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Posted by jay on August 31, 2002, at 2:42:58
I am just...well.....lonely, I guess. This damn disease is f%$king lonely..ohhh so damn lonely.Thanx for putting up with me.
Jay
Posted by ~~tabitha~~ on August 31, 2002, at 5:39:38
In reply to Sorry for the postin's 'bout my 'singleness'..., posted by jay on August 31, 2002, at 2:42:58
I'm dang lonely too, especially on holiday weekends. I don't think dating is the answer though, I'd rather have a nice little social circle.
Posted by gabbix2 on August 31, 2002, at 13:06:31
In reply to Sorry for the postin's 'bout my 'singleness'..., posted by jay on August 31, 2002, at 2:42:58
Its called (we call it) emotional promiscuity.
Something she and I do quite well.
And often when we are feeling a bit more 'together' we think about what we said, and feel like it was like having been drunk, and being told what you did the night before.My General follow up to that behaviour is driving people crazy with my repeated apologies.
And I always always say
"Thanks for putting up with me"Which I think is a perfectly valid thing to say in my case, but of course in yours I think,
"What on earth are you apologizing for?"
Oh ya, I can tell you were just getting on everyones nerves talking about how lonely you are
what a freak, being lonely, and admitting it,Umm, Jay,
Give your toque a spin,
I know, open minded as people claim to be, I think men still feel they need to pretend not to be lonely.
We all feel that way, I don't even think its a generalization. And when someone mentions it, there is often a collective sigh of relief...
"you mean its not just me?"
And that helps to somehow, lessen that alienated feeling.Just a hunch but I think if I go on anymore, your going to feel self conscious.
So I won'tBut, Really,
That is what we are here for,
And even if we weren't, it couldn't have been considered something to be "put up with" anyway.Silly,
Gabbi.
Posted by Medusa on August 31, 2002, at 13:43:30
In reply to Sorry for the postin's 'bout my 'singleness'..., posted by jay on August 31, 2002, at 2:42:58
Dude, please. Are you sorry as in, embarrassed?
What's wrong with being upset about being single?
Loneliness is rotten. I feel terribly lonely much of the time, and probably so do most people who think.
Is there a mock-date review service in your area? try that. you'll get to enjoy the company of an attractive woman over dinner, while knowing that she's obligated to say no to a further date (or a real date) and then you'll get a scorecard with points for improvement. Not that you necessarily need to improve (though I'd hold off on the perfume at all until you've been on a few dates with someone and figured out whether she's allergic), but in that case the affirmation would be great for your ego.
Keep posting about singleness if you're comfortable doing so. No shame in that.
M
Posted by Roo on August 31, 2002, at 14:29:47
In reply to Re: Sorry for the postin's 'bout my 'singleness'... » jay, posted by Medusa on August 31, 2002, at 13:43:30
Yeah, no apologies. I'm lonely as HELL lately...and
it helps to know I'm not the only one. It does feel
rather "pathetic" though doesn't it...hard not to judge
oneself for it...It helped me to read your posts and all
the follow ups. I agree most with ISOM (I don't think I got
that screen name right)...we have to be mostly happy and content
with ourselves first or we'll project an air of discontent with
ourselves, etc. That's definitely where I'm at...I feel so damn
lonely, but I know I'm not even half way ready to be involved
with someone b/c I'm so unhappy with my life and myself right now.
It's frustrating. But then I don't want to shame myself for my
unhappiness and loneliness either. Kindness is always the answer, and
it's so hard.
I've been off meds for nearly 2 months and I was going to try and make
it another month just to see if things would settle down...but I don't
think I can make it another month...lots of shame about that too...
Posted by kid47 on September 4, 2002, at 12:38:19
In reply to jay, roo and I have a name for that...., posted by gabbix2 on August 31, 2002, at 13:06:31
Emotional promiscuity. What a great term!! I like it!!!!!
kid
Posted by Kath on September 4, 2002, at 16:32:10
In reply to Sorry for the postin's 'bout my 'singleness'..., posted by jay on August 31, 2002, at 2:42:58
HEY! - I don't think there's a need to apologize for posting about something that is such a big part of your life! Lonely is BIG! VERY uncomfortable. I'm sorry you're lonely. Are you able to enjoy doing things at all?warm thoughts, Kath
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> I am just...well.....lonely, I guess. This damn disease is f%$king lonely..ohhh so damn lonely.
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> Thanx for putting up with me.
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> Jay
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