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Posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:36:31
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here? » katherpoo1, posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 15:32:49
((((((PC))))))
I'm sorry you're having a hard time. YOU were the most welcoming person I encountered here, until today!
Posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 15:47:14
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:36:31
I know what it's like to want to fit in, or not stick out, or just be part of the party that others seem to effortlessly flow in and out of. Yes, this is a particularly bad day. I should have known this was coming because last week I felt absolutely Brilliant! and those lovely, gentle (for me) hypomanic times are so very few and far between. I guess how I am now is normal for me.
So - please tell us - what brings you to babble-land? Was it our snazzy graphics and the photo of the good Dr Bob with a water drop strategically placed right where a zit might appear?
How did you find us, and what are you looking for?Oh, and don't mind me with my kleenex. I told my boss I was stealing a box when I fled today. I work as a receptionist and they are very conscious that when I'm not on my game, EVERYONE knows.... so I was gratefully chased out the door.
pc
Posted by justyourlaugh on April 14, 2005, at 15:48:39
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:36:31
kather...
i am sorry i missed your posts..
been here for years , always get totally crushed when i do not get a response..or one i wanted..
but i too fail at being supportive..
i will watch for your name..
welcome in..
sit by the fire pit..roast a mallow..
jyl
Posted by fallsfall on April 14, 2005, at 15:50:03
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:36:31
Welcome to Babble. The people here have helped me so much over the last 2 years. There do seem to be groups of people who "know" each other. But that happens after a time of posting. Just jump in when something sounds familiar to you or when you have a question or need company.
The other thing about Babble, is that sometimes it is really busy, and sometimes it is less busy. So if you don't get responses, it might just be that people are either doing well and not reading or doing poorly and not reading. It is often the case that whether people respond or not has more to do with them and what is going on in their life than it does with you!
Over time you'll get to know us, and we'll get to know you (at least I hope so!!)
Posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:55:26
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:36:31
Oops, drat, see I forgot to add partlycloudy's name to my other post above.
Anyway, wow, I didn't expect such rapid replies. Thank you for your kindness. I'm really not a bad person at all!
This was my first post to "Social."
I hesitate to even bring up the other post because if people remember it... ouch... would that hurt my rep around here again? It wasn't in "Social," I think it was in "Babble," and I made a post in "Newbies" too of course. I was given a diagnosis of bipolar VI (yes, 6), and was looking for others like me. I guess it's part of BP "spectrum theory," and I was just looking for comraderie but it seemed every time I said something people misunderstood me and got pissed off and in general the whole thread got people's feathers ruffled. :( :( :( I apologized and everything, saying look I'm new I don't know how you guys do things around here! But by then I had already alienated myself.
I suspect some of the people here will remember it. I recognize some of the names from there over here....
I summoned up the courage to give it one more try here -- partly because I am a moderator on another board and so I don't always like to show when I'm feeling vulnerable; I feel like I need a place of my own if that makes any sense. If it's here, great; if not... I'll say my good-byes, wish you all well, and go looking for some other place.
I found Dr.Bob through a link on the Q&A advice page on my alma mater's website... "Dear Uncle Ezra." I've been a loyal reader for years LOL. Anyway, "Ezra" has a link to Dr. Bob and viola! here I am. You all seem so close and caring, it just feels like if I could break into that, it would be so nice!
Wow - that was long. Sorry to spill it all out like that.
Kat
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on April 14, 2005, at 15:57:24
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by PM80 on April 14, 2005, at 15:30:15
Sorry about your introduction Katherpool
I think it's a matter of time really, most people feel a bit out of place here at first.
Also I think there's a bit of upheaval going on right now which makes everyone a little tense.Please stay. People who sincerely want to give and recieve support are always welcome here.
I think most of your posts must have been on another board, I didn't see any. Some of the other boards are a bit more quiet than Social, and Psychology and the main med board, so that's probably it too.
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on April 14, 2005, at 16:40:49
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here? » PM80, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on April 14, 2005, at 15:57:24
Posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 17:40:18
In reply to How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:17:46
Hey Kat,
Just wanted to pop in and say G'day. I'm still relatively new here and feel like a complete git a large percentage of the time. Hope you feel like one of the family soon.
Posted by just so sad on April 14, 2005, at 20:01:38
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here? » katherpoo1, posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 17:40:18
Hi Kat!
I'm fairly new too, so I don't check Newbies very often - I usually post in Substance Use (now that my depression is under control I'm trying to battle the red wine fiend). If you don't get replies initially, try posting again - sometimes threads move into the archives quickly and when folks are busy they tend to check only the posts that are at the bottom...Anyway - welcome.
Posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 21:18:56
In reply to How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:17:46
Hi Kat,
and a belated welcome. I don't recall seeing your posts, either, if I did, I was probably too: tired/lazy/forgetful/upset/depressed/distracted to post back to you. Whew..what a bunch of excuses ;-) But, all sometimes very real for me. I've had a tough couple weeks, off and on, IRL and also have been terribly anxious as one of our "regulars" (family members, feels like to me) has disappeared off the boards 6 days ago and we don't know if she's okay.....so that's been so awful for many of us.
As the others told you, please DON'T take it personally. Have you ever read the FAQs? There's a big section, if I'm remembering right, on people's thoughts as to why threads don't get going sometimes. It made me feel loads better last year when I was new here.
Babble is a wonderful place that has truly enriched my life. Just jump in, try not to be afraid, and ask tons of questions. So glad you found us. I think you'll find it's NOT like IRL at all in a couple ways - because of the excellent (IMO) civility rules, and because this is a magnet drawing many kind, smart, loving, wonderful people all to one spot - often at one time! Awesome, huh? :-)
So sorry you felt bad...and to answer "what you should be doing..." - guess what? You just did it!
Tell us how you're feeling. Post: " HEY!! Yoo-hoo!! Anyone there??!! I need Help, please!! Just keep coming back for more, please :-)
Posted by daisym on April 14, 2005, at 23:55:54
In reply to How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:17:46
Everyone said what I would say. Sometimes you just have to jump in and sometimes we all drop out for one reason or another. I've found that things quiet down over the weekends and Holidays, so don't let that throw you.
I'd also encourage you to drop into Open once in awhile. You never know who you'll catch there, in live time.
Welcome!
Posted by sunny10 on April 15, 2005, at 8:33:48
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here? » katherpoo1, posted by daisym on April 14, 2005, at 23:55:54
Posted by katherpoo1 on April 15, 2005, at 10:12:45
In reply to Re: Marco (nm), posted by sunny10 on April 15, 2005, at 8:33:48
I don't understand! :(
Posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 10:23:04
In reply to Re: Marco » sunny10, posted by katherpoo1 on April 15, 2005, at 10:12:45
I might...watch this, and we'll see if I know Sunny at all, or if I'm a big idiot....
Posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 10:23:35
In reply to Re: Marco (nm), posted by sunny10 on April 15, 2005, at 8:33:48
Posted by sunny10 on April 15, 2005, at 11:39:34
In reply to Re: Marco » katherpoo1, posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 10:23:04
swimming pool games are great, the more people there are!!!!
You're already in the pool, Kath!
This is no snobby yacht club pool party- our yacht club pool party welcomes everyone!!!
Now, let's cannonball.....
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Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...............Nestea plunge, anyone?????
Posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 16:36:55
In reply to Re: darn, 10derheart got me! Her turn..., posted by sunny10 on April 15, 2005, at 11:39:34
...might of got you, but I still wanna be a big idiot, okay...?
and I LOVE your spirit for fun...and your cannonball was the BOMB!
Do it again! Do it again!
Posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 16:37:50
In reply to Re: darn, 10derheart got me! Her turn..., posted by sunny10 on April 15, 2005, at 11:39:34
Posted by partlycloudy on April 15, 2005, at 16:43:00
In reply to Duck...duck...duck...duck....... (nm) » sunny10, posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 16:37:50
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 15, 2005, at 19:49:27
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:55:26
> I found Dr.Bob through a link on the Q&A advice page on my alma mater's website... "Dear Uncle Ezra."
That's a great site, I should return the favor! :-)
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 15, 2005, at 19:51:39
In reply to Re: How does one break into the social circle here? » katherpoo1, posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 21:18:56
> Have you ever read the FAQs? There's a big section, if I'm remembering right, on people's thoughts as to why threads don't get going sometimes. It made me feel loads better last year when I was new here.
You do remember right:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#respond
Bob
Posted by 10derHeart on April 17, 2005, at 18:05:56
In reply to Goose! (nm) » 10derHeart, posted by partlycloudy on April 15, 2005, at 16:43:00
Posted by katherpoo1 on April 17, 2005, at 21:28:46
In reply to Knock, knock (nm), posted by 10derHeart on April 17, 2005, at 18:05:56
Am I catching on? ;)
Posted by sunny10 on April 18, 2005, at 9:27:26
In reply to Who's there?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 17, 2005, at 21:28:46
please keep having fun without me... hopefully I'll be more fun to be with soon...
Posted by KaraS on April 19, 2005, at 0:12:35
In reply to How does one break into the social circle here?, posted by katherpoo1 on April 14, 2005, at 15:17:46
Welcome,
I think sometimes it's just natural to post to people you already know without even really thinking about it. I've caught myself doing that on occasion - not out of any desire to exclude anyone - but just because of my own comfort level. When I'm in a better mood and more aware of others' needs, I try to include everyone.
I usually hang out at the main board and the alternative board so I sometimes feel like I'm intruding here as well but I know that the more I post, the more I'll be included. I've seen it work that way for many others.
Take care and I hope you like it here.
Kara
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