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Posted by daydreamer on December 29, 2003, at 14:36:30
Why is it that everytime I see a new head-doctor. He/she asks me-- "so, what about your sexual orientation?"
Well what about it?
Yes Im gay...But I didnt choose my being bi-polar, and I sure as h*ll didnt choose to be a homosexual.
Is it common for Bi-polars to be bi-?Ive heard lots of yes's and no's from different doc's. Its always a uncomfortable issue for them to talk about. (If its so uncomfortable, perhaps they should reavaluate their own "interests")
(slightly bitter today... dont mind me)
Posted by Angielala on December 29, 2003, at 14:42:13
In reply to Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by daydreamer on December 29, 2003, at 14:36:30
What??? i have never been asked that... strange. I say ask why they wanted to know... what a strange thing to need to know...
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> Why is it that everytime I see a new head-doctor. He/she asks me-- "so, what about your sexual orientation?"
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> Well what about it?
> Yes Im gay...
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> But I didnt choose my being bi-polar, and I sure as h*ll didnt choose to be a homosexual.
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> Is it common for Bi-polars to be bi-?
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> Ive heard lots of yes's and no's from different doc's. Its always a uncomfortable issue for them to talk about. (If its so uncomfortable, perhaps they should reavaluate their own "interests")
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> (slightly bitter today... dont mind me)
Posted by daydreamer on December 29, 2003, at 15:42:56
In reply to Re: Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by Angielala on December 29, 2003, at 14:42:13
> What??? i have never been asked that... strange. I say ask why they wanted to know... what a strange thing to need to know...
I suppose I must look the part. So I have short hair-- a couple of piercings--
Hey- so what that Im a 22 year old Manic Depressive- artistic- repressed- jaded - mildly informative- on the verge of being an alcoholic- smoker- who's slightly a tomboy.I was rasied with a couple of hippies.. what more can I say?
Posted by judy1 on December 30, 2003, at 12:05:22
In reply to Re: Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by daydreamer on December 29, 2003, at 15:42:56
usually I get the sex question- only because hypersexuality is such a hallmark of being manic (for me). I've never been asked about orientation though. It's not uncommon for truly manic episodes to include sex with multiple partners with different orientations, is it possible this is what the doc was going towards?
take care, judy
Posted by Karen_kay on December 30, 2003, at 15:06:10
In reply to Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by daydreamer on December 29, 2003, at 14:36:30
I'm dx with Bipolar Disorder and I've never been asked about my sexual orientation. I've experimented in the past and I've told my current therapist this, but not by him asking. Just by me opening my mouth and spewing forth the info. Strange that your doctors always ask. If I'm in a situation where I'm asked questions that I'd rather not answer, I'll usually say, "Hmmm, now why do you want to know that?" If I like the response I'll answer the question. If not, I won't. But, I'm usually more curious about the motivation behind the question than the actual question..... That's just me.
Posted by daydreamer on December 31, 2003, at 10:29:31
In reply to Re: Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by Karen_kay on December 30, 2003, at 15:06:10
Its not that I mind---
Id rather have a woman as my sexual partner as is..
which would make me "gay"..Though I have had alot of "sexual partners".
In just 5 years... (more fingers and toes than I have).
I guess I never saw anything wrong with it... because I was just sleeping with (mostly) women.I suppose its my mania..
Its a thrill, its excitement, its someone to love you for just those few moments..
and in moments where you feel so alone and vulnerable in your life..a little sex, can go a long way..
emotionally.
Posted by judy1 on December 31, 2003, at 11:17:36
In reply to Re: Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by daydreamer on December 31, 2003, at 10:29:31
there's a wonderful book entitled "Electroboy" (a memoir of mania) by Andy Behrman. He also has a site www.electroboy.com A huge part of his manic episodes were sex with multiple partners-both male and female. sometimes we don't realize what is part of our disorder and what is not. Personally I feel a great deal of guilt about my activities when manic (I'm married and have children), so I know it's my disorder because I don't engage in that behavior when I'm not manic. Are you dxed bp1 or 2? what meds are you on?
take care, judy
Posted by daydreamer on January 2, 2004, at 12:51:07
In reply to Re: Bi-polar and Sexuality? » daydreamer, posted by judy1 on December 31, 2003, at 11:17:36
One (doctor) argues Bp1, the other Bp2...
Im not so quick to love myself...
which in turn, never really happens.At times, I feel so embaressed and foolish for what Ive done. At other moments, Im seeking that foolish act to be fulfilled once more.
I cant claim to be a nympho- its just I dont respect myself like I should.
To love, to hate..
To admire, to disgust..
To bleed, to patch...its all the contradiction of my disease.
Posted by Angielala on January 5, 2004, at 10:55:36
In reply to Re: Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by daydreamer on December 29, 2003, at 15:42:56
So that's why I get hit on by girls all the time. I was unaware that a girl with short hair and some piercings that was raised by two hippies was automatically a lesiban. Man, people are stupid, even doctors....
> > What??? i have never been asked that... strange. I say ask why they wanted to know... what a strange thing to need to know...
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> Hey- so what that Im a 22 year old Manic Depressive- artistic- repressed- jaded - mildly informative- on the verge of being an alcoholic- smoker- who's slightly a tomboy.
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> I was rasied with a couple of hippies.. what more can I say?
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Posted by sarita0001 on January 5, 2004, at 18:27:30
In reply to Bi-polar and Sexuality?, posted by daydreamer on December 29, 2003, at 14:36:30
Hi,
I was diagnosed bipolar at 17 and I go out with both men and women. The longest relationship I had was with a guy-5 years. I don't think sexuality has a conenction to bipolar disorder but I could be wrong. For me, I think it has more to do with the history of the relationships with my mom and dad. Now I tend to trust women way more than men. I think it just depends on the individual and their history of relationships.
Sara
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