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Posted by deerock on February 17, 2009, at 21:49:45
im running into this issue with my therapist. i told her at the very beginning that i was going to AA to help with my pot smoking and OA to deal with my eating. both of these programs help me. when i attend either one, i either eat better or stay clean. and i told her that my goal in therapy is to learn to regulate myself without needing these programs. today, she told me that it was quite possible i would need these programs to be able to regulate myself and i might end up going to them the remainder of my life. this royally upset me and pissed me off.
she claims that my reasons for not wanting to go to the programs involve a fear of people. its not that i dont like the programs, i do, i like socializing but the program itself has a conceptual foundation of crap. god, 12 steps, etc. so she thinks that i dont like it because i dont trust people in my life because getting close to people makes me scared. i dont know if thats true. bottom line though, im really pissed that she is now telling me that she thinks i will need these fellowships forever when my original motivator in seeking therapy was to find ways to regulate myself and NOT need these groups. it may be true that im scared of people but the fact remains that i do not want to rely on these groups.
i dont know if this makes any sense and i know its hard to comment because youre not in the mix...but i am curious if you have any thoughts on this. and of course, i will continue to talk to her about this.
thanks for reading.
Posted by Sigismund on February 18, 2009, at 1:09:15
In reply to therapy and AA, posted by deerock on February 17, 2009, at 21:49:45
>she claims that my reasons for not wanting to go to the programs involve a fear of people
In your place I would have agreed and added that I was horrified by them as well.
Each to his own, but those AA programs are not for me, and that's OK too, as it contributes to self reliance
Posted by Partlycloudy on February 18, 2009, at 9:12:01
In reply to therapy and AA, posted by deerock on February 17, 2009, at 21:49:45
My therapist and I feel that AA has its place as a transitional tool in my life, but for me it's not a permanent fixture. I think that it's different for everybody, and that we each have our healthy path to sobriety. Mine included some time spent within AA, but I found another organization that suited my needs better.
PartlyCloudy
Posted by deerock on February 18, 2009, at 10:30:39
In reply to Re: therapy and AA » deerock, posted by Partlycloudy on February 18, 2009, at 9:12:01
which organization fit your needs better? thanks for your response.
Posted by Partlycloudy on February 18, 2009, at 11:44:30
In reply to Re: therapy and AA-partly cloudy, posted by deerock on February 18, 2009, at 10:30:39
> which organization fit your needs better? thanks for your response.
It's called Women For Sobriety - there are online resources and some scattered face to face meetings. I've been sober for three and a half years now. I like the community of women helping other women and the positive message.
pc
Posted by deerock on February 18, 2009, at 11:47:36
In reply to Re: therapy and AA-partly cloudy » deerock, posted by Partlycloudy on February 18, 2009, at 11:44:30
good pc. keep up the good work.
Posted by cal on February 21, 2009, at 4:45:21
In reply to Re: therapy and AA-partly cloudy, posted by deerock on February 18, 2009, at 11:47:36
I tried AA but it actually triggered my PSTD to much and then when I started to question things I was told to shut up and put the cotton wool in my mouth, much to say, I stopped attending and have been sober 6yrs without AA. I like to talk and therapy does that for me, it allows me to question and to grow. My "acoholic" status doesn't even enter my mind nowadays.
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