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Posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 7:12:52
I already made the appointment, so I am going. I think if anything it might help me make a decision. I have had time to think more about my T and I remember in the beginning of therapy (the first 1-2 months) I remember even questioning it here if he remembers what we talk about. But as soon as I questioned it here, he became more involved and seemed to know who I was. So maybe this illness has distracted him, I am not sure. Him totally forgetting some things, things that have great importance to my therapy of knowing who I am, seems to not be very helpful to me.
Someone said he just needed to go back over his notes. Well that is the thing, he was always running behind, and instead of taking a minute or two before the next client, and write notes, he didn't. It is hard, I don't want to give him up, but yet I don't want to stay in a stale T relationship where I have to repeat everything all over again. Wish me luck today.
Posted by Partlycloudy on September 25, 2008, at 8:02:38
In reply to Today I see my new T, posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 7:12:52
Good luck today - remember that you are taking care of yourself and not taking care of your therapist! You must put your own welfare first.
PartlyCloudy
Posted by seldomseen on September 25, 2008, at 8:57:19
In reply to Today I see my new T, posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 7:12:52
Good luck with your new T! You've got to do what's best for you. Keep us posted.
Sending good T vibes your way!
Seldom
Posted by onceupon on September 25, 2008, at 9:14:38
In reply to Today I see my new T, posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 7:12:52
Good luck, lemonaide. I don't know you well, but I know that you deserve to get good care, just like everyone else.
Posted by LadyBug on September 25, 2008, at 11:42:28
In reply to Today I see my new T, posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 7:12:52
Best of luck today! I hope it feels right and you can begin to do what works best for you. It's your therapy and you have a right to do what works for you. It's healthy to take care of yourself in this way. Let me know what happens.
Hugs
LadyBug
Posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 12:40:49
In reply to Today I see my new T, posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 7:12:52
Thanks everyone for the good luck. He did some things right, but he was too soft spoken, and I think I would scare the hell out of him. lol He listened well, and it did help to hear my thoughts back at me. But he seemed kinda green to me. Maybe because I have had only T's with at least 20yrs. experience, and my current one 40 yrs. He was cheap too, but he isn't he one for me. He talked so soft like a little birdie, he must have thought I had a big mouth! haha! I truely think I am way beyond his experience level. I need more... um.... something...
I found out how he heard about my T. It was during an insurance meeting, he was getting signed up for a group. Looking for a T group to be a part of, and someone mentioned my T, and then someone else said oh, but I hear he is having medical problems with remembering. And although I am glad it isn't all in my mind, I do think he shouldn't have told me this especially since he knows I am still seeing him.
So I found another one today, and she does EMDR too, and one of her specialties is working with those who have experienced child abuse and other traumas, and unethical T's too. We talked on the phone and she sounds really easy to talk to. She takes a holistic approach to therapy also, whatever that means. I am meeting with her on Monday. She knows I am looking for a new T and that I am still seeing my old one, when I described the problem and when she asked who it was, she said that was who she guessed I was talking about. So It seems a lot of people know about my T , but yet he isn't telling me which is weird because of all the disclosure I am used to with him.
I still have an appointment with my T on Tues. and I did call him this morning and left a message to call me back, he hasn't yet. Soooooo I am still torn on what to do, but it looks like it might be more of an attachment thing, I don't want to leave him because I adore him so much. But it comes down to not what is in my heart, but maybe what is the right thing to do for my recovery. It is so frickin' hard.
Thanks everyone for all your support during this. You all amaze me.
Posted by Partlycloudy on September 25, 2008, at 12:53:52
In reply to Nope it aint gonna work with this one, lol, posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 12:40:49
I'm glad that you're looking into talking to another T, Lemonaide. That she's aware of the memory problem with your current T would be a humoungous red flag for me - he might be shedding clients left and right because of this issue. (And the holistic thing probably means that she's going to be looking at comprehensive care for her clients, not just therapy - this is something my own T does, and it's how I got back in to my yoga practice.)
Hang in there.
pc
Posted by Phillipa on September 25, 2008, at 13:42:15
In reply to Re: Nope it aint gonna work with this one, lol » lemonaide, posted by Partlycloudy on September 25, 2008, at 12:53:52
Lemonaide wow you work fast!!!! Love Phillipa sorry about both T's
Posted by lemonaide on September 25, 2008, at 16:05:53
In reply to Re: Nope it aint gonna work with this one, lol » lemonaide, posted by Partlycloudy on September 25, 2008, at 12:53:52
Hi PC,
Yeah, she is the 2nd T who has heard about my T's problems, but yet it is just my perception according to my T? ummmm, I am beginning to go with he is being in denial about this or he doesn't want me to know. I don't know really.
This 2nd T seemed on the phone to be a lot like me, kinda lively and such,(you have met me you know I am crazy) lol but she she said some things that sounded really good. Plus on her website she said she communicates with emails during the week too in addition to the session. She is a member of Holistic Mothers too, which is simular to what kind of parenting I have done with my two kids.
Boy do I need to get back to the gym and yoga. I haven't been there for months now and I can tell. lol Maybe a change is what I need. But I don't know if I can leave my T, even with the problems, I am attached to him I believe. It is insane that I need therapy to deal with therapy.
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