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Posted by TexasChic on September 18, 2005, at 14:43:04
At work, there's a group of girls that do nothing but talk about everyone else. Recently, I've been hearing they're saying things about me which concern work. Having been fired from my last job because another employee set me up, this really concerns me.
I know the main one is going to be at work early eating breakfast in the breakroom. I'm going to tell her what I heard and let her know she could have resolved this easily by talking to me. I'll let her know I don't really care if she talks about me, except when it comes to work, which I take very seriously. I'll ask her to please come to me in the future if it concerns work. Otherwise, she can talk about how fat my *ss is all day long.
Of course I have it all planned out to say in a nice, but assertive way.
Wish me luck, I'm terrible with confrontations.
Posted by TexasChic on September 18, 2005, at 15:09:38
In reply to I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow, posted by TexasChic on September 18, 2005, at 14:43:04
I don't really think this will accomplish much with her, but I feel I need to do it for myself. I really don't have very much experience standing up to people, and this would be a big step for me. Afterwards, I may have a meeting with my boss just to tell him what's going on. If they do come to him complaining about me, at least he'll know a little bit about my side ahead of time.
Posted by wildcard on September 18, 2005, at 15:29:59
In reply to Re: I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow, posted by TexasChic on September 18, 2005, at 15:09:38
> I understand how u feel. I wld. approach her alone (a crowd tends to fuel the fire), and as calmly as possible let her know what u have heard before *accusing* her and see how she responds. If she is a b*tch, then put it to her straight but calmly stand ur ground. If problems continue i would speak w/ my supervisor to resolve the problem.
>>Or u cld always catch her in the bathroom and give her a swirly and DENY,DENY,DENY! j/k ; )
Posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 20:43:34
In reply to I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow, posted by TexasChic on September 18, 2005, at 14:43:04
Posted by lynn970 on September 18, 2005, at 21:09:45
In reply to Good for you!!! Set the boundries. Good luck! (nm) » TexasChic, posted by crazy teresa on September 18, 2005, at 20:43:34
Posted by ClearSkies on September 19, 2005, at 8:58:02
In reply to Re: I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow, posted by TexasChic on September 18, 2005, at 15:09:38
And I agree - confrontation is really difficult for me. We are by your side!
ClearSkies
Posted by TexasChic on September 19, 2005, at 16:46:10
In reply to Let us know how it goes » TexasChic, posted by ClearSkies on September 19, 2005, at 8:58:02
Well, I didn't do it. I was all prepared to, but then I started thinking about how jobs are scarce now with all the evacuees here, not that I fault them or anything. They deserve a job just as much as I do (if not more). I try to keep in mind that my biggest problem is immature girls bugging me - the evecuees lost everything. It puts things in perspective real quick. I know I'm lucky to have the job I've got.
I still may confront her eventually, but it just didn't feel right today. It was a let down after getting all psyched up, but I try to trust my instincts.I'm still thinking about talking to the boss, but I'm going to think it over. The smart thing might be to just keep quiet and not let her rudeness bother me. I'm torn between wanting to stand up for myself, and not wanting to make waves.
On another note, I went to lunch with some co-workers today (who also want to stay out of all the drama). They're alot of fun. I think these may be people I could be friends with.
I still have a giant crush on this guy at work. I'm about to move to a desk right next to him (yea)! Its just so hard to read him though. When I asked him if he would mind having me as a neighbor, he said, not anymore than I mind my other neighbors. I'm like, gee, thanks. He says things like that one day, and then does something the next that makes me think he's interested, but just extremely shy. I guess I need to get over him. Its just hard when there is no one else in my life I'm even remotely interested in.
The move will be really good though. It just suddenly occured to me a few days ago that I was depressed at work because of the people I sit by. They're good guys, its just that one is very obnoxious and the other is a married guy that has a thing for me and follows me around all the time (I call him stalker). I tried really hard to make the best of the situation by becoming friends with them, and it worked. But now its starting to feel suffocating and co-dependent somehow. The move will definity do me good.
Well, if anybody has read this long, thanks! I just needed to get all this out.
Posted by wildcard on September 19, 2005, at 17:03:10
In reply to Re: Let us know how it goes, posted by TexasChic on September 19, 2005, at 16:46:10
>Always go w/ ur gut instinct! And i applaud ur attitude ; )
Posted by Angela2 on September 19, 2005, at 18:33:06
In reply to I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow, posted by TexasChic on September 18, 2005, at 14:43:04
Good Luck TC, I hope it all goes well.
Posted by TexasChic on September 19, 2005, at 20:58:28
In reply to Re: I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow, posted by Angela2 on September 19, 2005, at 18:33:06
Thanks everyone. I appreciate the support.
Sometimes I wonder why it is I have such a hard time fitting in. But when I hear opinions from people who are in more liberal areas of the country, I realize maybe I'm just in one particular place where I'm outnumbered. Not that I don't like Texas, I love it. And I have the upmost respect for other people's beliefs. Its just hard for me to comprehend what life is like in say, California, where the majority of people actually share my views. Maybe someday I'll get the guts to actually go somewhere else.
Posted by ClearSkies on September 19, 2005, at 21:39:17
In reply to Re: I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow, posted by TexasChic on September 19, 2005, at 20:58:28
Just don't come to Florida, LOL....
Posted by TexasChic on September 23, 2005, at 18:27:05
In reply to Re: I'm going to stand up to a bully tomorrow » TexasChic, posted by ClearSkies on September 19, 2005, at 21:39:17
I've written an update on this subject in a later thread called 'Trivial non-hurricane related stuff '. Just in case anyone is interested. I unintentionally started a new thread on the subject.
This is the end of the thread.
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