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Posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 4:33:27
Hello. I stumbled across this board when I was doing a search for the Joe Schmoe show and realized the person in the post I found was talking about a social phobia which is something that I had just been thinking about. I would ask if there is anyone else out there feeling the same way as I am but I've read a few of the posts and I realize that there is. I was doing the search for the Joe Schmoe show because I was thinking about the fact that it would be so cool to have people who accepted me like those people do of Joe Schmoe in that show.
After coming across this board I thought to myself that maybe if I could find some people with the same problems I have I wouldn't be so worried when I'm in their presence and a social life is something that I probobly desperately need. Pretty much right now I just go to college (I'm 24) and come home to sit around in my house since I'm tired of going out and dealing with the stress. I'm basically only making contact with my parents and my dogs right now. My self esteem is at an all time low and that's usually not something that attracts other people to want me in their social group.
I know this sounds pitful but, anyone out there want me...?
Posted by Wildflower on October 1, 2003, at 9:10:58
In reply to Hello, posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 4:33:27
> I know this sounds pitful but, anyone out there want me...?
We'll take you Yabba! You'll see that there are many people on this board with problems similar to yours. Sometimes it just helps to talk to others.
Welcome to the board!
Posted by fallsfall on October 1, 2003, at 9:39:05
In reply to Hello, posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 4:33:27
You came to the right place. A lot of us know how hard it is to get out of the house. And actually talk to people? Oh, dear. And have fun? Fun? What's that.
But sometimes we have good ideas for other people (even if we can't do them ourselves...). And we always have a listening ear.
So welcome to Babble
Posted by Penny on October 1, 2003, at 9:50:55
In reply to Hello, posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 4:33:27
Posted by Adia on October 1, 2003, at 12:05:57
In reply to Hello, posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 4:33:27
Hi there!
I'm new here myself, been posting on psychological b, but I wanted to say I am here too and you are welcome here.. :o)
You are not alone...
Take care,
Adia.
Hello. I stumbled across this board when I was doing a search for the Joe Schmoe show and realized the person in the post I found was talking about a social phobia which is something that I had just been thinking about. I would ask if there is anyone else out there feeling the same way as I am but I've read a few of the posts and I realize that there is. I was doing the search for the Joe Schmoe show because I was thinking about the fact that it would be so cool to have people who accepted me like those people do of Joe Schmoe in that show.
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> After coming across this board I thought to myself that maybe if I could find some people with the same problems I have I wouldn't be so worried when I'm in their presence and a social life is something that I probobly desperately need. Pretty much right now I just go to college (I'm 24) and come home to sit around in my house since I'm tired of going out and dealing with the stress. I'm basically only making contact with my parents and my dogs right now. My self esteem is at an all time low and that's usually not something that attracts other people to want me in their social group.
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> I know this sounds pitful but, anyone out there want me...?
Posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 18:39:08
In reply to Hello, posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 4:33:27
Well thank you for the welcome. I really appreciate it. I had an odd paranoid dream last night that no one replied to my message because they smelled the outcast in me heh.
After reading some messages here and pondering today I've decided all of my depression stems from social anxiety and the odd fears I have when I'm in public. I think my anxiety is due to the fact that I don't understand other people and what they expect. I feel like I think on a totally different wavelength then everyone else. Like when I walk across the college campus sometimes I'll notice people giving me odd looks and I'll think, "what the heck are they looking at me like that for?". I've started to think it's because of the assumedly anxious expression I have on my face and they must be wondering why that's there. Thoughts like that just cause the expression to become even more anxious and then my eyes start to get tired and that makes my expression even worse. I just can't wait to get to my car or to class so I can sit in the back row where no one can see my face. I used to wish that I could find some kind of wonder drug or something that would let me function like I wanted to in social situations but now I think I might lack the motivation or caring to bother with creating a social life. I just want to get rid of my anxiety so that I can get a job and pay the bills. I can't imagine living another 40 years like I am now with a full time job. I would be stressed out and tired at the end of every day and would hate to get up every single morning for work. I get tired of the odd expression people get on their face when I get anxious and wide eyed around people I don't know and there's no reason for my anxiety. They probobly think I have a bomb stashed somewhere nearby or something =[
This is the first time I've ever let anyone know I have this problem and I feel too embarrassed about it to even go talk to a counselor at the college's health center. I just decided to take Wildflower's advice and say it all since I guess I've been wanting someone to talk to about it anyway. I didn't think there was anyone else like me back in highschool when I would sit there at my table with a stiff neck just praying the day would be over with already.
It probobly all started in middle school when I got made fun of so much by the other boys. It seemed like it went on non stop. I had never been anxious or all that self concsious before that even though my 2 best friends (my 2 cousins that I hung out with ALL the time when I was in elemantry and middle school) made fun of me although I didn't realize at the time what they were doing I just figured that's how life is and never questioned their actions. I probobly put up with it because I didn't have many friends, I just didn't make friends very easily for some reason.
And.. if you've made it all the way here, thanks for reading =]
Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2003, at 19:14:43
In reply to Re: Thank you - warning - decent sized story, posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 18:39:08
I sort of think that if there's a h*ll (Dr. Bob, can we skip the asterisks if we're referring to the place?), it'll be just like middle school. As the designated picked on kid, I know how much it can affect your view of yourself. I've found Babble to be a very reparative sort of place. I hope you do too.
Posted by fallsfall on October 1, 2003, at 21:36:18
In reply to Re: Thank you - warning - decent sized story, posted by yabba on October 1, 2003, at 18:39:08
I'm glad you could share your story with us. I don't have social anxiety, but I believe that it really is fairly common. Probably people have it to different degrees, but yours is clearly not the most severe (Agoraphobic people don't even leave their houses). I'm sure that it makes each day very uncomfortable, and limits what you feel that you can do. That doesn't sound like fun.
I would encourage you to go see the counselor at your school. I promise you that they have heard much stranger stories than yours. They won't think badly of you at all. They will be impressed that you came in for help. There really is help (both meds and therapy) that could make you feel better. You could start out by explaining how scared you are to be there with the counselor - this, too, will not be anything unusual for them. They are there to help you. Please think about giving it a chance.
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 2, 2003, at 19:45:41
In reply to Re: Thank you - warning - decent sized story » yabba, posted by Dinah on October 1, 2003, at 19:14:43
> (Dr. Bob, can we skip the asterisks if we're referring to the place?)
It looks like you can always skip them...
Bob
Posted by Dinah on October 2, 2003, at 20:00:10
In reply to Re: asterisks, posted by Dr. Bob on October 2, 2003, at 19:45:41
Posted by jay on October 2, 2003, at 23:42:49
In reply to Re: What do you mean? (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 2, 2003, at 20:00:10
I think he means the word hell isn't on his 'bad word' list....
just IMHO...Jay
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 3, 2003, at 18:40:55
In reply to Re: What do you mean? » Dinah, posted by jay on October 2, 2003, at 23:42:49
Posted by Dinah on October 3, 2003, at 20:46:21
In reply to Re: right (nm), posted by Dr. Bob on October 3, 2003, at 18:40:55
It's still costs him 25 cents in the curse box. Unless he's using it in the religous context.
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