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Posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
krazy kat has told me her opinion of me in no uncertain terms and i'm waiting for the rest of my friends to do the same. please get it over with. my therapist is leaving town after tomorrow and if i'm going to have a breakdown i want it to be now.
please, now is the time for honest and brutal feedback.
Posted by Angel Girl on May 26, 2002, at 21:23:24
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
Dinah
I don't know you and I know you don't know me either and I have no idea what has happened other than it looks like you're feeling enormous pain. I've been where you are, I think I know how you feel.
Just want to send you hugs.
Angel Girl
Posted by Mair on May 26, 2002, at 21:40:05
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
Dinah
I'm not about to take potshots at you and i don't think anyone else wants to either. Angel Girl is right - you are in alot of pain and it's very tough to watch. I will continue to consider you a friend until you tell me that you don't want that.
Mair
Posted by krazy kat on May 26, 2002, at 22:32:49
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
so i am to blame for your "break down"? this is why i have to leave...
Posted by krazy kat on May 26, 2002, at 22:35:36
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
i'm falling into the trap of Still posting when i should not be.
but re-read that post when you have a chance and think about how it might place a great deal of guilt on my shoulders...
boy, have i learned a lot from this site in retrospect...
Posted by ST on May 27, 2002, at 3:18:07
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
Dinah, (I'm going on the assumption that this is the same dinah that has been posting since I registered in December)
I don't know what post it was from Krazy Kat that upset you...I don't really know what's going on in general, but yes, you do seem to be in a lot of pain. And I will tell you what I've noticed. My words come only from a compassionate, supportive and honest place.
What I have noticed is that you rely heavily on our opinions of you; of being understood by us, of being liked...I would love this board be just one of many, many sources for you. A source of inspiration, support, humor, feedback...even a place to debate or just chat. We are a sounding board and a place to come to gather others opinions and thoughts. Hopefully, then, we take what makes us curious or gets our minds going or what we relate to and go to our pdocs, our therapists, our good friends to REALLY gain an understanding of the answers we seek. It seems like you are an extremely sensitive person - which can be a blessing and a curse. And so it seems a post can ruin your whole day. This board can be very dangerous because we aren't talking face to face - we can't register facial expressions or intonations in others voices. People, I think for the most part, have a hard time expressing themselves and saying what they are really thinking and feeling anyway. To try to deal with such sensitive topics on a message board on the internet is a real challenge! A misunderstanding here and there is inevitable. People most likely write things quickly and press the "post" button. The ability to take things with a grain of salt is - I think - imperative for one to have a healthy relationship with the members on this board. Remember that we *all* may be sensitive, depressed, feeling like dying, looking for hope, looking for answers, or any combination thereof! With a group like this, misunderstandings and conflict are bound to arise!
I want you to continue to post and read posts here. You have great insight, sensitivity and compassion toward others. We like having you here.
I genuinely am concerned, however, that this board can be detrimental to your well being.So that's what I've noticed. I hope I didn't say anything to hurt you...again, everything I say comes from a compassionate place.
Take care,
Sarah
Posted by NikkiT2 on May 27, 2002, at 11:17:33
In reply to Re: anyone else?, posted by ST on May 27, 2002, at 3:18:07
hi,
I hop eyou can get some help Dinah, and that you manage to find a new therapist ok.
I really think it is harsh to blame this all on Krazy Kat, thats just putting a bad load onto her, which is very unfair.
I've been following the posts, and just because someone doesn't share your views, it does not mean that they are attacking you.I know you feel victamised, but there really is no need for you to feel like this.
I hope you find someone you can talk to soon.
nikki
Posted by terra miller on May 27, 2002, at 15:04:37
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
i'm sorry your therapist is leaving. that must have you spinning. if you find it helpful, it seems to me that what you are really asking for is to find some stability. it's ok to not try so hard when you are feeling knocked off center. it's ok to take it easy and regroup. i can imagine it being extremely painful right now. i'm sorry you are in this spot. my 2 cents.
terra
Posted by Penny on May 28, 2002, at 13:12:58
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
Dinah,
I've been away from the board for a few days (moving), and it's obvious that I've missed something important.
I'm worried about you (even if you don't want me to be), and just wanted to let you know that I think you are wonderful and I'm sending lots of love your way (even if you can't feel it).
Please take care.
Penny
Posted by ST on May 29, 2002, at 19:15:42
In reply to Dinah - What's going on????, posted by Penny on May 28, 2002, at 13:12:58
Posted by trouble on May 29, 2002, at 23:06:50
In reply to Dinah, we're concerned-how are you??? (nm), posted by ST on May 29, 2002, at 19:15:42
Posted by Lini on May 30, 2002, at 9:07:08
In reply to off your knees dinah, world needs you (nm), posted by trouble on May 29, 2002, at 23:06:50
well look what the cat dragged in!Nice to see your name up here. Hope you're not planning to tip toe!
-Lini
Posted by Lini on May 30, 2002, at 9:11:17
In reply to anyone else?, posted by dinah yet again on May 26, 2002, at 20:16:04
Yes! My opinion of you in no uncertain terms is that you are fantastic, obsessively kind, thoughtful and sweet.Take that!
Empathy is heavy, but you can carry it Dinah.
This is the end of the thread.
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