong feelings for me. I'd be interested in hearing other people's reactions.
>
> "Different -- and Special." It's that thing that some people do, "I'm Different, which means I'm Special -- so you have to treat me Special." Where it's come up near me lately, I've really wanted to say -- scream, really -- "Here's a News Flash for you, we're *ALL* Special, and we *don't* actually have to treat you Special."
>
> It's the people who seem to be saying, in their reactions to things, that they are on a much higher plane of emotional sensitivity than the rest of the world. And ironically, it's the same people who seem to show the *least* emotional sensitivity to those around them. Besides, that is, showing how incredibly sensitive they are.
>
> And, if you call them on it, they'll tell you off for being so emotionally INsensitive.
>
> ARGH!
>
> I don't know why it's gotten under my skin right now. I just know that right now, I want to say, "Hey, guess what? I feel too. And chances are I feel as strongly and as deeply as many other people in this world. And I don't have to prove it to you."
>
> So, here's my message for all the Different -- and Special people out there: You did not invent suffering, and you are not unique in your emotional sensitivity. Other people around you are also capable of feelings. Even deep feelings. We get it. You're "sensitive." You can give it a rest now, 'K?
>
> I'm sorry -- this hasn't anything to do with anyone online. This has to do with an IRL situation. I'm just upset by it right now. I hope I haven't upset anyone else by this, I know it's likely to be a trigger for others as well, and maybe I should have held it in, but I've been holding this in so hard that it's hurting. Maybe letting it out a bit will help.
>
> Peace.hi...i was just pondering the issue of sensitivity the other day..anyway, i'd be afraid to ever pose the issue of sensitivity now..if i chose to..i don't know...(you asked for our reactions...hope i'm not being offensive or anything.) the anger in your post was a bit frightening..maybe it's just me. no offense...and not that you shouldn't be angry. well, anyway, yes we're all special! ((racer))
amy
Posted by Phillipa on March 20, 2006, at 18:38:07
In reply to Different -- and Special *trigger* negative post, posted by Racer on March 19, 2006, at 15:40:08
Racer right now I know how you're feeling I had an encounter today with a therapist yes a therapist who is supposed to work with me. But no it's my husband she gives the attention too. So I'm boiling mad right now. Fondly, Phillipa
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