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Posted by giget on July 16, 2003, at 8:38:27
Kara,
How are things going for you? I have had major issues with a project at work, and could not get back to you in time yesterday....I am a bit freaking out with the ex... And am to the point again that I just want to call and say I will be anything you want if you just take me back, and we can be happy again. I miss that feeling.
I know I can never have it back, but still have not let go of him...
How is your moving stuff?
Posted by kara lynne on July 16, 2003, at 12:54:19
In reply to Kara, how are you doing?, posted by giget on July 16, 2003, at 8:38:27
Hi giget,
I'm sorry to hear you're not doing so well. I want to support you in not calling him in case you were really going to--spare yourself the humiliation. You are young yet and have so many opportunites in front of you.How long were you with him? I'm so sorry that you have to see him at work, that makes it awfully difficult. On the other hand maybe it will remind you of how he really is. You've done well not calling him so far---let's do what (gracie? oops, memory lapse, sorry) said and picture these guys betting that we can't live without them and will be calling any minute. We can't give 'em that!
I know it's hard. I wanted to call my ex with a vengence (!) last night. I lied in bed and pictured him with someone else--saw myself driving over to his house, barging in and getting hysterical. I became a crazy woman in my imagination, desperate to get him back while he and his new girlfriend just looked pitifully at me and threatened to call the police.
Not a good plan. I'm off to work now. All I have left is prayer, what little I can muster, that I won't feel this way forever.
I pray that you won't either.
Posted by giget on July 16, 2003, at 13:06:44
In reply to Re: Kara, how are you doing?, posted by kara lynne on July 16, 2003, at 12:54:19
I was with him for 5 years, then on and off for 2 years. I hope I just can stop humiliating myself, that truthfully what it is.
Well I think I am going to need some support with this... It just started to resurface in the past week. So I have the dreams and everything else of him, wake up and grab my phone to call... that is what I always did before and he loved it. But I fight not to call... Sometimes I even win.
Thanks for asking... You said you had a hard time last night, what brought that on? Was it something that came up or just the normal sitting down and it pops into your head?
I am here for ya sister
> Hi giget,
> I'm sorry to hear you're not doing so well. I want to support you in not calling him in case you were really going to--spare yourself the humiliation. You are young yet and have so many opportunites in front of you.
>
> How long were you with him? I'm so sorry that you have to see him at work, that makes it awfully difficult. On the other hand maybe it will remind you of how he really is. You've done well not calling him so far---let's do what (gracie? oops, memory lapse, sorry) said and picture these guys betting that we can't live without them and will be calling any minute. We can't give 'em that!
>
> I know it's hard. I wanted to call my ex with a vengence (!) last night. I lied in bed and pictured him with someone else--saw myself driving over to his house, barging in and getting hysterical. I became a crazy woman in my imagination, desperate to get him back while he and his new girlfriend just looked pitifully at me and threatened to call the police.
>
> Not a good plan. I'm off to work now. All I have left is prayer, what little I can muster, that I won't feel this way forever.
>
> I pray that you won't either.
>
>
Posted by ROO on July 16, 2003, at 14:19:24
In reply to Re: Kara, how are you doing?, posted by giget on July 16, 2003, at 13:06:44
"I lied in bed and pictured him with someone
else--saw myself driving over to his house,
barging in and getting hysterical. I became a
crazy woman in my imagination, desperate to
get him back while he and his new girlfriend
just looked pitifully at me and threatened to
call the police."
Oh my gosh, this is so funny--I've had anger fantasies
involving an ex that were _just_ like that! In fact,
in one of them, after I burst into the house, demanding him back,
a big fight ensues, where I jump on his back and I'm just livid...I
said to his girlfriend "Do you think you can have what's MINE?!" And
like your fantasy/nightmare...they just look at me pitifully and call
the police. That's what makes it even worse--that they're so calm and
I'm so hysterical...they really pity me...Once I could actually laugh at the fantasy...actually I think I did
laugh when I pictured myself jumping on his back...I realized "Man, I should
start writing down these little fantasies...it would probably be therapeutic and
it's funny anyway...and maybe eventually they could be scenes in a book or something"...So I started writing them down. You should try it...put some of that
great writing ability you have to use!
Posted by kara lynne on July 16, 2003, at 18:25:53
In reply to Re: Kara, how are you doing? Kara Lynn, posted by ROO on July 16, 2003, at 14:19:24
Oh, I'm so glad to hear it--I felt so demented!
I'm sitting at work and there's a woman in the waiting room right in front of me. She's reading "to herself", but whispering all her siblilant s's so that's *all* I can focus on. I've shot her dirty looks and put my hands over my ears, but she still doesn't get it. It's making me crazy, and I'm going to leave the desk and the computer!
Thank you so much for telling me this, ROO.
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