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Posted by bozeman on March 25, 2003, at 22:52:11
In reply to Let's keep him blushin', girls! (nm), posted by kara lynne on March 25, 2003, at 21:26:48
Posted by lostsailor on March 25, 2003, at 22:54:51
In reply to Let's keep him blushin', girls! (nm), posted by kara lynne on March 25, 2003, at 21:26:48
Posted by bozeman on March 25, 2003, at 23:19:13
In reply to OMG, female attention--it's been a while ty all (nm), posted by lostsailor on March 25, 2003, at 22:54:51
Posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 0:24:29
In reply to OMG, female attention--it's been a while ty all (nm), posted by lostsailor on March 25, 2003, at 22:54:51
e. Oh that's tacky. I'm not so good with pick up lines. How 'bout... Will you be my cyber boyfriend?
Posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 0:38:53
In reply to Re: And look at that, he's modest too. How sweet! (nm) » lostsailor, posted by bozeman on March 25, 2003, at 23:19:13
Posted by lostsailor on March 26, 2003, at 1:07:15
In reply to Re: Next let's all hold him down and tickle him (nm), posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 0:38:53
Posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 1:31:55
In reply to now we're talking...!!! but I get to tickle back (nm), posted by lostsailor on March 26, 2003, at 1:07:15
around sweet sailor's wrists
Posted by lostsailor on March 26, 2003, at 2:07:34
In reply to Re: forgot to mention the fur-lined handcuffs, posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 1:31:55
Posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 3:01:45
In reply to Dr bobs dating sevice coming soon (fur cuffs)?lol (nm), posted by lostsailor on March 26, 2003, at 2:07:34
http://www.findcoolclothes.com/accessories/items/furLinedCuffs.htm
Posted by kara lynne on March 26, 2003, at 12:47:45
In reply to Re: forgot to mention the fur-lined handcuffs, posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 1:31:55
Tabby, you're pulling out all the stops now. It's hard to compete with fur lined handcuffs! Meow.
Posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 14:56:24
In reply to Re: forgot to mention the fur-lined handcuffs, posted by kara lynne on March 26, 2003, at 12:47:45
Posted by lostsailor on March 26, 2003, at 15:26:24
In reply to Re: just call me Tabby Kitten-with-a-Whip! ;-) (nm), posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 14:56:24
Posted by lostsailor on March 27, 2003, at 13:26:33
In reply to NO comment (nm), posted by lostsailor on March 26, 2003, at 15:26:24
I hope I am not being to promiscuous. Remember the Pee Wee Hearmen Movie (not the one he was at in the florida theatre) but when he lost his bike. I get what I call the lost bike symplex when I see so many walking hand in hand with lovers and my hands are swinging solo. I guess I subsitute his bike for a partner and I feel as sad and "lost" as he did. I have pleny of bikes,but...
I wonder, now, if that was kinda a metaphore in the movie for lonliness in general.
OMG, and while I have you here...if you followed my college links to SILS at Suny NY, I now realize that I basically told the whole boared literally where I live within a couple of miles radius. I did not even relize that until this mornig. I guess if you were to choose SILS, you have a friend in Buffalo already. Here is an actual link to the deparment, if you ever want to check it out
http://www.informatics.buffalo.edu/lis/
I looked at it in more detail this Am, as I might call my old advisor for some feedback on if I should go back, even though her and hubby now took full faculty positions in Florida and realized that between the two of them there CV's come to over 200 pages. I am really amazed at all of the work they have done.
Thanks for everything. ((tab))...~me
Posted by Tabitha on March 28, 2003, at 13:46:59
In reply to tabitha..., posted by lostsailor on March 27, 2003, at 13:26:33
Hi, I have that PeeWee movie. Love the scene with the snakes in the burning petshop.
If I'm ever in Buffalo you'll be the first person I look up. My notions of career switching are on hold now. My plan is to quit and take a year-long sabbatical, then re-evaluate. I promised myself to not even think about career stuff for like 3 months. Ahh.. vacation. Looming.
Posted by lostsailor on March 28, 2003, at 16:36:48
In reply to Re: tony.., posted by Tabitha on March 28, 2003, at 13:46:59
Funny, I am sabbatical, in a way, and plan on taking a sabbatical somewhere, ideally at the moment ME. to sort things out, too. Lately Buffalo has been driving me nuts, as I think about trying life in another "venue" and not having everyone I see remember who I used to be and the things I used to do. Kinda a “clean slate (tabla rosa) in Greek I believe. Is there a word for one who goes on sabbatical from sabbatical other then professor?
~tony
Posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 21:54:42
In reply to Re: This one is just for the guys...Dr E, posted by Tabitha on March 24, 2003, at 14:21:54
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> Sailor Tony you might be the only rooster in the henhouse lately. Jay is the other you're thinking of-- he's blocked. Bluedog was posting, but he's been absent lately. There used to be some other males, but they're silent too. You want some male energy you have to go to PB and listen to the med chatter.
Hi TabbycatYou know the sort of havoc that a dog can cause in a henhouse. I think farmers shoot any dog caught in a henhouse on sight don't they? {I believe that these same farmers merely chop the heads off the hens around about dinner time :) :) :) }
I've had some "minor" problems at work and I have been suffering a relapse of my chronic fatigue/depression. However I am now emerging out of the other side again (I am a pretty experienced ill person and I've developed some skills over time that allow me to recover from my relapses much faster than I used to)
Anyway, today is the first day in weeks that I've had the energy to even log on to PB to catch up on what's been going on here during my absence and your post caught my eye.
I thought I'd better join the fray again to give poor outnumbered Tony some support....even though I suspect he really enjoys having all you hens completely to himself :) :)
Love
bluedog
Posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 22:13:03
In reply to Re: This one is just for the guys..., posted by Dr Eamerz on March 24, 2003, at 11:02:36
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> Well I've started shaving I'm carrying a lot of testosterone
> My sex change is almost complete just waiting for some spare parts..Dreamer
Well it appears that things have changed a great deal during my absence. This is a remarkable change from a previous description that you provided me of yourself. ( I'll really have to get used to referring to you as HIM despite all the sudden body hair) Though did you know that some guys really turned on by hirsute women?
I beg you not to add the spare parts your waiting on. I really liked the former you. Get that razor out and at least get rid of the moustache and those hairy legs :) :).
Love
bluedog
Posted by Tabitha on March 29, 2003, at 0:11:28
In reply to Re: This old dog is back in the henhouse! » Tabitha, posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 21:54:42
Dog! Glad to hear you're bouncing back..
Dogs, hens, um, oh, I can't think of anything clever to do with that right now.
I'm in my up season, and choosing to manage it differently rather than adding meds. I realized the other day, I do have a lot of skills for self-management, I just have to make an effort, knowing the meds are not doing so much of the work for me anymore. So far so good. I feel much more alive, and I'm sleeping without nightly sedating meds.
Are you keeping up with yoga class and yoga girl? I'm having major urge to indulge in a just for fun summer fling, just have to find a likely prospect. My therapist even approves of my plan to seduce some unsuspecting guy. What can I say... it's been a long time.
Posted by Tabitha on March 29, 2003, at 0:57:33
In reply to Re: tonytabitha.., posted by lostsailor on March 28, 2003, at 16:36:48
I don't know how people manage to stay in the same place. I have to leave everyplace every so often, just to shed the old identity. now I live in a big enough city, I don't have to pack up and move, I can just change jobs and social circles and regular hangouts.
if there's some secret to changing yourself while surrounded by people who expect the same of you, I don't know it.
Posted by bluedog on March 29, 2003, at 1:03:19
In reply to Re: This old dog is back in the henhouse! » bluedog, posted by Tabitha on March 29, 2003, at 0:11:28
> Dog! Glad to hear you're bouncing back..
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> Dogs, hens, um, oh, I can't think of anything clever to do with that right now.
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> I'm in my up season, and choosing to manage it differently rather than adding meds. I realized the other day, I do have a lot of skills for self-management, I just have to make an effort, knowing the meds are not doing so much of the work for me anymore. So far so good. I feel much more alive, and I'm sleeping without nightly sedating meds.
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> Are you keeping up with yoga class and yoga girl? I'm having major urge to indulge in a just for fun summer fling, just have to find a likely prospect. My therapist even approves of my plan to seduce some unsuspecting guy. What can I say... it's been a long time.
>Hmmm, what can you say? Well I can tell you that if you just want a summer fling you have one HUGE advantage...and that is that that you are female.
I have just recently watched a 4 part BBC series called "Human Instinct" presented by Professor Robert Winston who did that fantastic TV series called "the Human Body".
Anyway in part 4 of "Human Instinct" he repeated an experiment that was initially conducted at a USA University and the results were identical to that experiment.
Basically they got a guy and a girl to approach complete strangers of the opposite sex on a university campus and say the following:-
"Hi I couldn't help noticing you as you were walking past and I think you are really attractive and I'm just wondering if you'd like to go out with me tonight and go to bed/have sex with me"
The results were as follows.
The number of girls approached by the guy that agreed to have sex that night with a complete stranger was Nil/Nix/Zero. They just didn't respond to that kind of approach.
The number of guys approached by the girl that agreed to go to bed that night with a complete stranger was 75-80% of the guys.
This experiment apparently has been repeated many times over and the results are amazingly consistent.
So in answer to your question as to what you should say or do. Well if you make the move, being female you have a 75-80% chance of getting a date with your unsuspecting victim by simply approaching him, letting him know that you couldn't help noticing him and that you find him atractive. Then simply ask whether he'd like to go out with you. (I don't believe you would even need to be as forward as asking whether they would you like to go to bed with you if that would make you uncomfortable...just ask him out and see what develops from there....believe me you will be holding all the cards)
But PLEASE be careful.....you don't want to approach a complete stranger who happens to be some type of psychopath. Maybe approach a guy you've already had some contact with and know a little about already.
As you can see you girls hold all the power and I'm really jealous. Lot of guys would love to be approached by the girl to be asked on a date. I wish Yoga Girl would do this to me.
Yes I still have my crush on Yoga Girl...you can see how that's been going in my response in the thread started by Bozeman below.
seeya Tabby and good luck
bluedog
Posted by bozeman on March 29, 2003, at 1:05:20
In reply to Re: tonytabitha.. » lostsailor, posted by Tabitha on March 29, 2003, at 0:57:33
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> if there's some secret to changing yourself while surrounded by people who expect the same of you, I don't know it.Tabitha -- Iron will? Creative genius? Or both maybe? If we could figure out the answer to this, 12 step programs would be obsolete! We'd probably be rich! <grin>
bozeman
Posted by Tabitha on March 29, 2003, at 2:36:40
In reply to Re: What to say! » Tabitha, posted by bluedog on March 29, 2003, at 1:03:19
A minor clarification: I didn't mean 'what can I say to men?' I meant 'what can I say' as if to apologize for wanting a casual fling, my excuse being, as Wendy B sang to us recently "I'm depraved cause I'm deprived" But your post is dead-on useful.
I'll bet the results might be a little more equal in the 35-50 age range instead of on college campus. I think. Plus there's the surprise factor, women are used to yucky public come-ons, so 1st instinct is already there to say no. I've had men come onto me boldly, said no out of surprise, then later hoped I'd run into them again. Besides.. maybe the experimenters didn't know how to pick an attractive man.. that always annoys me about Hollywood movies, the few that have women directors pick WAY hotter leading men. Jane Campion, Sally Potter come to mind here. I swear I start wondering if I'm gay looking at some of the men that get picked to play 'heartthrob' roles by male directors. Yuck.
But I digress..
Yeah it can't just be a stranger on the street. I have to see somebody quite a few times to develop an attraction, and it has to be mutual. I've sadly had the experience of having sex with men who I think were just doing it because I was available, otherwise not that attracted to me, and it left me feeling awful. It has to be fun, the energy exchange, the flirtation, not just the physical part, cuz for that I like my battery powered toys just fine.
But.. I do feel lucky, to want less from men than I used to want. Trust me though, there are plenty of men out there looking for a full-on girlfriend/wife, or fatal attraction male version, or just plain not fun or not sexy to me. It's not the easiest thing in the world to find someone suitable for my fling.
It's funny though, now I'm looking at all the men I meet, thinking hmmmm, could I do him? I figure if I smile and think these thoughts, I must be giving out good vibes. Better than worrying what the man is thinking of me, or could he be my new boyfriend/savior or whatever the heck I used to want that I never got.
Eventually I have faith the universe will provide. My therp wants me to put a personal ad though.
Well here you are just barely back posting, and I'm talking your ear off already!
Posted by lostsailor on March 29, 2003, at 13:43:05
In reply to Re: This old dog is back in the henhouse! » Tabitha, posted by bluedog on March 28, 2003, at 21:54:42
works well, b/c this dog is gonna become an osterage for a while and do a lot of thinking with his head in the sand and figure out want he's doing with his life.
~tony
Posted by bluedog on March 30, 2003, at 4:43:36
In reply to Re: This old dog is back in the henhouse!bluedog, posted by lostsailor on March 29, 2003, at 13:43:05
> works well, b/c this dog is gonna become an osterage for a while and do a lot of thinking with his head in the sand and figure out want he's doing with his life.
>
> ~tonyHi Tony
Wishing you well in your quest.
I've been doing what your gonna do for years now and I still can't figure out what I want to do with my life? I just seem to drift....I definitely need to take a more serious loook at my situation to get myself more grounded in what I want to achieve with the rest of my life beacause whatever I've been doing just aint seemed to have worked yet :) :).
I hope you still stay around and at least occasionally post your thoughts on this here site.
Warm regards
bluedog
Posted by bluedog on March 30, 2003, at 4:51:39
In reply to Re: mmm Fascinating. » bluedog, posted by Tabitha on March 29, 2003, at 2:36:40
Tabbycat
Are you trying to say that you are currently the female version of an 18-25 year old college male?
You should have been around when they did that survey on the University campus...you would have ruined their results :) :).
I wish you well in your (ad)venture but again would like to emphasise with you to please stay safe. Wouldn't want to see you get hurt in any way!!!
Love
bluedog
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