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Posted by karen_kay on July 28, 2008, at 13:05:02
yuppers, that'sme. i see a challenge, i wnat to face it, head on (don't snicker, i'm not always beign dirty. ok, maybe i was tis time...).
compromising morales. i have them. and i can always fidn a way to justify, in my head, what i want to do, why i've done it, why it should have been done, on and on and on...
i really think i'm a psychopath. or maybe i'm just drivin? or maybe i dislike authority (ie:taking orders from mister kk, as in 'you can not do this or that' which are very FAIR orders, and not outof the ordinary in a marriage.. or are they?
yeah, i'm a psychopath. the more he says no, the more i want. what's wrong with me, other than the psychopath part. i've got that figured out. and please, don't suggest therapy. i'll just get a male one, and try to seduce him. besides, we can't afford ti anyway, even with "great" benefits.
GRRRRR!!!!
Posted by fleeting flutterby on July 28, 2008, at 15:49:22
In reply to lackign impulse control.., posted by karen_kay on July 28, 2008, at 13:05:02
> yuppers, that'sme. i see a challenge, i wnat to face it, head on (don't snicker, i'm not always beign dirty. ok, maybe i was tis time...).
> compromising morales. i have them. and i can always fidn a way to justify, in my head, what i want to do, why i've done it, why it should have been done, on and on and on...<< ---------Well, being totally honest here-- not meaning to offend but, this sounds more like being narcissistic than psychopathic. Only thinking of ones own wants/desires with little regard for loved one.-----
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> i really think i'm a psychopath. or maybe i'm just drivin? or maybe i dislike authority (ie:taking orders from mister kk, as in 'you can not do this or that' which are very FAIR orders, and not outof the ordinary in a marriage.. or are they?<<----My husband will NEVER tell me what I can and can't do nor do I do that to him. We are both adults. Seems this relationship is more on the lines of a parent/child relationship-- unless both of you do this to each other, I guess. I've been told it's important to be equals for a relationship to be happy and healthy.
> yeah, i'm a psychopath. the more he says no, the more i want.<<----this is known as "rebellion" which is quite common in a child/parent type relationship. I don't think you're a psychopath.------
>>what's wrong with me, other than the psychopath part. i've got that figured out. and please, don't suggest therapy. i'll just get a male one, and try to seduce him. besides, we can't afford ti anyway, even with "great" benefits.
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> GRRRRR!!!!<<anyway-- I hope I've not offended you-- if so I do apologize...... my purpose in replying was solely to help.
best to you,
flutterby-mandy
Posted by karen_kay on July 28, 2008, at 20:02:56
In reply to Re: lackign impulse control.. » karen_kay, posted by fleeting flutterby on July 28, 2008, at 15:49:22
hey you!
i've been told i'm cryptic (hey, i thought that meant old for a minute, but it doesn't), so i'll be more open and honest.
challenge= man who i want to sleep with, but mister kk says no, or i think i have no shot for various reasons.
i think you may have hit the nail on the head with the whole narcisisst thing (god, i know that's selled wrong, but i'm too lazy to scroll down to your post and find the correct spelling).
what was i sayig/typing again?
oh yeah, so his 'orders' are more like 'no sleeping with mister booger' or whatever. but then i find out exactly what my limits are, and try to push them.
wowsa, i'm something else, huh?
i know i'm horrible. i know i'
m screwing with a whoel lot of people (ot literally. please don't think i'm some kind of whore whose sleeping with tons of guys or anythig like that, nto that there's anythig wrong with that. i probably would be if i weren't married with a wonderful little boy. hey, tere's a pic of him on the parent's page tooo :) sorry, shameless plug.butttt.... that's me, well part of me. i hate to admit it, but that's how i am. i like to push that boundaries. maybe i still do have daddy issues?
and trust me, there was nothing offensive in your post at all hun. it takes quite a lot to offend me :) and you were othing but thoughtful and helpful.
so, am i a bad person? because i don't see myself ever 'growing' up an dstopping. is that what it is? i just need to grow up? is there somethign seriously wrong with me? do i have some sort of serious personality disorder causign this, or am i jsut a child, lacking self control and manipulating.
sometimes ti bugs me. but when i'm flirting and skirtig the envelope, it sure is fun.
i'm goig to hell. i already know it. may as well live it up while i can, right?
thanks for the thought provoking points. now wht?
kk
Posted by fleeting flutterby on July 28, 2008, at 20:31:37
In reply to Re: lackign impulse control.. » fleeting flutterby, posted by karen_kay on July 28, 2008, at 20:02:56
> hey you!
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> i've been told i'm cryptic (hey, i thought that meant old for a minute, but it doesn't), so i'll be more open and honest.
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> challenge= man who i want to sleep with, but mister kk says no, or i think i have no shot for various reasons.<<-----Well, I guess if you're OK with Mr. KK sleeping with other women and he wants to, then I think it would be fine for you to sleep with another man..... it depends on your relationship/marriage.-----
> i think you may have hit the nail on the head with the whole narcisisst thing (god, i know that's selled wrong, but i'm too lazy to scroll down to your post and find the correct spelling).
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> what was i sayig/typing again?
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> oh yeah, so his 'orders' are more like 'no sleeping with mister booger' or whatever. but then i find out exactly what my limits are, and try to push them.
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> wowsa, i'm something else, huh?
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> i know i'm horrible. i know i'
> m screwing with a whoel lot of people (ot literally. please don't think i'm some kind of whore whose sleeping with tons of guys or anythig like that, nto that there's anythig wrong with that. i probably would be if i weren't married with a wonderful little boy. hey, tere's a pic of him on the parent's page tooo :) sorry, shameless plug.<<
----- pictures? I never knew there was a place here with pictures! I don't get around much here. *blushing*------
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> butttt.... that's me, well part of me. i hate to admit it, but that's how i am. i like to push that boundaries. maybe i still do have daddy issues?-----maybe you do..... I think there are many that do.....more common than you'd think. Or maybe it's like an adrenlin rush and all you need is something to replace it-- like sky diving or bungy jumping!-----
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> and trust me, there was nothing offensive in your post at all hun. it takes quite a lot to offend me :) and you were othing but thoughtful and helpful.<<----phew... thank you for understanding! :o) you're so cool!---
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> so, am i a bad person? because i don't see myself ever 'growing' up an dstopping. is that what it is? i just need to grow up? is there somethign seriously wrong with me? do i have some sort of serious personality disorder causign this, or am i jsut a child, lacking self control and manipulating.
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> sometimes ti bugs me. but when i'm flirting and skirtig the envelope, it sure is fun.
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> i'm goig to hell. i already know it. may as well live it up while i can, right?
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> thanks for the thought provoking points. now wht?
> kk<<ummm now what?? hell if I know! :o) I can give out my views but I sorely lack in advice! Views I have a plenty but solutions I haven't any! LOL!! I don't think you're bad.... maybe misguided as to what "fun" is... but you're not bad. <3 --> that's a heart for you-- can you see it?
take care,
flutterby- mandy
Posted by karen_kay on July 30, 2008, at 13:41:29
In reply to Re: lackign impulse control.., posted by fleeting flutterby on July 28, 2008, at 20:31:37
please don't think i'm ignoring you...
i'm trying to figure it out myself dear.
and the pics are on the parent's page. if you want more (hey, i'm aything but shy, bmail me and you can see the WHOLE thing :)
tata for now, but i'll get back to you i promise. i just have to sort through it in my head and try to figure out jst what the deal is, you know?
and actually, i really am perfectly fien with him sleeping with other women. that wouldn't bother me in the slightest.
i never said i wasn't strange. i think he has more of a problem with it than i do...
i wish i could type the sound i jsut made :)
kk
Posted by fleeting flutterby on July 31, 2008, at 13:01:45
In reply to i'm still finking about this... » fleeting flutterby, posted by karen_kay on July 30, 2008, at 13:41:29
> please don't think i'm ignoring you...
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> i'm trying to figure it out myself dear.<<----- ah ha! I knew you weren't a psychopath! :o) a psychopath wouldn't be kind like you have been.
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> and the pics are on the parent's page. if you want more (hey, i'm aything but shy, bmail me and you can see the WHOLE thing :)<<---- My first time in the "parents" page. I tend to get lost if there are more than 3 or 4 forums. *blushing*.... so I'd just never gone there before.
It was interesting reading there and-- Oh! your little guy is so so cute! I bet he's a lot of fun!
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> tata for now, but i'll get back to you i promise. i just have to sort through it in my head and try to figure out jst what the deal is, you know?<<---- Yeah, I understand-- no problem.
Wishing you the best,
flutterby- mandy
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