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Posted by helenag on February 28, 2004, at 14:25:33
In six weeks, my entire family will be here for my sister's baby's baptism. (She is coming here from her home in France.) We have not been together (all six children) in a long long time. While I am looking forward to seeing everyone, my one sister, whom I love, but cannot stand, is planning a "sibling day," wherein she will gather us all for a day of fun and hiliarity. Great. Nothing like increasing my anxiety and wishing I could escape this hours long entrapment. I do want to visit with my brothers and sisters but do not want to be with them all day long with no visible means of escape. I am currently having personal problems of my own, experience my sisters as bossy, nosy, and not easy to talk to, and I would never confide in them. It would be exhausting for me to spend this much time with them. HELP!!!! How can I gracefully bow out of this half way thru???
I'd love to join them maybe just for lunch???Anyone with any words of help????? Thanks.
Posted by B2chica on February 28, 2004, at 14:59:15
In reply to Re:eek, help...siblings soon descending...., posted by helenag on February 28, 2004, at 14:25:33
Although i'm a believer in being as upfront as possible, there have been Many Many Many times that i just want to be left alone. and don't want to be even a little social (to hard sometimes...you know) So if you can't be upfront and just say you don't want to go with them then here are a few oldies but goodies.
*work or school is an easy excuse for me (use the school/homework one alot-go to go to the library and study)
*However, are any of them staying with you? you can use the hostess excuse (you need to do some clean-up before they come over that evening?) or prepare food, going to the grocery store...needing to stay home and prepare a meal?
*What about a sick friend that you promised you'd go and visit for an hour and it just happens to be when they are leaving to go but you'll catch up with them for lunch (but you better have another one in for the afternoon otherwise you'll get roped in there...)
*For the evening, you are just getting over a sinus infection/or stomach virus and still taking antibiotics that make you really sleepy so you will probably go to bed early.
*just general getting out of the house...you are on this fitness kick and have a strict regimine of going out walking for at least an hour (your choice of evening or morning)-this is long enough for them to plan their day and get going. though be cautious they may "hold their plans to wait for you..."
HTH
B2c.
Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 28, 2004, at 21:18:18
In reply to Re:eek, help...siblings soon descending.... » helenag, posted by B2chica on February 28, 2004, at 14:59:15
If your family knows you are sick, then just say "I'm sorry, but I have to leave, I'm not feeling well" Your family will understand, and they'll let you go. Hopefully, no embarrassing questions.
Even if they don't know, you should be able to do the same. Its not unusual for people to leave when they really need to.
Go and spend time with your siblings, and enjoy it, but don't stay so long that you suffer because of it.
Dee.
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