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Posted by Dinah on September 6, 2004, at 11:31:32
I thought it was really cool, Dr. Bob, the way you not only didn't get upset about that thread on sex a while back, but you even got that friend of yours to drop by.
It's been a while now, and I was thinking that maybe she would be willing to be a guest expert on Social.
I agree that termination seems to be the topic of the hour on Psychology, although I think you ought to keep a potential guest expert on sexual or romantic transference on standby. :)
I think sex is a topic that might not come up much, but is probably timely at any point as the focus of a guest expert on Social. Either that, or it's a topic we discuss far beyond its actual importance.
What do others think?
Posted by octopusprime on September 6, 2004, at 17:12:04
In reply to Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone, posted by Dinah on September 6, 2004, at 11:31:32
dinah i think a guest expert would be a great idea!
i know sex has huge importance in our society because of the way our intimate relationships are structured, and the way that our intimate significant others form our main support mechanisms.
that said - i don't know if i would want to participate - i don't have a regular significant other right now. i know i talk about crushes and thwarted hopes and things - these aren't really things that have a good resolution that feedback from people online can solve.
plus i am also afraid that anything other than a discussion of "vanilla sex" would be much too exposing ...
but i think it would be worthwhile for some other people, hard to tell ...
Posted by partlycloudy on September 6, 2004, at 18:32:37
In reply to Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone, posted by Dinah on September 6, 2004, at 11:31:32
As intimate and anonymous a forum as Babble is, I blush at the idea of discussing sex here. Not that I have any naughty secrets to disclose, but I think that I couldn't really talk about sex. Jeesh, I'm more of a prude than I thought.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 6, 2004, at 22:25:21
In reply to Re: Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone » Dinah, posted by partlycloudy on September 6, 2004, at 18:32:37
Yeah, it was difficult enough to talk about it with my T. But here? yikes, I'm not sure about that...
gg
Posted by Dinah on September 6, 2004, at 23:06:09
In reply to Re: Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone, posted by gardenergirl on September 6, 2004, at 22:25:21
We actually had a pretty good discussion going at one point. People were afraid Dr. Bob would take it amiss, but he was way cool. :) I don't *think* we were too graphic in language choice - well within the civility guidelines.
But it's a natural enough topic - especially with a group of people on psych meds (with their near-inevitable side effects) and many with trauma backgrounds.
Oddly, I don't have much trouble with *talking* about it. I might euphemize a bit with my therapist. And hand gestures are always useful. But he's nice and clinical and we manage to get pretty explicit without it seeming at all sexual.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 7, 2004, at 0:27:52
In reply to Re: Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on September 6, 2004, at 23:06:09
I think it was helpful to me with my T to have had clients talk to me about sexual dysfunction. I remember leaving a session (oh boy, I have to watch my words with this one! ;) ) and saying to a friend, "I said [insert technical term here] and didn't blush!!!!!" She laughed and laughed. And perhaps I did blush, cause I am so fair, I blush very easily.
But anyway, I used a few euphemisms, too, and some technical terms. But oh my, it was embarrassing. He was great though. Didn't blush, I don't think. :)
gg
Posted by vwoolf on September 7, 2004, at 10:17:35
In reply to Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone, posted by Dinah on September 6, 2004, at 11:31:32
I am one of the people who might benefit from having an expert on sexuality around. I don't find it excessively difficult to talk about my issues, but I am not sure I would find an open forum like this very safe. The few times I have talked about anything of a sexual nature I have suffered with very persecutory thoughts until some kind and accepting replies came back. I'm not sure. Dinah, what is the thread dealing with sex that you are referrring to?
Posted by Dinah on September 7, 2004, at 13:01:05
In reply to Re: Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone, posted by vwoolf on September 7, 2004, at 10:17:35
It was a while back, and I'm afraid my brain isn't up to remembering what was involved. Just that Dr. Bob pleasantly surprised us. I'm trying to recall. Was it while Leeran was posting?
If I catch up on my sleep, I'll try to figure it out. I obsess over my posting on a lot of subjects, but sex isn't one of them. Maybe the fact that I just don't find it that big of a hot button issue is part of my problem.
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 9, 2004, at 0:51:41
In reply to Re: Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone » vwoolf, posted by Dinah on September 7, 2004, at 13:01:05
> It was a while back, and I'm afraid my brain isn't up to remembering what was involved.
It's not linked to like it should be yet, but FYI, the guest experts are all at:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/experts.html
Bob
Posted by KaraS on September 9, 2004, at 1:37:11
In reply to Re: Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone, posted by vwoolf on September 7, 2004, at 10:17:35
Am I the only one who thinks the subject title of this thread is very funny?
(There are several different interpretations possible here and each one is funnier than the next.)
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2004, at 9:47:40
In reply to Re: Sex, posted by Dr. Bob on September 9, 2004, at 0:51:41
Thanks, Dr. Bob. I hadn't realized that she had been considered a guest expert. I wish I had. :)
I thought she had just dropped by at your request informally.
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2004, at 9:49:27
In reply to Re: Sex - Dr. Bob and anyone, posted by KaraS on September 9, 2004, at 1:37:11
It wasn't unintentional. We were aiming to archive the board, and I was hoping the subject line would elicit a lot of replies. :)
Although naturally I was serious about the content as well.
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2004, at 10:36:43
In reply to Re: Sex, posted by Dr. Bob on September 9, 2004, at 0:51:41
Dr. Bob. Do you suppose you could ask her back as a more official guest expert? Or someone else? I have several specific questions I would really like to ask a guest expert, and would have if I had been aware she was acting as a guest expert.
Either on Social or on Health?
Posted by vwoolf on September 9, 2004, at 13:48:09
In reply to Re: Sex, posted by Dr. Bob on September 9, 2004, at 0:51:41
Thanks for the link.
I have managed to read some of the posts, which seem to deal mostly with problems of physical dysfunction due to medication, and “normal” intimacy between husband and wife. I think that I, and maybe several others here who were traumatically sexualized as children, have issues that might be more disturbing and that might put the board more severely to the test. Not because we would use words that would offend, but the facts might. Triggering too.
I would love to be able to share some of my experiences and fantasies with others like me, and know that they are accepted. I have never been able to share them with anyone. In my long life I have only been able to talk about these things with my therapist, and even with her I am very concise - if she dares to ask for detail I feel re-abused.
Perhaps I could start by posting a short piece about an incestuous incident in the Writing section. If that is not too explicit, I will go forward from there. Or should I submit it to you first, Dr Bob?
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 10, 2004, at 11:19:45
In reply to Re: Sex, posted by vwoolf on September 9, 2004, at 13:48:09
> Do you suppose you could ask her back as a more official guest expert? ... I have several specific questions I would really like to ask a guest expert, and would have if I had been aware she was acting as a guest expert.
>
> Either on Social or on Health?
>
> DinahNo problem, I just emailed her. Sorry it wasn't more clear last time. Do you have a preference, Social or Health?
> Perhaps I could start by posting a short piece about an incestuous incident in the Writing section. If that is not too explicit, I will go forward from there. Or should I submit it to you first, Dr Bob?
>
> vwoolfI think it would be fine just to go ahead and post it. Thanks for raising these issues,
Bob
Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2004, at 12:15:50
In reply to Re: Sex, posted by Dr. Bob on September 10, 2004, at 11:19:45
Posted by vwoolf on September 10, 2004, at 14:26:52
In reply to Re: Sex, posted by Dr. Bob on September 10, 2004, at 11:19:45
This is the end of the thread.
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