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Posted by Waterlily on June 25, 2001, at 21:12:27
Do any of your therapists ask to speak with your husband/wife/mom/dad? My husband thinks that mine is being incompetent by not asking to see him. She said that she only does individual therapy and is only interested in seeing me. She has suggested marriage counseling after I've come along further in individual therapy. I've been seeing her since February and I have made progress. What do you think? Is my therapist a quack, or is my husband being too intrusive?
Posted by Phil on June 25, 2001, at 21:32:29
In reply to Should my therapist see my husband?, posted by Waterlily on June 25, 2001, at 21:12:27
Seems to me that she's focusing on the matter at hand. And that seems reasonable.
Your husband seems a bit paranoid. Why would he say that she's incompetent when you say that you are making progress with her?
Am I confused?Phil
Posted by Glenn Fagelson on June 25, 2001, at 23:00:26
In reply to Should my therapist see my husband?, posted by Waterlily on June 25, 2001, at 21:12:27
> Do any of your therapists ask to speak with your husband/wife/mom/dad? My husband thinks that mine is being incompetent by not asking to see him. She said that she only does individual therapy and is only interested in seeing me. She has suggested marriage counseling after I've come along further in individual therapy. I've been seeing her since February and I have made progress. What do you think? Is my therapist a quack, or is my husband being too intrusive?
Dear Waterlily,
I do not think your husband is being too
intrusive; be glad that your husband is open
enough to want to come to therapy with you.
Some therapists do not do couples' counseling.
So....you might want to consider another therapist, if couples' counseling is really
important for you.Glenn
Posted by Phil on June 26, 2001, at 7:13:33
In reply to Re: Should my therapist see my husband?, posted by Glenn Fagelson on June 25, 2001, at 23:00:26
Glenn,
Good point about the husband wanting to get involved. I'm in group and a few people there are having a difficult time with spouses not wanting to do couples counseling. Thanks for the different view.
Phil
Posted by Waterlily on June 26, 2001, at 15:06:54
In reply to Re: Should my therapist see my husband?, posted by Glenn Fagelson on June 25, 2001, at 23:00:26
>
> Dear Waterlily,
>
> I do not think your husband is being too
> intrusive; be glad that your husband is open
> enough to want to come to therapy with you.
> Some therapists do not do couples' counseling.
> So....you might want to consider another therapist, if couples' counseling is really
> important for you.
>
> GlennThanks for the input. My husband is a wonderful man, but I got angry that he didn't think my therapist was doing right by me - like I don't know enough to be able to tell if my therapist is good or bad. She does individual therapy only and will not even do individual therapy with two people from the same family. She gave me the name of a social worker who is good with marital therapy.
Posted by Chris A. on June 26, 2001, at 23:09:20
In reply to Should my therapist see my husband?, posted by Waterlily on June 25, 2001, at 21:12:27
My current therapist and pDoc welcome and encourage my husband to come to my appointments. Difficulties and mental illness don't occur in a vacuum and I think it is important for family members to be involved and know what is going on.
Once I had a psychiatrist who got angry when I brought my husband along. This is also one who grossly misdiagnosed me, so obviously he wasn't very good. I don't think a therapist has to officially do couples counseling for a spouse to come along. My current therapist is an MSW, so he is open to anyone accompanying me that can be of help or needs to know what is going on. So far I haven't taken my teenage children. They need to know what is going on, so it might be a good idea to take them sometime. He is excellent so would most likely be of help. I've been at a loss as to what to tell them about my bipolar illness, even though they have had to grow up with my moods and erractic behavior.
Since your husband is willing to be involved (which many are not) you might point out to your therapist some of the potential benfits, such as helping to educate him concerning your difficulties and helping him to help you. It also might answer oncerns he has. Any therapist should be able to do that, or they are not deserving of their degree.
Blessings,
Chris A.
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