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Posted by PhoenixGirl on September 15, 2004, at 20:07:38
Has this ever happened to anyone? Just a week or so ago, I actually thought I was in love with the guy who just broke up with me. Now that feeling is gone, like I recovered my senses. That feeling seems almost like a "condition". It still hurts that it didn't work out between us, and I feel utterly lonely and depressed, but it's not so much about him individually now. It's my general loneliness, like I had before I met him. I think my feelings for him had more to do with me than with him.
Posted by Angela2 on September 15, 2004, at 21:54:31
In reply to I can't believe last week I said I love this guy, posted by PhoenixGirl on September 15, 2004, at 20:07:38
Phoenix girl. You seem so sweet and caring. I definitely agree that the feelings you have about this guy are more about you than about him. You need someone right now. That is so true for so many people. And society doesn't make it any better for us. I mean, being in a relationship is like, a convention in this society (I just learned that word in my art history class, hee)Being alone can sound like a scary thing. But when you start doing things that make you happy, loneliness gets easier to forget. I just ask you this: please be good to yourself and please know that many people have these feelings and you are not alone. I will save half my sandwich for you at lunch time tomorrow. It's turkey. Hope you like sweetie!
Angelap.s. boys are icky!
Posted by Susan47 on September 16, 2004, at 19:46:30
In reply to Re: I can't believe last week I said I love this guy, posted by Angela2 on September 15, 2004, at 21:54:31
Phoenixgirl, you sound like you know yourself really well.. Go Girl! I'm sorry, that's just a cheer for the me of 20 years ago, who never did grow up. But did get to know herself a bit better! I'm so so glad you can come here to Babble to help yourself work it all out. :))
Posted by Susan47 on September 16, 2004, at 19:47:58
In reply to Re: I can't believe last week I said I love this guy, posted by Susan47 on September 16, 2004, at 19:46:30
Oops, that's not 20 years ago, it's 30. Soon it'll be over, I can't believe how it all just goes by. *Sigh*
Posted by PhoenixGirl on September 16, 2004, at 20:48:24
In reply to Re: I can't believe last week I said I love this guy, posted by Susan47 on September 16, 2004, at 19:47:58
And you probably feel younger inside than I do! I pretty much had to skip that mythical thing called "youth". My youth may be about to start, though.
> Oops, that's not 20 years ago, it's 30. Soon it'll be over, I can't believe how it all just goes by. *Sigh*
Posted by PhoenixGirl on September 16, 2004, at 20:49:54
In reply to Re: I can't believe last week I said I love this guy, posted by Angela2 on September 15, 2004, at 21:54:31
Posted by jay on September 16, 2004, at 20:51:08
In reply to I can't believe last week I said I love this guy, posted by PhoenixGirl on September 15, 2004, at 20:07:38
> Has this ever happened to anyone? Just a week or so ago, I actually thought I was in love with the guy who just broke up with me. Now that feeling is gone, like I recovered my senses. That feeling seems almost like a "condition". It still hurts that it didn't work out between us, and I feel utterly lonely and depressed, but it's not so much about him individually now. It's my general loneliness, like I had before I met him. I think my feelings for him had more to do with me than with him.
Yes, this is indeed a side-effect of depression..I know it too well. I'll be going along on dates and stuff, very easy and casual, and then it's like *bang*...it's over! I am usually not the one who breaks up a relationship, but I have had to in some very dysfunctional ones. (i.e. "sex" friends)One of the major problems is that I think t.v. has put this illusion in our head that we can have our cake and eat it too..that commitment is like changing underwear or something like that. People don't realise they are partly responsible for what they say and do even in just a dating situation. Nothing worst than a mind f**k (pardon the french..;-).
Just be yourself...and when someone is comfortable with that notion about them and you, then I think you have a healthy relationship!
Anyhow...sorry for going off-topic a bit..but I really understand what you are saying.
Best,
Dr. Jay (Well, I play one on t.v...lol)
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