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Posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 14:18:29
At this point, now that I've read ALL the posts, I am finished posting, responding, defending myself concerning THIS issue. You can say and feel anything you please, you have that right.
I will not respond, rest assured.
I said I don't want anymore drama, nor will I cause it anymore, and I'm sticking by my word.
Galkeepinon (yes, I) has not caused any trouble since coming back, causing emotions to be stirred up~of course...................for making amends.
For the LAST time I am saying sorry.
I can do no more.
I wish you nothing but the best in truly looking at your emotions, thinking about them, healing them, and moving on!
Maybe I am in a different place than those of you who are so bitter towards me, I leave those who are so angry with me, lying about me, lying about themselves and the part they played, condemning me, don't know how to forgive, don't want to forgive, and one's I just cannot and without a doubt just will never *get through to* with this thought for yourselves.....
If you were in *my* position, how would you feel?
Again, I am NOT responding to anymore posts, nor apologizing again for the upteenth time.
***Please remember this board is for everyone***
I'm done discussing this issue, and, well, if any lies about what I did come up, instead of responding, I'll just turn it over to God. People will believe what they want, some here don't even care, and some prefer to focus on more positive things. More power to them...
I am D-O-N-E with this issue, it serves no purpose for me to respond or explain anymore than the large amount I have already. Why don't you take the attention off me now, and deal with your feelings amongst each other. I did my part by making amends~period.
I wish you all the best in dealing with your feelings, I know that honesty is a good thing, I made my amends, I did the right thing, it is NOT my responsibility for what you say or do to continue making me look like such a monster.
Now, I have schoolwork to do, a 90 year-old grandmother to tend to, and yes, a puppy to go hug.
I wish you the best in changing your hearts, not just concerning me, but in your life in general. I guarantee you that there will be many people in your life that bring up such emotions that have been displayed here, I wish you the best in dealing with them and healing for yourselves...~Bob, thank you for everything you've done and said to support and help me regarding all this, I'm moving on. You are a good person and very, very understanding~thank you!~
Kristen
Posted by justyourlaugh on October 7, 2003, at 14:54:09
In reply to Thank You~Best Wishes In Healing and Moving On, posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 14:18:29
Posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 15:10:26
In reply to Thank You~Best Wishes In Healing and Moving On, posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 14:18:29
Yeah people have the right to have their say. "Saying anything", though...well they aren't just saying anything. They are telling the truth about a hurtful situation. Tabitha captured the feeling of (most of) the board quite eloquently, i think.
>>I said I don't want anymore drama, nor will I cause it anymore, and I'm sticking by my word.
Yes that is what you said, but unfortunately for the people that were mauled by your words, just seeing you post or seeing you here...is drama. I don't mean your kind of drama (you know, like a DRAMATIC actress). Not the kind of drama that applies to your situation or the kind I think you mean.
- but trauma.>> Galkeepinon (yes, I) has not caused any trouble
I just don't think you can separate the two. Or the actions of the two (or three or four...)because you are one in the same. If I pushed you down several flights of stairs (as Karen) and then came back wearing a mask, could I claim that I hadn't stirred anything up or harmed you because I'm now wearing a mask?????
>>...................for making amends.
That's not quite why you "stirred up emotions"!!!!! I think you know what I mean. Oh hell maybe you don't. i don't care.
>>For the LAST time I am saying sorry.
I can do no more.Actually I think it might help if you discontinued posting. No I take that back. it would defifnitely help. And I hope that Bob changes something around in the administration of this site to see to it that no one else can waltz in here and slay well-meaning, honest, caring people.
>>Maybe I am in a different place than those of you who
Oh you're in a different place, all right.
>>I leave those who are so angry with me, lying about me, lying about themselves and the part they played, condemning me, don't know how to forgive, don't want to forgive, and one's I just cannot and without a doubt just will never *get through to* with this thought for yourselves.....
If you were in *my* position, how would you feel?Hmmm, if I were in your position how would I feel? Like shit.
Well dear, doesn't look as if you'll have to turn anything over to God because no one is lying about you. And please leave religion out of this. Wow I think you have the honor of uttering the most sanctimonious words I've ever had the misfortune of reading.
Why would anyone make anything up about you?y? If they wanted to make up stories about you they would've been doing it long ago, after Krissy left the building.>>More power to them...
Same to you, lovely.
>>Why don't you take the attention off me now, and deal with your feelings amongst each other.
You hit the nail on the head! Yay! Man that's what we've been trying to do this whole time...but but but, you seemed to really want it so...
>>I guarantee you that there will be many people in your life that bring up such emotions that have been displayed here,
Wow would that be a money back guarantee? Because I'd really like to take you up on it. You see, you are much more powerful than you give yourself credit for. You have actually permanently scarred people. And don't think I for one will ever meet anyone like you in my life.
And I'm just fine with that.
I know you read this and I'm glad you're done responding. Thanks for letting me "share", as you call it.
Posted by Susan J on October 7, 2003, at 15:18:36
In reply to Thank You~Best Wishes In Healing and Moving On, posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 14:18:29
Gal, please.
I feel for you because you did a good thing by coming clean and apologizing. I'd like the fact you did that to bring some healing here. For yourself and others. But I think you are getting caught up with people's anger and getting defensive.
A defensive attitude cannot coexist with a sincere apology. You have to lay yourself bare on this one. Totally humble. Willing to take the beating. By getting defensive, you negate any good your apology might do for others, *and* any good it might do for you.
It's your penance to deal with angry and hurt posts here. Penance -- dictionary definition - says it much better than I could -- an act of self-abasement, mortification, or devotion performed to show sorrow or repentance for sin.
You felt the guilt of deception and it became too much for you. You figured the best thing to do was apologize. And I admire you for that. But just because you've had time to come to terms with your actions *doesn't* mean other people have had the time to do the same thing. This is all new to them, remember. Just because you are ready to seek forgiveness doesn't mean others are ready to forgive. And you *should not* expect them to be ready. You shouldn't condemn them for not being ready. You shouldn't condemn them if they *never* forgive you.
*Forgiveness is a gift, not an entitlement.*
Posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 15:48:32
In reply to Forgiveness is a Gift, Not an Entitlement » galkeepinon, posted by Susan J on October 7, 2003, at 15:18:36
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 8, 2003, at 14:00:48
In reply to Thank You~Best Wishes In Healing and Moving On, posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 14:18:29
> those who are ... lying about me, lying about themselves and the part they played ... don't know how to forgive, don't want to forgive
This may be a difficult time for you, but please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, thanks.
Bob
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