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Posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 8:58:05
I have such a hard time handling my daily affairs. I am suppose to be cleaning the house right now while the kids are at vacation bible camp. I look around and there is so much to get done because I haven't kept up with it I feel so overwhelmed and just want to cry. So the thought is to not let it get to the state it is at. However, on a daily basis I can't get done all the things that need to get done and I get depressed and less gets done. All I want to do right now is stay here and keep writing ( I complain too much about what is going on with me). I feel like I am trying to understand myself and why I can not handle situations. The day that I am accepted for who I am and able to fit in is the day that much of my stress will go away. Ruminating about the fact that I don't accomplish anything is not helping the matter. I am so twisted by if I would accomplish something I would feel more confident. My head actually hurts when I try to think about what needs to get done that I have to walk away. I also think I am gun shy to accomplish tasks because they will never be done correctly and I will feel more frustrated that I spent the time to do them. This is such little stuff that hampers me which makes it even harder for me, all I want to do is say oh well and go to sleep. I need to do these things.
Posted by justyourlaugh on June 22, 2004, at 9:24:56
In reply to Handling Daily Affairs, posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 8:58:05
...you have no time to clean with all your "daily affairs"..my goodness!
start small, swish out a toilette and cross it off your list..
turn on some tunes...maybe billy idol to get you moving..make your bed and your room will look clean..boil an onion and everyone thinks you cooked!-maybe that one would tease everyone..hee hee..
give yourself a break
eat a bon bon
jyl
Posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 9:32:47
In reply to no wonder... » littlep24, posted by justyourlaugh on June 22, 2004, at 9:24:56
Thanks jyl,
I wish that doing the small things would take away the pain of feeling like I am not good enough. My kids want me to do things with them all the time and blow them off and cry because I don't have the patience to sit with them. I want to do it all and feel better about myself. I hope that someday I will, before my kids don't need me anymore.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 9:36:27
In reply to no wonder... » littlep24, posted by justyourlaugh on June 22, 2004, at 9:24:56
Bon bons! You can only eat them if you have pink fluffy slippers and a toy dog for your lap.
Little, you'll hear this a lot here, but "take it easy on yourself". Don't feel you must be productive and a perfect housekeeper every day. Trust me, it all can wait.
Posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 10:05:53
In reply to Re: no wonder... » justyourlaugh, posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 9:36:27
PartlyCloudy,
Thanks for the thoughts. I am particularly down today so I am ranting alot, actually I always do I find it the best way to get my thoughts out.
There is many times that I have said hey it is ok. Then I look around me and say oh my goodness look at what my kids are growing up in. A constant battle of it is moms job to teach the kids to clean up after themselves and what actually happens is make can't handle doing that so it just accumalates until all hell lets loose.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 10:20:55
In reply to Re: no wonder... » partlycloudy, posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 10:05:53
You know what? I grew up in a very tidy house. My mom was miserable, but we were clean. When I looked at where we lived, I didn't see the absence of dust or the presence of order, I could only see the unhappiness.
Take good care of yourself,
pc
Posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 10:32:49
In reply to A tidy house » littlep24, posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 10:20:55
PC,
That is such good advice. I do give my children alot of love and I feel it is what I can give and is more important than a clean home. The difference is between my husband and I on this thought and unfortunately takes away from the love. We will fight this.
Posted by TexasChic on June 22, 2004, at 10:44:19
In reply to Re: no wonder... » justyourlaugh, posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 9:32:47
I have the same problem, I let things go and then get completely overwhelmed. I also go from one extreme to another, from freakishly clean to total chaos. I have such a hard time being organized, I have to make *detailed* lists and give myself reminders just to deal with everyday life.
One trick you might try that has worked for me is to go for organized rather than clean. For instance, pick up the living room, but don't worry about vacuuming and dusting yet. Just go around the house putting things back where they belong. You can't 'fail' at this. When you're done, you can start cleaning, one task at a time, and it won't feel so chaotic.
May I ask if you're on any medication for your depression? Are you seeing a therapist? These two things helped me tremendously with my debilitating depression. Without them its like pushing against a brick wall. Try to remember this is a physical illness, caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. You can't beat yourself up for things you do (or don't do) while in this condition.
And don't worry about using Babble to rant, that's what we all do. Its what its here for!
Posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 10:47:59
In reply to Re: no wonder... » littlep24, posted by TexasChic on June 22, 2004, at 10:44:19
TexasChic,
Thanks for your ideas I will try to implement them. Yes I do take meds and see a T. Unfortunately, I have found over 10 years and many therapist that I have not learned how to deal with my negative thoughts and issues. What I have done is allowed myself to wallow in my own self pity and I am working hard to overcome that.
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