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Posted by Questionmark on March 30, 2003, at 1:54:10
Honestly, is it too late?
Even if..., is it too late now anyway?
Is it too late?
Posted by Alara on March 30, 2003, at 2:03:24
In reply to Is it too late?, posted by Questionmark on March 30, 2003, at 1:54:10
Is it too late for what?
Posted by Questionmark on March 31, 2003, at 1:10:34
In reply to I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by Alara on March 30, 2003, at 2:03:24
> Is it too late for what?
... to create a satisfying, purposeful life; to become a competent, well-adjusted, happy, GOOD individual; to make an adequate difference; to live.?. Even if a cure was found for this... self, does it even matter? Is it too late to live regardless... regardless?
i know the kind answer might be "no, it's not too late," but is it the truth? What if i was 98?
Posted by justyourlaugh on March 31, 2003, at 13:34:47
In reply to Re: I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by Questionmark on March 31, 2003, at 1:10:34
i dont think anyone can answer that ..
only you can..
i would hate for someone to give up because the answers are so hard to find..
be strong
peace
jyl
Posted by tina on March 31, 2003, at 15:01:07
In reply to Re: I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by Questionmark on March 31, 2003, at 1:10:34
George Dawson, the grandson of a slave, who lived in Texas, learned to read and write at 98 and at 101, he wrote his autobiography, "Life is So Good"
So you see ?, it's never too late to make a good change to your life. It's never too late for your dreams.
Posted by Questionmark on April 1, 2003, at 0:03:32
In reply to Re: I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by tina on March 31, 2003, at 15:01:07
> George Dawson, the grandson of a slave, who lived in Texas, learned to read and write at 98 and at 101, he wrote his autobiography, "Life is So Good"
> So you see ?, it's never too late to make a good change to your life. It's never too late for your dreams.Hah, wow. That's so cool. i love hearing that kind of stuff. i feel like there's an important part missing from the whole story though-- like if the autobiography was only 3 pages long or something. No but regardless, that's really cool. Thank you for that.
(Thank you for your comments as well, JustYourLaugh)
Posted by dogboy on April 1, 2003, at 4:35:53
In reply to Re: I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by Questionmark on March 31, 2003, at 1:10:34
> i know the kind answer might be "no, it's not too late," but is it the truth? What if i was 98?
Then it would still not be too late. Unless you were also dead.
Things can change, albeit slowly. I spent at least 5 years struggling through every day with nothing to live for. All I felt I had to look forward to was my eventual inevitable death of natural causes. That was my only comforting thought: "Some day I'll die anyway, and it won't be more than 50 or 60 years away. That's not so long. I can wait."
Now, unbelievably, I am glad that I stuck it out. Life has got much better.
I really hope you have some temporary relief from the bad place you are in right now. Hang in there.
Posted by noa on April 1, 2003, at 4:37:04
In reply to Re: I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by Questionmark on April 1, 2003, at 0:03:32
Think "redemption".
There are great, easily "accessible" examples of redemption in literature and films, as well as real life stories like the one Tina cited.
A nice, obvious, example (it has the word redemption in the title!)is the story of the character played by Morgan Freeman in "Shawshank Redemption." If you haven't seen the movie, I won't give it away, but it is a nice story of how life can begin anew at any age.
Posted by tina on April 1, 2003, at 15:21:42
In reply to Re: I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by Questionmark on April 1, 2003, at 0:03:32
His autobiography is actually a few hundred pages. I'm reading it right now. It's one of those books that brings up every emotion that a body has in it. It's wonderful.
Hang in there questionmark. You'll make it through. It's never too late.
all the best
tina
Posted by Lou Pilder on April 1, 2003, at 16:28:10
In reply to Re: I'm going to ask the inevitable, Questionmark:, posted by Questionmark on March 31, 2003, at 1:10:34
Questionmark,
You wrote,[...is it ever too late to ...become well-adjusted...good...happy...have a purposeful life...].
I can tell you that there is. and I can tell you what I have experianced in relation to those that have these afflictions.
You see, I have a friend that has cerebral palsey. But he has [Overcome] his affliction. He still has cersbral palsey, but he does not let his affliction [weigh down] on him. Instead,he has reversed the weight of the affliction so that he is [on top] of it. Our afflictions weigh us down also. If we are captives to them, if we let them imprison us, with the weight of fear, guilt, shame, inferiority feelings, unusal exitment, feelings of hopelessness, dread, suicide wishes, and a plathora of other unwelcome thoughts that create a weight that seems impossible to be under at times and make us think that we are in a prison without a means to escape, then we need a Way, a way to be free from them.
And we can [Overcome]. The affliction will still be there, but we can have a victory over the effects of it, just like my friend that has the victory over cersbral palsey. His attitude is,[...I'm sitting on top of the world...], so what if I am limited, I can still rejoice in my infirmity. You might say, "how can one rejoice in there infirmity?" Well, if others could overcome their affliction, could not {us} [Overcome] also? So, [...is it too late?...]. There is a way to [Overcome] these afflictions, because they are afflictions of the mind. And our mind can be [...cleaned out...] of these horrible thoughts. We need to find a [cleansing] to purify the mind of this darkness so that we can see the light of the things that you asked if you could ever have. The light of {goodness}, {purpose}, {adjustment}...and other things that you could have left out in your post...]. Are we to be slaves to our affliction? Are our afflictions going to be shackles that take our liberty to live an abundant life away? Can we not have the victory over the affliction and have the shackles of slavery to these afflictions broken? Can we not be made free from these jaws of defeat? I do not know what course others may take, but it was said to me by a Rider on a White Horse:
"The SPIRIT of the Lord God is upon me:
Because the Lord has annointed Me to preach good tidings to the meek;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the oppening of the prison to those that are bound."
Lou
Posted by Alara on April 6, 2003, at 7:33:47
In reply to Lou's response to Questionmark's question » Questionmark, posted by Lou Pilder on April 1, 2003, at 16:28:10
Lou, that's an inspiring story. I once had a workmate who was witty, intelligent and a gorgeous person to boot. He also had cerebral palsy which affected one side of his body, leaving him semi-crippled in one arm and hand.
When I met him I never thought much about his disability. He was just Brett, my good mate.After I got to know Brett a little better, I learned that he (at the age of 27) had previously struggled with drug addiction, depression and gambling for many years. He had believed that it was `too late' to overcome his disability and tried to rebel against it as a consequence. He almost destroyed himself in the process.
Today Brett is a successful counsellor. Some people notice his disability because he can't control the position or movements of his hand - but most don't even regard him as `disabled'.
If Helen Keller could succeed as a person who was both deaf and blind, then the average person with depression or anxiety problems can also expect to have a lot of potential.
I just turned 33 and have finally realised that it is not over: Life begins when you want it to.
Questionmark, you can be the person that you want to be. Just listen to your heart.
We all get jaded at times but, if we push ahead, we can look forward to fulfilling lives.
Best wishes,
Alara
Posted by Questionmark on April 7, 2003, at 17:25:47
In reply to Re: Lou's response to Questionmark's question » Lou Pilder, posted by Alara on April 6, 2003, at 7:33:47
Posted by lostsailor on April 11, 2003, at 15:34:21
In reply to Thanks all. (nm), posted by Questionmark on April 7, 2003, at 17:25:47
Posted by lostsailor on April 12, 2003, at 9:42:47
In reply to been reading but not posting, sorry but yw? (nm), posted by lostsailor on April 11, 2003, at 15:34:21
Posted by Questionmark on April 14, 2003, at 2:05:23
In reply to above should read, 4 not potsing, but ty?t (nm), posted by lostsailor on April 12, 2003, at 9:42:47
Posted by lostsailor on April 14, 2003, at 20:36:50
In reply to i'm sorry, what? (nm) » lostsailor, posted by Questionmark on April 14, 2003, at 2:05:23
LMAO...
What I ment was your welcome, quetionmark. Being short on space I abbreviated your name with a ?. opps In peace, ~tony
Posted by Questionmark on April 15, 2003, at 1:18:08
In reply to Re: i'm sorry, what?---question mark (?), posted by lostsailor on April 14, 2003, at 20:36:50
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