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Posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 14:55:49
So a co-worker got walked out the front door today. She had a hard time coming in to work on time, staying awake on the job, doing quality work, and developing a work ethic. Not a valued employee.
That said; when she started here and we got to talking, I was the person who suggested she see a p-doc and get some help for the depression she was feeling. I'm twice her age, and I did make some suggestions to her to improve her acceptance here at work - like showing up.
People get laid off all the time in the construction industry - jobs come and go. She was an administrative clerk, but her departure has brought me to tears. I can't even say we were friends, but here I am with mascara dribbling down my cheeks. (I tried water proof mascara and it makes me look like I only have 3 eyelashes.)
Why do I feel like a cry baby?
Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 6, 2004, at 15:09:38
In reply to Why am I so sensitive?, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 14:55:49
Hey, I am sensitive too. I know that our culture doesn't really praise this trait. But, being more sensitive makes us feel life much more intensely. While you feel this sadness, you will also feel other good things more intensely too. You savor things in life. I think that's an outstanding trait!
Sensitive people are the ones that figured out how others would react and what would their next move be in war time. The others, went to war. Which side would you want to be on?
Feelers are the artist, musicians, and writers. Now, those are wonderful. I am sure the thinkers would approve.
Posted by daisym on August 6, 2004, at 15:36:41
In reply to Re: Why am I so sensitive?, posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 6, 2004, at 15:09:38
I think being sensitive makes you appreciate life's little gifts.
For me, anyone leaving triggers a tearful response that is very old, very deep and painful. And I hate to see anyone unhappy...I want to "fix" it or comfort them. Even if I know they "earned" their unhappiness. When my husband yells at our kids for something, I want to protect them...even when I know that if it had been me to discover whatever it is they did, I would have yelled at them too.
I'm sorry this has made you unhappy. Maybe you need to do something to cheer yourself up. Shopping always works for me...besides that, TGIF!
Posted by B2chica on August 6, 2004, at 15:56:18
In reply to Why am I so sensitive?, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 14:55:49
((((((((partlycloudy))))))))
i am sorry you are so sad right now so i want to start off with a big hug for you.i'd just kind of like to say that sometimes i can become sensitive like that in two different ways. sometimes i'm sad for that person, what they will now have to deal with, money, new job, unemployment, pain of being let go...etc., etc, etc.(and i really do go on and on) That is showing empathy for a person, but remember there is nothing you could have done to prevent this. The other way is sometimes i get caught in the loop of the emotion, meaning i separate the emotion from the individual. So basically it could have been anyone and i would still be destraught over what happened- for me this is the most dangerous and most painful. i think this is the empathic(ness?) (note difference between empathy and empathic) because the emotion they feel surrounds you- if i want to get away from it i try to avoid closeness or eyecontact with that individual-i've also learned to close myself off (doesn't always work). Sometimes i think this is part of depression that we may become more sensitive to emotions when in this state??? i just don't know. all i do know is that either one is painful and i don't know any way to prevent it. i'm sorry
-in the corner of my mind there's one other thing and i think daisym started to touch on that. but could you maybe be dealing with issues of abandonment? it's possible that deep inside (aware or not) it could be setting off some of these emotions?
either way i know i'm not much help but i would love to just give you some comfort somehow...know i am with you right now, understanding your ache inside. know that it Will lessen. be good to yourself today ok?
and it's ok if it looks like you only have three eyelashes, it's better than one eyebrow right?
;^)i love what shadows wrote below. I second and third this!!!
>>Feelers are the artist, musicians, and writers. Now, those are wonderful.B2c
> People get laid off all the time in the construction industry - jobs come and go. She was an administrative clerk, but her departure has brought me to tears. I can't even say we were friends, but here I am with mascara dribbling down my cheeks. (I tried water proof mascara and it makes me look like I only have 3 eyelashes.)
Posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 17:01:25
In reply to Re: Why am I so sensitive? » partlycloudy, posted by B2chica on August 6, 2004, at 15:56:18
I was eating my dinner and my front tooth broke off at the gumline. I'm crying AND I look like trailer trash. Off to the dentist for an $$emergency$$ appointment.
Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 6, 2004, at 17:28:43
In reply to It goes downhill from there..., posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 17:01:25
Oh, NO! I am sorry about your tooth.
Posted by ghost on August 6, 2004, at 17:40:13
In reply to It goes downhill from there..., posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 17:01:25
OH NO! I hope you're not in too much pain.
As for your coworker... it's too bad she left, and it's really sweet of you to be distraught over it-- it makes me happy that someone can care so much about someone they don't know *that* well. i bet she's happy she met you, too.
*hugs*
ghost
Posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 19:16:41
In reply to Re: It goes downhill from there... » partlycloudy, posted by ghost on August 6, 2004, at 17:40:13
He fixed my tooth. It didn't hurt (tooth had been root canalled) and he talked non stop for the entire hour while he rebuilt me. I can't believe I have a dentist like this.
Posted by ghost on August 6, 2004, at 19:42:07
In reply to MY DENTIST IS A G@D!!!, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 19:16:41
Posted by gardenergirl on August 6, 2004, at 22:38:39
In reply to MY DENTIST IS A G@D!!!, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 19:16:41
Wow, what a day. I hope you had a nice evening and got some relaxation in. And did your dentist put you in the treatment room where the pics of him shirtless are? What? Your dentist doesn't have pictures of himself half naked in his office? Well heck. How tacky is my dentist. Nice chest, though. Very well defined.
Take care. I love your sensitivity.
gg
Posted by JenStar on August 6, 2004, at 23:37:47
In reply to MY DENTIST IS A G@D!!!, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 19:16:41
glad to hear you got it taken care of! It's nice when medical people go out of their way to be wonderful. Now do you get to treat yourself to a milkshake or icecream like after getting teeth pulled? (Of course, no excuse should really be needed for sweets, right?)
Take care.
JenStar
Posted by Emme on August 6, 2004, at 23:40:38
In reply to MY DENTIST IS A G@D!!!, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 19:16:41
Posted by Angela2 on August 7, 2004, at 15:57:28
In reply to Why am I so sensitive?, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 14:55:49
Partlycloudy,
Do you think you reacted the way you did because it could be you leaving and not her? It seems like in your post you are saying that you were both similar people (in that you both need to see a pdoc). its ok to feel this way. I am a little unclear as to why you are upset so maybe I am all wrong. But I think its sweet that you cared about her.
Angela
Posted by B2chica on August 7, 2004, at 17:04:48
In reply to It goes downhill from there..., posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 17:01:25
OHHHHHH, Sweeeet (((((((((((partlycloudy))))))))))))))
How frightening and upsetting. I am sooo sorry. (though i'm sure you still look BEAUTIFUL. i hope you appointment goes well. Becareful for infection.
Let us know how it goes. HUGS
B2c.
Posted by B2chica on August 7, 2004, at 17:05:41
In reply to MY DENTIST IS A G@D!!!, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 19:16:41
AWESOME PC!!
b2c.
Posted by Angela2 on August 7, 2004, at 17:12:22
In reply to MY DENTIST IS A G@D!!!, posted by partlycloudy on August 6, 2004, at 19:16:41
Thats awesome.
Posted by Angela2 on August 7, 2004, at 17:15:11
In reply to Re: MY DENTIST IS A G@D!!!, posted by gardenergirl on August 6, 2004, at 22:38:39
Gardengirl,
What a funny/ weird dentist you have!
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