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Posted by Racer on October 3, 2000, at 20:23:25
OK, I'm sunk so deep into this hole right now that I am not getting things done. I can make lists, and follow through on some of the items, but anything which includes interacting or communicating with others is a problem. Well, I guess I'm the problem, since I'm the one avoiding it like the plague!
I've got to do something about this, but I'm not sure what to do or how to do it. This can't be a unique problem, and someone here has found something to help. Please, share it?
Thanks!
Posted by CarolAnn on October 4, 2000, at 10:32:50
In reply to Avoidance?, posted by Racer on October 3, 2000, at 20:23:25
Racer, go back to your post,"Message from the universe", print it, read it at least once per hour, at the same time remembering exactly how optimistic you felt while you were writing it!
couldn't hurt!
CarolAnn
Posted by noa on October 4, 2000, at 12:37:52
In reply to Re: Avoidance? » Racer, posted by CarolAnn on October 4, 2000, at 10:32:50
Avoidance? It's my middle name!!!
Posted by ksvt on October 4, 2000, at 15:09:29
In reply to Re: Avoidance?, posted by noa on October 4, 2000, at 12:37:52
> Avoidance? It's my middle name!!!
Usually when I'm feeling the way you're describing, all the things I'm not getting to seem more important and more problemmatical than they probably are. Sometimes it helps to set very modest goals, like promise yourself you're going to make 1 phone call you've been avoiding. If you can manage that, at least you can feel some sense of accomplishment and reduce some of the anxiety you're feeling about not getting to stuff. The key is keep you're goals and expectations as modest as possible. ksvt
Posted by tdaneen on October 5, 2000, at 10:03:19
In reply to Re: Avoidance?, posted by ksvt on October 4, 2000, at 15:09:29
Racer, sometimes it pays to take just a personal day.
Whether or not you can afford it $$ wise. A little vacation day
away from your life and problems and condition (whatever it may be)
could be just what the doctor ordered to give you that
boost. That little bit "Ok-Life-Here-I-Am-Ready-To-Bite-You-Back-In-The-A$$" attitude
you may be lacking right now.Take a day off. Don't reflect on what is going on.
Escape, it is a vacation day.Come back with some renued energy.
Best to youTdaneen.
Posted by Racer on October 5, 2000, at 13:09:05
In reply to Re: Avoidance?, posted by tdaneen on October 5, 2000, at 10:03:19
That's actually great advice. I'd been circling around it lately, but I do know the idea. My mother is like that, too. She'll get so involved in not getting things done that all her energy is directed at self-flagellation. I always tell her that she needs to take a fun day, but she says no, she has too many things to do, she's too far behind, etc. I am my mother's daughter...
I am going to take your advice in a way: I found a fabulous source of fake fur, some of which is bright neon colors. Think of leopard patterns in neon red, green, blue, orange, yellow -- all in one fabric! I've decided that I need a bright faux fur suit! So, I have an idea for the top to go with it, and I'm going to take play money from this last paycheck, buy the fur, buy the top material, and make that damn suit. Maybe I'll never have a place to wear it, since I'm really too old to be so silly anymore, but I'll still enjoy it!
Meantime, I'm going to work a bit this morning on my portfolio, then I'm going to make a big sign for over my desk, with all the great advice I give other people but never manage to use myself.
Thanks for reminding me.
Posted by tdaneen on October 6, 2000, at 11:45:06
In reply to Re: Avoidance? » tdaneen, posted by Racer on October 5, 2000, at 13:09:05
Nothing like putting on a new attitude!
Glad I could remind you.I'm going to have a girls night tonight with my four year old and my 87 year ol grandmother.
Create some special memories and not bother with working any overtime tonight.The outfit sounds really festive.
Wear it and feel full of life!!
BTW:
"Age is not important unless you are a cheese."
-Helen Hayestdaneen
Posted by noa on October 6, 2000, at 12:04:51
In reply to Re: Avoidance?, posted by tdaneen on October 6, 2000, at 11:45:06
I'm going to have a girls night tonight with my four year old and my 87 year ol grandmother.
That is so cool!
Posted by shar on October 9, 2000, at 1:17:47
In reply to Re: Avoidance? » tdaneen, posted by noa on October 6, 2000, at 12:04:51
Racer,
You are never too old to be silly! Silly is fun, spontaneous, surprising, laughter, unexpected, delightful and more.Never give THAT up!
Shar
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