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Posted by notagain on February 25, 2003, at 1:38:47
i talked to my pdoc and he said to take the test. i took it and its positive. i will talk to him again tomorrow. im freaking out.
Posted by NikkiT2 on February 25, 2003, at 6:48:29
In reply to update i took the test, posted by notagain on February 25, 2003, at 1:38:47
*gives you a hug*
I know you will face some difficult decisions over the next few days and weeks.. bue remember.. we are all here for you.
And what ever you decide, we will support you here. Make the decision for YOU and not what anyone else thinks you should do.
But I relaly do think you should report this.
Wish I knew what to say.. you must be going through utter utter hell.
Nikki xxx
Posted by justyourlaugh on February 25, 2003, at 8:54:10
In reply to Re: update i took the test » notagain, posted by NikkiT2 on February 25, 2003, at 6:48:29
notagain,
(((big big big hug...)))
there is nothing i can say to help you not:(
im sorry..
b safe
jyl
add @aol.com to my screen name if you want to vent,
cry,
share,
anything at all...
jyl
Posted by Dinah on February 25, 2003, at 9:17:28
In reply to Re: update i took the test » notagain, posted by NikkiT2 on February 25, 2003, at 6:48:29
I'm sorry, notagain.
Some extra hugs. (((notagain)))
Posted by Dinah on February 25, 2003, at 9:18:30
In reply to Re: update i took the test » NikkiT2, posted by Dinah on February 25, 2003, at 9:17:28
Posted by tina on February 25, 2003, at 9:40:12
In reply to Re: update i took the test » NikkiT2, posted by Dinah on February 25, 2003, at 9:17:28
I am so sorry. I wish there was something better I could say.
I wish you could report this to the authorities but I understand your fear.
My thoughts are with you.
tina
Posted by Ted on February 25, 2003, at 16:58:00
In reply to update i took the test, posted by notagain on February 25, 2003, at 1:38:47
((((notagain))))
Yours is a difficult situation. I wish you strength to move forward.
Here is a site you might find helpful:
http://www.welcometobarbados.org/
They specialize in support for victims of sexual abuse. You can get advice, assistance, and referrals from them.
Ted
Posted by elbee on February 25, 2003, at 19:16:13
In reply to update i took the test, posted by notagain on February 25, 2003, at 1:38:47
I'm so sorry notagain. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better, but know that my thoughts are with you. You deserve better than this horrendous experience! Don't let it rob you of your soul. Hope you can find sources of inner strength during this terrible ordeal. Don't tackle too much, just hang in there & do what you need to do for yourself.
Posted by notagain on February 26, 2003, at 2:18:10
In reply to update i took the test, posted by notagain on February 25, 2003, at 1:38:47
i really appreciate all the kind words. i dont know what im doing im so tired. its nice to have you all here. imjust trying to stay calm.
notagain
Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2003, at 5:19:54
In reply to thanks everyone, posted by notagain on February 26, 2003, at 2:18:10
That's a very important goal, trying to stay calm. Isn't your pdoc appointment today? Maybe he can help you sort through your thoughts and make some sense of them. Mine frequently can.
I'm sorry you're having to go through this.
Posted by noa on February 26, 2003, at 5:40:36
In reply to thanks everyone, posted by notagain on February 26, 2003, at 2:18:10
Brave girl, I'm proud of you. Hang in there.
Posted by Gracie2 on February 27, 2003, at 19:30:21
In reply to Re: thanks everyone, posted by noa on February 26, 2003, at 5:40:36
Don't try to go through this by yourself! At the very least, you need to go to Planned Parenthood to discuss your options, and you need a therapist to help you cope. I know you're afraid now, but information is power and YOU NEED INFORMATION.
Please, just try it. I assure you that these people are not there to judge you, they are there to give you advice and support. You'll be amazed at how relieved you feel.
-Gracie
Posted by Ilene on February 27, 2003, at 23:49:37
In reply to update i took the test, posted by notagain on February 25, 2003, at 1:38:47
> i talked to my pdoc and he said to take the test. i took it and its positive. i will talk to him again tomorrow. im freaking out.
Just jumping in here, in the middle of things. I got the impression you are taking meds, got raped, and you are now pregnant? Not exactly "been there, done that", but close enough, so I think I am qualified to tell you what needs to be done.
Here are the nuts-and-bolts, practical measures you need to take. You have options, but you must act on them. Now. Do not do the "deer frozen in the headlights" so long that you can't exercise them anymore.
YOU MUST GET TESTED FOR ANY AND ALL STDs, if you haven't done so by now. Absolutely, no two ways about it, do not pass go, no excuses.
The rest of this may be too much to process all at once. Just go one paragraph at a time.
1) Have a physician verify the pregnancy. At least get a second test, using a different method. They are not infallible.
2) Do you want to have a baby or not? You don't have to. Get an abortion if you don't want a baby. End of story. Start the process right away. It gets harder the longer you put it off.
3) If you think abortions are Bad, Bad, Bad then don't get one.
4) If you can't decide what you want, talk to your pdoc or someone else (planned parenthood, maybe) to clarify your thinking. *Don't* talk to anyone who has an agenda, hidden or not. I don't know of anyone who thinks having an abortion is good for you, but plenty of people insist it is bad for you.
If there is the remotest chance you are going to have this baby:
1) Find out whether your meds are safe for pregnant women. Someone here might be able to find out.
2) Press charges, if possible. Press charges even if you end the pregnancy. Get someone to help you haul his sorry ass into court. Not only does this a--h--- need to do time, but he has a legal obligation to provide child support, whether he is guilty of rape or not. Proving paternity is supposed to be easy.
3) Figure out how you are going to support yourself and get medical care. (This may not be an issue for you. Maybe you are working and have insurance, or you have a supportive family or are independently wealthy.) Here's where a pro-life group can be helpful, but don't count on it.
4) Decide whether you want to keep the baby or give it up for adoption,. Raising a child is hard work. Especially if you are mentally ill.
Anyone who is not really, really nice to you deserves a slow and painful death.
Keep posting! Keep posting! Ask questions or babble mindlessly. There's got to be a reason why this is called "psychobabble", right?
--I.
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