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Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 2:05:52
In reply to Re: Venting... aplogy before hand » Kristi, posted by sar on August 31, 2001, at 1:28:03
Hell girl.....
I know you know.
The surgery was ok... but I have this open wound that I have to pack with about a foot of gauze 1/2inch every 8 hours(On the inside, the the outside.... the wound needs to stay open for 6 weeks). I can stand pain... but this mental shit's gotta go. It's so hard to explain..... when I pull it out of my breast it always reminds me of that clown we see as kids when he's pulling handkerchiefs out of his jacket and it keep coming and coming. By the time I get it all stuffed in there, it's time to take it out.
I need a break... I'm gonna go listen to some relaxation tapes. Hope your doing ok.
> hell yeah, girl!
>
> i know.
>
> are you in pain?
>
> post some more,
> sar
Posted by sar on August 31, 2001, at 2:22:32
In reply to Re: Venting... aplogy before hand » sar, posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 2:05:52
dear kristi,
exactly what kind of surgery was it? what was wrong? (i'm sorry if you've already posted this in detail on another thread, but i miss alot sometimes)
did they give you some good painkillers? what kind of shape are you in? have you got support?
i had major spinal surgery about 5 years ago for scoliosis and became extremely depressed and inside-myself. my dreams switched from vivid color to grey-and-brown. it's a precarious time--i was homebound for more than 3 months. how long do you have to stay at home?
keep us updated, chica--
love,
sar
Posted by Phil on August 31, 2001, at 7:23:59
In reply to Re: Venting... aplogy before hand » Kristi, posted by sar on August 31, 2001, at 2:22:32
Keep ranting!!
Posted by afatchic on August 31, 2001, at 9:44:02
In reply to Venting... aplogy before hand, posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 0:50:46
I've had two surgeries with general sedation and both times I became depressed afterwards. Watch out for those pain meds. They can be addictive and increase depression.
Since showering is so difficult with an open wound, treat yourself by going to the beauty shop and having your hair washed and a conditioning treatment. It made me feel better.
Congratulation on quitting smoking!! It will definetly help you heal faster.
> Life sucks. Surgery sucks. Pain sucks. Quitting smoking sucks.
>
> thanks for letting me get that out.
Posted by kazoo on August 31, 2001, at 10:11:08
In reply to Venting... aplogy before hand, posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 0:50:46
> Life sucks.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Life is beautiful. You're just waddling in the "sucky" side of it. FUGGEDDABOUDIT!
> Surgery sucks.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Is a necessary "evil" if it means prolonging the beautiful life. (see above)
> Pain sucks.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Only when you make it an issue and complain about it.
> Quitting smoking sucks.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
You're right on this one, so don't even try. As bad as smoking is, I happen to enjoy it.
> thanks for letting me get that out.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Try using a bull-horn the next time, in the middle of any New England Village Green. Very effective. I know: I tried it.But remember, my dear, ... "We're all in this together, kid!" (Robert DeNiro in the movie "BRAZIL").
Horray, I'm alive, and so are you!
Can I pinch you? I'm Italian and love to pinch. Such a mechanical act of endearment, yes?
(a smiling) kazoo
Posted by Wendy B. on August 31, 2001, at 11:04:41
In reply to Re: Venting... aplogy before hand (sp: APOLOGY) » Kristi, posted by kazoo on August 31, 2001, at 10:11:08
> > Life sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Life is beautiful. You're just waddling in the "sucky" side of it. FUGGEDDABOUDIT!
>
>
> > Surgery sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Is a necessary "evil" if it means prolonging the beautiful life. (see above)
>
>
> > Pain sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Only when you make it an issue and complain about it.
>
>
> > Quitting smoking sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> You're right on this one, so don't even try. As bad as smoking is, I happen to enjoy it.
>
>
> > thanks for letting me get that out.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Try using a bull-horn the next time, in the middle of any New England Village Green. Very effective. I know: I tried it.
>
> But remember, my dear, ... "We're all in this together, kid!" (Robert DeNiro in the movie "BRAZIL").
>
> Horray, I'm alive, and so are you!
>
> Can I pinch you? I'm Italian and love to pinch. Such a mechanical act of endearment, yes?
>
> (a smiling) kazoo
Give 'er a break, Kazoooooo-Didn't you read lovely Susan (MightyMouse)'s thread about Ranting...?
Things never to say to the depressed...?
Let's add Kazoo's comments to the list!1.) "you're waddling in" the "sucky side" of life??
2.) Surgery is a necessary evil (read: shut up about it).
3.) Pain sucks ONLY, in Kazoo's opinion, if you "make an issue" out of it or "complain" about it.
4.) Oh yeah, "fugeddaboudit." Highly sensitive, man...
5.) He even corrects her spelling.
The rest of the post was alright. I pinch, I'm Italian, that might have made her laugh... But maybe you could go easy on a woman who has just come out of a really nasty surgery, and has to take care of her own open wound for weeks... Why wound her any further?
"Just my 2 cents!"
Love ya' Kazoo,
(even tho Willow loves you more),:-]
Wendy
Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 11:30:49
In reply to Re: Venting... aplogy before hand (sp: APOLOGY) » Kristi, posted by kazoo on August 31, 2001, at 10:11:08
Thanx for correcting my spelling kazoo.. it is very important to me that I come off as educated right now. :-)
I'm going to post something.... but it's pretty much for Sar, and other caring woman... there is no need for you to even read it. Just a warning... a man isn't going to understand unless they've had their penis's ripped apart by doctors.
So just your amazingly acute brain and skip it.... I'll thank you tremendously......... (a not as kazoo lover as willow) Kristi> > Life sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Life is beautiful. You're just waddling in the "sucky" side of it. FUGGEDDABOUDIT!
>
>
> > Surgery sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Is a necessary "evil" if it means prolonging the beautiful life. (see above)
>
>
> > Pain sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Only when you make it an issue and complain about it.
>
>
> > Quitting smoking sucks.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> You're right on this one, so don't even try. As bad as smoking is, I happen to enjoy it.
>
>
> > thanks for letting me get that out.
> ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
> Try using a bull-horn the next time, in the middle of any New England Village Green. Very effective. I know: I tried it.
>
> But remember, my dear, ... "We're all in this together, kid!" (Robert DeNiro in the movie "BRAZIL").
>
> Horray, I'm alive, and so are you!
>
> Can I pinch you? I'm Italian and love to pinch. Such a mechanical act of endearment, yes?
>
> (a smiling) kazoo
Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 11:37:13
In reply to Re: Venting... aplogy before hand, posted by afatchic on August 31, 2001, at 9:44:02
> I've had two surgeries with general sedation and both times I became depressed afterwards. Watch out for those pain meds. They can be addictive and increase depression.
Yeah... I hear depression does seem to sometimes follow.... I'm ok so far. And with the pain meds... been there done that.... in fact, I think it took me about a year to kick the vicoden/percocet habit. So.... I'm just taking some non boring non-narcotic ones for now.
> Since showering is so difficult with an open wound, treat yourself by going to the beauty shop and having your hair washed and a conditioning treatment. It made me feel better.Ya know, that is a wonderful Idea..... I'm just broke. For this particular medical problem.. I've already missed 10 months of work.....
Ugh.... I have to "sponge bath" for 12 weeks. Maybe I'll hint to a friend. :-)
> Congratulation on quitting smoking!! It will definetly help you heal faster.Thanks. It's so hard tho..... but that's why I'm doing it. After 5 years of suffering.... I'll do anything to aid in my healing.
Thanks for caring,
Kristi
>
> > Life sucks. Surgery sucks. Pain sucks. Quitting smoking sucks.
> >
> > thanks for letting me get that out.
Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 11:52:05
In reply to Re: Venting... aplogy before hand » Kristi, posted by sar on August 31, 2001, at 2:22:32
chica,
You are too funny. Yuck... your surgery ranks right up there,
Yeah,.. I did post my story before... and it is long so I'll just give you the high points.I had a tumor removed from my breast.... after that fine and dandy. I had so much pain... for months after.... than starting years. I went to many doctors.... all of the test results(xray types) came back negative. They would just prescribe stuff and shove this little hyochondriac out the door.
About a year later(the time frame is hard to remember) I started getting lumps in my breast... lots of them. I had an ultrsound, mri, ct scan, etc... but they came up negative. So the doctors would come up with all kinds of things.... limp(I know I spelled that wrong.... shush kazoo)nodes, stuff like that.
I was in a consultation with this surgeon and he said... "ya know, if it wasn't for all these test results coming back negative... I would almost say the surgeon left something in you." But... a test would show that.
eventually I talked this doctor to go in and explore and he did.... and he pulled out MOST of a hand towel sized cloth. Now... it's been in their for over 4 years, so he couldn't get it all. Number one...no doctor wants to open me up and do an open chest surgery.... too risky.... number two.... it's been in their so long it's embedded itself to my sternum and my muscle.Oh, by the way, the surgeon used a towel that is illegal to use in a op room(it doesn't have a metallic strip on it enabling it to show up in xrays)Anyway........ it's hard to make this story short. I am now 18 surgeries later. Lumps keep popping up..... the towel coming "undone" from where it was stuck falling off... but each time it does that I get an instant infection so they have to operate right away. If the infection gets to my bones that's it for me.
Right now the pain is beaarable.... it's the other stuff.... I think I meantioned having to back that wound inside with gauze? That's doing a number on me. It's really difficult to play around with your guts.
Well... that's as short as I can make it.
Still not smoking. I'm not finding those fake ones appealing anymore are you???? Any new advice??????????
Take care my sar...... still very much enjoy reading your posts. Kristi
> dear kristi,
>
> exactly what kind of surgery was it? what was wrong? (i'm sorry if you've already posted this in detail on another thread, but i miss alot sometimes)
>
> did they give you some good painkillers? what kind of shape are you in? have you got support?
>
> i had major spinal surgery about 5 years ago for scoliosis and became extremely depressed and inside-myself. my dreams switched from vivid color to grey-and-brown. it's a precarious time--i was homebound for more than 3 months. how long do you have to stay at home?
>
> keep us updated, chica--
>
> love,
>
> sar
Posted by Wendy B. on August 31, 2001, at 16:16:26
In reply to Re: Venting... sar, posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 11:52:05
Oh my god, Kristi, that sounds just excruciating... I tried to come to your aid. The bit about loving Kazoo was a joke, ok?
Just curious: was a malpractice suit begun? What the f___ was up with the surgeon? 18 surgeries because of what he did? He should be hung out to dry, right along with his towel...
UGH...Please accept my wishes for a speedy recovery, & keep talking...
Wendy
>
>
> chica,
> You are too funny. Yuck... your surgery ranks right up there,
>
> Yeah,.. I did post my story before... and it is long so I'll just give you the high points.
>
> I had a tumor removed from my breast.... after that fine and dandy. I had so much pain... for months after.... than starting years. I went to many doctors.... all of the test results(xray types) came back negative. They would just prescribe stuff and shove this little hyochondriac out the door.
> About a year later(the time frame is hard to remember) I started getting lumps in my breast... lots of them. I had an ultrsound, mri, ct scan, etc... but they came up negative. So the doctors would come up with all kinds of things.... limp(I know I spelled that wrong.... shush kazoo)nodes, stuff like that.
> I was in a consultation with this surgeon and he said... "ya know, if it wasn't for all these test results coming back negative... I would almost say the surgeon left something in you." But... a test would show that.
> eventually I talked this doctor to go in and explore and he did.... and he pulled out MOST of a hand towel sized cloth. Now... it's been in their for over 4 years, so he couldn't get it all. Number one...no doctor wants to open me up and do an open chest surgery.... too risky.... number two.... it's been in their so long it's embedded itself to my sternum and my muscle.Oh, by the way, the surgeon used a towel that is illegal to use in a op room(it doesn't have a metallic strip on it enabling it to show up in xrays)
>
> Anyway........ it's hard to make this story short. I am now 18 surgeries later. Lumps keep popping up..... the towel coming "undone" from where it was stuck falling off... but each time it does that I get an instant infection so they have to operate right away. If the infection gets to my bones that's it for me.
>
> Right now the pain is beaarable.... it's the other stuff.... I think I meantioned having to back that wound inside with gauze? That's doing a number on me. It's really difficult to play around with your guts.
>
> Well... that's as short as I can make it.
>
> Still not smoking. I'm not finding those fake ones appealing anymore are you???? Any new advice??????????
>
> Take care my sar...... still very much enjoy reading your posts. Kristi
Posted by akc on August 31, 2001, at 16:24:08
In reply to Re: Venting... sar, posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 11:52:05
I just want you to know that I am thinking of you. You are so couragous. Keep venting.
akc
Posted by susan C on August 31, 2001, at 16:50:38
In reply to Venting... aplogy before hand, posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 0:50:46
No aplogy needed to me, I know the packing gauze business, tho for me it was 'only' a dry socket...and I didn't have to do it. No, hon, you have got us all here wanting to send flowers and cards and hold your hand and make you tea and and and...if I could take away your pain, I would. I would also refer you to a kick ass attorney. There is one here in town known as the 'Junk Yard Dog'...ooops, sorry, didn't mean to make you laugh, I know how that can hurt, I had my gall badder out...oops, 'nother story. We will share it another time.
Susan C.
> Life sucks. Surgery sucks. Pain sucks. Quitting smoking sucks.
>
> thanks for letting me get that out.
Posted by paxvox on August 31, 2001, at 17:14:24
In reply to Re: Venting... , posted by susan C on August 31, 2001, at 16:50:38
Why do you think we have two ears but only one mouth? How come right hands fit so nicely together? What feels more comforting than an understanding glance and a shoulder to cry on?
"In the hollow of your arms, snuggled up all safe and warm, you used to tell me tales of unicorns and kings. But how could I comprehend all the things you told me then of your madness and your struggling? And my mind would swim in fantasies, like a piece of driftwood on the sea. I had no touchstone for reality. You were my reality."
PAX
Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 18:57:06
In reply to Re: Venting... sar » Kristi, posted by Wendy B. on August 31, 2001, at 16:16:26
Wendy,
Thankx for your thoughts.
Yes.... I'm sure everyone is wondering. There is a lawsuit involved. I've been offered 1.1 million dollars so far but didn't take it. We'll see... they make me a new offer every week. They don't want it to go to court. The only statute in Nevada(every state has different laws)... something similar happened to... she got 6 mill..
Thanks for your thoughts.... a valium induced tired kristi..... :-)
> Oh my god, Kristi, that sounds just excruciating... I tried to come to your aid. The bit about loving Kazoo was a joke, ok?
>
> Just curious: was a malpractice suit begun? What the f___ was up with the surgeon? 18 surgeries because of what he did? He should be hung out to dry, right along with his towel...
> UGH...
>
> Please accept my wishes for a speedy recovery, & keep talking...
>
> Wendy
>
>
>
>
> >
> >
> > chica,
> > You are too funny. Yuck... your surgery ranks right up there,
> >
> > Yeah,.. I did post my story before... and it is long so I'll just give you the high points.
> >
> > I had a tumor removed from my breast.... after that fine and dandy. I had so much pain... for months after.... than starting years. I went to many doctors.... all of the test results(xray types) came back negative. They would just prescribe stuff and shove this little hyochondriac out the door.
> > About a year later(the time frame is hard to remember) I started getting lumps in my breast... lots of them. I had an ultrsound, mri, ct scan, etc... but they came up negative. So the doctors would come up with all kinds of things.... limp(I know I spelled that wrong.... shush kazoo)nodes, stuff like that.
> > I was in a consultation with this surgeon and he said... "ya know, if it wasn't for all these test results coming back negative... I would almost say the surgeon left something in you." But... a test would show that.
> > eventually I talked this doctor to go in and explore and he did.... and he pulled out MOST of a hand towel sized cloth. Now... it's been in their for over 4 years, so he couldn't get it all. Number one...no doctor wants to open me up and do an open chest surgery.... too risky.... number two.... it's been in their so long it's embedded itself to my sternum and my muscle.Oh, by the way, the surgeon used a towel that is illegal to use in a op room(it doesn't have a metallic strip on it enabling it to show up in xrays)
> >
> > Anyway........ it's hard to make this story short. I am now 18 surgeries later. Lumps keep popping up..... the towel coming "undone" from where it was stuck falling off... but each time it does that I get an instant infection so they have to operate right away. If the infection gets to my bones that's it for me.
> >
> > Right now the pain is beaarable.... it's the other stuff.... I think I meantioned having to back that wound inside with gauze? That's doing a number on me. It's really difficult to play around with your guts.
> >
> > Well... that's as short as I can make it.
> >
> > Still not smoking. I'm not finding those fake ones appealing anymore are you???? Any new advice??????????
> >
> > Take care my sar...... still very much enjoy reading your posts. Kristi
Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 19:00:07
In reply to Re: Venting... , posted by susan C on August 31, 2001, at 16:50:38
Your right, you made me laugh.... but the pain was worth it. You brought tears to my eyes... it just kind of felt like you understood. And, it's a hard one to understand... it's like something you read about or see on the news happening to someone else. But living it.... and trying to get understanding is a different story..... and I felt that from you. Thanks for that. And thanks for the flowers. A crying Kristi (I'm stealing willows salutaion creativity.... sorry hon.)
> No aplogy needed to me, I know the packing gauze business, tho for me it was 'only' a dry socket...and I didn't have to do it. No, hon, you have got us all here wanting to send flowers and cards and hold your hand and make you tea and and and...if I could take away your pain, I would. I would also refer you to a kick ass attorney. There is one here in town known as the 'Junk Yard Dog'...ooops, sorry, didn't mean to make you laugh, I know how that can hurt, I had my gall badder out...oops, 'nother story. We will share it another time.
>
> Susan C.
>
> > Life sucks. Surgery sucks. Pain sucks. Quitting smoking sucks.
> >
> > thanks for letting me get that out.
Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 19:02:07
In reply to Re: Venting... » susan C, posted by paxvox on August 31, 2001, at 17:14:24
I am completely lost.
Was this meant for me?
I am a 8 year graduate of PSU and have no idea what your talking about. Maybe it's the drugs and I'll re-read it again tomarrow.
> Why do you think we have two ears but only one mouth? How come right hands fit so nicely together? What feels more comforting than an understanding glance and a shoulder to cry on?
>
> "In the hollow of your arms, snuggled up all safe and warm, you used to tell me tales of unicorns and kings. But how could I comprehend all the things you told me then of your madness and your struggling? And my mind would swim in fantasies, like a piece of driftwood on the sea. I had no touchstone for reality. You were my reality."
>
> PAX
Posted by Wendy B. on August 31, 2001, at 23:07:39
In reply to Re: Venting... wendy, posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 18:57:06
> Wendy,
> Thankx for your thoughts.
> Yes.... I'm sure everyone is wondering. There is a lawsuit involved. I've been offered 1.1 million dollars so far but didn't take it. We'll see... they make me a new offer every week. They don't want it to go to court. The only statute in Nevada(every state has different laws)... something similar happened to... she got 6 mill..
Hey, go for the gold!
Party afterwards?
You are in my thoughts, I wish you a good sleep tonight...
Wendy
> Thanks for your thoughts.... a valium induced tired kristi..... :-)
Posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 23:24:14
In reply to Re: Venting » Kristi, posted by Wendy B. on August 31, 2001, at 23:07:39
K,
Promise to all.... when I do get all the court and stuff over with.... I'll pay for all your tickets to some part where we can all get together and veg! Sar will have to come.... and teach us all how to hang loose and go inhibitionless. That is a compliment chico.
Thanks to all with their kind words,
Kristi>
> > Wendy,
> > Thankx for your thoughts.
> > Yes.... I'm sure everyone is wondering. There is a lawsuit involved. I've been offered 1.1 million dollars so far but didn't take it. We'll see... they make me a new offer every week. They don't want it to go to court. The only statute in Nevada(every state has different laws)... something similar happened to... she got 6 mill..
>
>
> Hey, go for the gold!
> Party afterwards?
> You are in my thoughts, I wish you a good sleep tonight...
>
>
> Wendy
>
>
>
>
> > Thanks for your thoughts.... a valium induced tired kristi..... :-)
Posted by sar on September 1, 2001, at 9:08:37
In reply to Re:To all » Wendy B., posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 23:24:14
> K,
> Promise to all.... when I do get all the court and stuff over with.... I'll pay for all your tickets to some part where we can all get together and veg! Sar will have to come.... and teach us all how to hang loose and go inhibitionless. That is a compliment chico.
> Thanks to all with their kind words,
> Kristioh kristi, i just got to this thread and remembered you posting on it awhile ago...i'm so sorry. that sounds so painful and stressful! what kind of cracked-up doc would leave a f*cking *towel* in you?
beware the addictive painkillers, but enjoy them as long as you need them! when they took my morphine away in the hospital (after 4 days of liberal doses) i spontaneously burst into tears--but they tapered me down with percocet, so it turned out all right.
i agree with wendy--go for the gold! it sounds like they are anxious and worried if they're always tossing new offers your way. i hope you have a good lawyer, and my thoughts will be with you. you're a tough cookie to have endured all this.
by the way, we're chicas, not chicos! when you're a millionnaire you can come down here and learn some rudimentary spanish with me. they also serve 32-oz margaritas here, girl, and we'll topshelf it 'til you topple into the river, and i'll rescue you.
keep us updated...
love
sar
Posted by Wendy B. on September 2, 2001, at 1:07:50
In reply to Re:To all » Wendy B., posted by Kristi on August 31, 2001, at 23:24:14
> K,
> Promise to all.... when I do get all the court and stuff over with.... I'll pay for all your tickets to some part where we can all get together and veg!
YOU'RE GONNA REGRET THIS!! Just kidding...
:-}We're there, definitely. Sar, yeah, maybe all of "Las Chicas" (our new all-girl group, coming your way sometime to a bar in San Antonio), will roll down to see you, and you can have them bartenders mix them margaritas... Pshew! One of those, and I'm out for the count... "Somebody roll a J..."
Anyway, I hope all went ok with you today, Kristi. I can't stand thinking about the pain you're in and the royal mess that doctor inflicted on you... Do you have friends locally who come to see you? Have you checked out the Psy-Babble-Open chat? It's a lot of fun (tho I can't participate because I don't have the right headphones - it's a voice chat, kind of like a conference call via internet). Everyone seems to enjoy it quite a lot...
Anyway, I hate to think of you there alone. Television? Music? Novels? What are you doing to keep your mind off your troubles? Please write back - we'll keep this thread going for as long as it takes for you to get *completely* better.
I was out late tonight, it's 5 after 2 am, so I'll say good night, good morning, and go off to la-la land...Yawning, & love,
Wendy
Sar will have to come.... and teach us all how to hang loose and go inhibitionless. That is a compliment chico.
> Thanks to all with their kind words,
> Kristi
Posted by Kristi on September 2, 2001, at 2:23:48
In reply to Re:To all-Party for Las Chicas » Kristi, posted by Wendy B. on September 2, 2001, at 1:07:50
Wendy,
Your post just totally made me cry. Thanks for the words. It's tough here.... yes, I have friends.... TONS of friends if you know what I mean, but not a lot of real friends. My family is on the other side of the country and my fiance was killed last year in a motorcycle accident. So thank you for offering your friendship and to help me get thru this. I'm pretty tough... and I do have a support system.... but, living in las vegas their biggest concern is what their hair looks like. What the hell I moved here for I don't know. Easy money I guess. Now I'm kind of stuck here for a while.
I want to have a party... and I want all of us to destroy this doctor's house. Hey.... what's a house compared to someomes life? Not like I'm feeling sorry for myself.. My life isn't over.. but parts of it are. Who'd of thought years ago.. on my journey to everything... I'd end of deformed? So, yeah, my life has changed. It will be a looooooooooooooooooooooooong time before I trust a man to see this... and I'm 33 now.... so do the math... probably no kids. But you know what I think of? How I still have my arms... my eyesight... my legs... and the knowledge that I can sign on here and feel I have support. Thanks for thinking of me wendy...
> > K,
> > Promise to all.... when I do get all the court and stuff over with.... I'll pay for all your tickets to some part where we can all get together and veg!
>
>
> YOU'RE GONNA REGRET THIS!! Just kidding...
> :-}
>
> We're there, definitely. Sar, yeah, maybe all of "Las Chicas" (our new all-girl group, coming your way sometime to a bar in San Antonio), will roll down to see you, and you can have them bartenders mix them margaritas... Pshew! One of those, and I'm out for the count... "Somebody roll a J..."
>
> Anyway, I hope all went ok with you today, Kristi. I can't stand thinking about the pain you're in and the royal mess that doctor inflicted on you... Do you have friends locally who come to see you? Have you checked out the Psy-Babble-Open chat? It's a lot of fun (tho I can't participate because I don't have the right headphones - it's a voice chat, kind of like a conference call via internet). Everyone seems to enjoy it quite a lot...
> Anyway, I hate to think of you there alone. Television? Music? Novels? What are you doing to keep your mind off your troubles? Please write back - we'll keep this thread going for as long as it takes for you to get *completely* better.
> I was out late tonight, it's 5 after 2 am, so I'll say good night, good morning, and go off to la-la land...
>
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> > Kristi
Posted by Kristi on September 2, 2001, at 6:24:44
In reply to Re:To all-Party for Las Chicas, posted by Kristi on September 2, 2001, at 2:23:48
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> Your post just totally made me cry. Thanks for the words. It's tough here.... yes, I have friends.... TONS of friends if you know what I mean, but not a lot of real friends. My family is on the other side of the country and my fiance was killed last year in a motorcycle accident. So thank you for offering your friendship and to help me get thru this. I'm pretty tough... and I do have a support system.... but, living in las vegas their biggest concern is what their hair looks like. What the hell I moved here for I don't know. Easy money I guess. Now I'm kind of stuck here for a while.
> I want to have a party... and I want all of us to destroy this doctor's house. Hey.... what's a house compared to someomes life? Not like I'm feeling sorry for myself.. My life isn't over.. but parts of it are. Who'd of thought years ago.. on my journey to everything... I'd end of deformed? So, yeah, my life has changed. It will be a looooooooooooooooooooooooong time before I trust a man to see this... and I'm 33 now.... so do the math... probably no kids. But you know what I think of? How I still have my arms... my eyesight... my legs... and the knowledge that I can sign on here and feel I have support. Thanks for thinking of me wendy...
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> > Anyway, I hope all went ok with you today, Kristi. I can't stand thinking about the pain you're in and the royal mess that doctor inflicted on you... Do you have friends locally who come to see you? Have you checked out the Psy-Babble-Open chat? It's a lot of fun (tho I can't participate because I don't have the right headphones - it's a voice chat, kind of like a conference call via internet). Everyone seems to enjoy it quite a lot...
> > Anyway, I hate to think of you there alone. Television? Music? Novels? What are you doing to keep your mind off your troubles? Please write back - we'll keep this thread going for as long as it takes for you to get *completely* better.
> > I was out late tonight, it's 5 after 2 am, so I'll say good night, good morning, and go off to la-la land...
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> > > Thanks to all with their kind words,
> > > Kristi
Posted by Kristi on September 2, 2001, at 7:04:58
In reply to Re:To all-Party for Las Chicas » Kristi, posted by Wendy B. on September 2, 2001, at 1:07:50
wendy....your a doll
Please excuse me..... My only excuses for forgetting to answer some of your questions are.... I have only had about 2 hours sleep(more to come) pain killers, and oh yes.... I am a blonde who never tires of the blonde jokes.I can't enjoy the open chat for the same reasons you can't......altho I know when everyone is.. there are never any posts here during that time.
But I don't consider myself alone, even at the time I am just that physically. I can always find something to do... most of it is my own doing anyway... I dont want to bring anyone in to my problems(It doesn[t seem fair.) For instance, this guy I have had my eye on for quite sometime finally showed sm intrest. But I don't think now is a for anyone new in my life. I'm content where I'm at(personally) even tho it sometimes get lonely.
A tangent again.But I do all you said....with a focus on exercise tho. I have a peronal trainer.... who's been with me for a while.... and he;'s very in tune to what muscles I need to baby. K, I must have backspaced just about every other word due to spelling..... that should tell me somethingl.
Thanks for letting me vent...... AGAIN !!!!!
> > K,
> > Promise to all.... when I do get all the court and stuff over with.... I'll pay for all your tickets to some part where we can all get together and veg!
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> YOU'RE GONNA REGRET THIS!! Just kidding...
> :-}
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> We're there, definitely. Sar, yeah, maybe all of "Las Chicas" (our new all-girl group, coming your way sometime to a bar in San Antonio), will roll down to see you, and you can have them bartenders mix them margaritas... Pshew! One of those, and I'm out for the count... "Somebody roll a J..."
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> Anyway, I hope all went ok with you today, Kristi. I can't stand thinking about the pain you're in and the royal mess that doctor inflicted on you... Do you have friends locally who come to see you? Have you checked out the Psy-Babble-Open chat? It's a lot of fun (tho I can't participate because I don't have the right headphones - it's a voice chat, kind of like a conference call via internet). Everyone seems to enjoy it quite a lot...
> Anyway, I hate to think of you there alone. Television? Music? Novels? What are you doing to keep your mind off your troubles? Please write back - we'll keep this thread going for as long as it takes for you to get *completely* better.
> I was out late tonight, it's 5 after 2 am, so I'll say good night, good morning, and go off to la-la land...
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> Yawning, & love,
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> Wendy
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> Sar will have to come.... and teach us all how to hang loose and go inhibitionless. That is a compliment chico.
> > Thanks to all with their kind words,
> > Kristi
Posted by sar on September 2, 2001, at 8:45:19
In reply to Re:P.s. Mair, posted by Kristi on September 2, 2001, at 7:04:58
for the Las Chicas Crew--
yall provide the mill-$ lawsuits, i'll score the tequila and weed--(and lots of LIMES! we'll need lots of limes)
kristi, ah, physical deformity--this is very little like your case, but i want to share this with you anyway. i had somewhat severe scoliosis as a teeneager; my body curved in an "s" shape to the right. i was always so embarrassed, especially with guys...finally i got the right surgery (and thank god it was covered completely by my dad's military insurance--a spinal surgery like that costs upwards of $20,000--money we don't have) and suddenly i was an inch-and-a-half taller with a foot-long thick scar snaking down my right torso. i always feel i have to explain the scar. of course i do. they ask about it.
i can't empathize completely--the breasts are a feminine symbol, and 18 surgeries--oh lawdy--i just wanted to let you know that i have the littlest idea idea of what physical deformity is like--very disheartening. my scar is very thick and pink, ropey, and my best boyfriends have always had sweet things to say about it--"like a river over broken glass," "it makes you look so strong" etc--why are children out of the question because of your breasts?
i learned in my anthropology class that approximately only 3 countries in the world view breasts as sexy. most men in other countries view them simply as maternal.
shit, i don;t think this is going to help. i'm feeling for you, kristi. i don't know what to say, so i'll quit saying stoopid things, except one more--do you think that, with the lawsuit money, you'll be able to hire on an expert surgeon?
love
sar
Posted by Kristi on September 7, 2001, at 23:17:19
In reply to eavesdropping » Kristi, posted by sar on September 2, 2001, at 8:45:19
Hi Sar.....
Looks like this has been here for a little while but I didn't see it.
> for the Las Chicas Crew--
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> yall provide the mill-$ lawsuits, i'll score the tequila and weed--(and lots of LIMES! we'll need lots of limes)Dos that sounds good. Lots of LIMES... Yes, more importantly... lots of WEED.... oh, the thought of that is soooooooooooooooooooooooo close to regular "smoking"..... ha ha
>> kristi, ah, physical deformity--this is very little like your case, but i want to share this with you anyway. i had somewhat severe scoliosis as a teeneager; my body curved in an "s" shape to the right. i was always so embarrassed, especially with guys...finally i got the right surgery (and thank god it was covered completely by my dad's military insurance--a spinal surgery like that costs upwards of $20,000--money we don't have) and suddenly i was an inch-and-a-half taller with a foot-long thick scar snaking down my right torso. i always feel i have to explain the scar. of course i do. they ask about it.
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> i can't empathize completely--the breasts are a feminine symbol, and 18 surgeries--oh lawdy--i just wanted to let you know that i have the littlest idea idea of what physical deformity is like--very disheartening. my scar is very thick and pink, ropey, and my best boyfriends have always had sweet things to say about it--"like a river over broken glass," "it makes you look so strong" etc--why are children out of the question because of your breasts?
Wow... I'm sorry for that too!!! So, you can relate somewhat. Well, I consider children out of the question because I am 32.... single... Not looking(my fiancee was killed in a mortorcyle accident) and it'll be a long ass time before any man sees me!!!!!!!!! I just couldn't handle that. I would never be strong enough to handle any kind if rejection related to this. Even say if I was with a dude for a couple months... and he left me for an entirely different reason.. I would always feel it was from the deformatity. I hope that goes away sometime.... it's hard because I haven't been able to put any closure on it and simply allow myself to heal(surgey after surgery.).... I did have a consult with this fantastic surgeon who told me that I'll be able to have reconstructive surgery in about 2 years at most... and he will make me look "amazing". So that gave me hope.
> i learned in my anthropology class that approximately only 3 countries in the world view breasts as sexy. most men in other countries view them simply as maternal.Unfortunately... this country is one that considers them sexy. Ive actually had boyfriends since this happened. I have my little ol water bra that I wear and you can't tell a thing is wrong with me..... but once that date gets to that point... I quickly make up an excuse and never answer my phone again. I'm so afraid once they see what's underneath they will run!
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> shit, i don;t think this is going to help. i'm feeling for you, kristi. i don't know what to say, so i'll quit saying stoopid things, except one more--do you think that, with the lawsuit money, you'll be able to hire on an expert surgeon?You are helping!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Really. And yes, I do see a little light at the end of the tunnel. It'll take a expert surgeon, a lot of money, and a lot of waiting..... but hopefully... god hopefully..... I pray so much I can look normal again.
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