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Just trying to help/but I fumbled

Posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 13:06:40

so I think I will just say bye for now.

I haven't posted much becuase I am between a rock and a hard place. Then I try and I get mistakenly misunderstood.

I don't think I have anything of value to say (maybe never did) for now so I will bid all adeiu.

Take care all.

I wish you all the best.

Babble seems strange right now and a little hurtful.

 

Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » rskontos

Posted by Phillipa on August 21, 2008, at 13:19:25

In reply to Just trying to help/but I fumbled, posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 13:06:40

I have no idea what you may or may have not done but don't stay away. I value your info. And babblemail is always open. Phillipa

 

Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » rskontos

Posted by B2chica on August 21, 2008, at 13:31:49

In reply to Just trying to help/but I fumbled, posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 13:06:40

no, how could you be hurtful??
please take care of yourself.
dont leave (unless its best for you)
i'm sorry if its anything i said??

you know i dont mean anything. heck i can't even remember what i've written half the time.

please take care.

 

Re:Thanks Phillipa and B2c

Posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 13:42:51

In reply to Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » rskontos, posted by B2chica on August 21, 2008, at 13:31:49

It wasn't either of you guys, it probably just me being too sensitive
as always. I am still just a mess and that is that.

I don't know what to do these days so that is the basic problem. I would spell it all out in a thread but I am not sure it would help either or someone might hurt me more since I am so sensitive and easily hurt so I keep it bottled up inside and that isn't helpful either. Plus I have these fairly dark thoughts I don't share with anyone except you guys these very moment.

so there you have it I am officially a mess. I can't handle much and I really should just lurk and not answer posts right now.

rsk

but not B2c it is not ever anything you could ever say. And thanks phillipa you were sweet.

 

Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled

Posted by wishingstar on August 21, 2008, at 14:53:28

In reply to Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » rskontos, posted by Phillipa on August 21, 2008, at 13:19:25

It was me.

Everytime I try to post here regularly again, I mess it up. This site probably isnt the place for me, even though I wish it was.

I'm sorry my response hurt you and made you feel like you'd done something wrong. It wasnt my intention.

I'm going to try to stay away, at least for awhile. Lurking seems to work out better for me.

Nothing wrong with you at all rsk. Dont beat yourself up. Thank you for your support.

 

Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled rsk , ws » wishingstar

Posted by Nadezda on August 21, 2008, at 15:16:09

In reply to Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled, posted by wishingstar on August 21, 2008, at 14:53:28

Hey-- both of you-- I didn't feel that either of you screwed up. I guess there was a misunderstanding- as happens sometimes in life-- unfortunately. But if you can work it out, maybe both of you will feel a little more understood and accepted-- I hope.

But do you need to retreat from babble? because, as an outsider, just reading both of your responses, I didn't feel that either of you meant to hurt or reject the other. And what each of you said had substance and value. Maybe, possibly, even though you're both very sensitive to hurting others-- when you really may not have-- and very quick to feel bad in yourselves-- neither of you is or deserves that.

I know it's rough here at times-- but don't you think most of have good hearts and are trying to reach out? -- and that we can rely on that, even if occasionally something miscarries-- or we get carried away-- or misstate-- or overstate-- ?

Anyway, you're voth valued participants, to me, and-- of course-- if you do feel the need for time away from posting-- I would respect that. But I will miss the sense of your presence.

Nadezda

 

Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled rsk , ws » Nadezda

Posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 16:52:10

In reply to Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled rsk , ws » wishingstar, posted by Nadezda on August 21, 2008, at 15:16:09

Thanks Nadezda,

You are right in everything you said. I was just being overly sensitive. I was justing trying to be supportive and probably did not say it right and then I did beat myself up over it.

I have been trying to post a thread about how I have been feeling lately but haven't been able to. I only recently started posting again after lurking for quite a while. I am so disconnected from my RL and I had hoped posting here at Babble would help me feel connected somewhere.

It is just that I am either numb or overly sensitive. I just can't connect with my emotions properly. So it is my problem.

I just made a big too do over nothing. I am sorry.

rsk

But I really appreciate your support. It is funny how we sometimes just can't post a thread called HELP I need HELP.
Which is what I really just needed to do.


 

Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » wishingstar

Posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 16:56:05

In reply to Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled, posted by wishingstar on August 21, 2008, at 14:53:28

No What I think is probably we are in the exact same place. We are both too sensitive for our own good.

I really needed to just start a thread saying Help I need Help and I did not. I really am so disconnect from my life and I thought posting here at Babble would help me. But I just got too sensitive in all.

I was just trying to be supportive. You did not mess it up. This site is for you and me both. We I think just need to feel comfortable asking for help and accepting it. But I know for me that is soooooooooooooooo hard.

Accept my humble apologies and i am sorry I hurt you again.

Our theme song can be Hurting Each Other and maybe we can laugh and move on. I hope so. Because if I thought I had caused you or anyone pain I would hurt all over again.

Let's make a pact not to beat either of ourselves up, I know that is a tall order for each of us, but maybe together we can do it.

Whatdayaday?

rsk

 

Re: Meant to say, Help I need Help

Posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 16:57:20

In reply to Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » wishingstar, posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 16:56:05

This is what I should have said all along. All these months I have been struggling I should have just said HELP. I need support.

rsk

 

Re: Meant to say, Help I need Help » rskontos

Posted by Wittgensteinz on August 21, 2008, at 17:03:50

In reply to Re: Meant to say, Help I need Help, posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 16:57:20

It's ok, you're ok. You didn't do anything wrong, nor did Wishingstar - neither of you hurt people here, I'm sure of that. For a long while, I've just scanned the posts here without taking part, but I think I need more support/interaction lately so here I am posting again. You should do what helps you most and don't worry too much about writing the wrong thing. So what if someone does make a mistake - we're all human.

I'm sorry it feels like one big mess - maybe it is relatively speaking, but I still think you are strong and very much together through all of this - that's the impression I get. If it's any consolation, I feel my life is quite a big mess at the moment too :)

Try to be kind to yourself, you deserve it.

((((Rskontos)))))

Witti

 

Re: Meant to say, Help I need Help » Wittgensteinz

Posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 17:14:57

In reply to Re: Meant to say, Help I need Help » rskontos, posted by Wittgensteinz on August 21, 2008, at 17:03:50

Thanks Witti,

that means alot to me (your support), not that I want your life to be a mess.
I am glad to hear from you again. I miss you.

rsk

 

Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » rskontos

Posted by TherapyGirl on August 21, 2008, at 19:39:48

In reply to Just trying to help/but I fumbled, posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 13:06:40

I'm sorry, RSK. I have appreciated your posts to me and have found them helpful and supportive.

I hope you will be back soon (or decide to stay).

 

Re: thanks therapygirl, appreciate it (nm)

Posted by rskontos on August 21, 2008, at 20:54:44

In reply to Re: Just trying to help/but I fumbled » rskontos, posted by TherapyGirl on August 21, 2008, at 19:39:48


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