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Posted by llurpsienoodle on April 26, 2008, at 19:46:14
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/grief/20070414/msgs/825645.html
if you don't want to grieve, don't click on link.
:'(
can't stop crying. My h is crying too. I wanna call my T, but I'm not sure what he would say that would help me. It was one of my first rxn's though.
-Ll
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2008, at 19:50:16
In reply to I need a hug **trigger**, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 26, 2008, at 19:46:14
I'm so sorry.
Posted by Sigismund on April 26, 2008, at 20:19:18
In reply to (((llurpsie))), posted by Dinah on April 26, 2008, at 19:50:16
That's no good, Lurps.
There's a finality, isn't there?
When our bush cat got a tick and died a horrible death we buried her, and then we came back, and it was such an empty comfortless feeling.
We've had a few cats since, but never one so lovely for me.
Posted by rskontos on April 26, 2008, at 20:31:07
In reply to Re: (((llurpsie))), posted by Sigismund on April 26, 2008, at 20:19:18
Li. I love all my animals and call them all my babies so I reallly understand what you are going through. So sorry sweetie.
I too would be devastated.
(((((((((((((llurpsie))))))))
rsk
Posted by seldomseen on April 26, 2008, at 21:33:03
In reply to I need a hug **trigger**, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 26, 2008, at 19:46:14
I'm so very very sorry.
Please take care. Rest assured that your little fur baby was loved in its life.
I think that love carries on with them after they're gone.
I'm so sad for you.
Seldom
Posted by Nadezda on April 26, 2008, at 22:01:27
In reply to (((llurpsie))), posted by seldomseen on April 26, 2008, at 21:33:03
I'm so sorry, Llurpsie.
I wish there was something that could undo such a very very sad, abrupt loss.
Nadezda
Posted by muffled on April 26, 2008, at 22:15:50
In reply to (((llurpsie))), posted by seldomseen on April 26, 2008, at 21:33:03
Grieve any way that suits.
Seems I do diff for diff pets.
One dear pet I went in my room alone and moaned like tribeswoman.
Its hurts.
Kitty is OK, maybe kitty up there playing with my dogs and cats and my special budgie.
It hurts to lose a loved one.
The pain will ease.
But it surely sucks.
I am sorry.
M
Posted by sunnydays on April 26, 2008, at 22:53:21
In reply to I need a hug **trigger**, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 26, 2008, at 19:46:14
((((((llurpsie))))))))
That is so awful. I'm so so sorry. Take the time you need to grieve. I would be absolutely devastated and torn up too. And calling your T would be perfectly appropriate, if you think it might be helpful.
I hope you can find some peace tonight.
sunnydays
Posted by jammerlich on April 27, 2008, at 11:01:03
In reply to Re: I need a hug **trigger** » llurpsienoodle, posted by sunnydays on April 26, 2008, at 22:53:21
Llurpsie, I'm so sorry. Thinking about you and holding you close.
Posted by obsidian on April 27, 2008, at 13:41:45
In reply to I need a hug **trigger**, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 26, 2008, at 19:46:14
I'm so sorry for your loss :-(
Posted by Phillipa on April 27, 2008, at 14:26:13
In reply to ((((((((llurpsie))))))))))))), posted by obsidian on April 27, 2008, at 13:41:45
Posted on grief in response google Rainbow's Bridge singing version. So sorry. Love Phillipa
Posted by llurpsienoodle on April 27, 2008, at 16:24:37
In reply to Re: ((((((((llurpsie))))))))))))), posted by Phillipa on April 27, 2008, at 14:26:13
thank you guys,
I had too many emotions yesterday, and I couldn't sleep because I kept seeing his little body and wondering how someone could have hit him and not stopped. I kept on seeing the images. and then going to bed, and he wasn't there to snuggle with me (he always snuggles with me).Well, I had to take a zyprexa which is basically like an elephant dart, in my experience. and a klonopin, and a sonata. finally after 2 hours of tossing and turning, trying to watch TV, trying to read, etc. I must have fallen asleep.
I know this is horrible, but we shopped for kittens today. We put down a deposit on a ragdoll kitten. I want my next cat to be docile and not an outdoor kitty. no more outdoors for my kitty. maybe on the deck, that's fine, but no further.
I will never forget my little kitty though. he had the cutest kitty meow, kind of squeaky, like a kitten. he was very affectionate, and had a curious, naughty streak in him too. he was very fun, and very much a part of my family.
I decided not to call T, unless I'm feeling self-destructive. So far my self-destructive instincts have led me to eat an ice cream sundae and 2 boston kreme donuts. and a piece of pizza for breakfast. i was in bed until 4pm, at which point we went on a junkfood binge.
comfort food.
I keep on expecting to hear his jingle bell, signalling that he's coming home... :'(
Posted by Phillipa on April 27, 2008, at 18:57:36
In reply to thanks, **triggers**, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 27, 2008, at 16:24:37
Li what is a ragdoll kitten? Never heard of that kind. Love Phillipa glad you seem to be recovering.
Posted by Dinah on April 27, 2008, at 19:43:20
In reply to thanks, **triggers**, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 27, 2008, at 16:24:37
Ragdolls are adorable. If I ever get a cat, that's the kind I want.
Bicolor or mitted?
Posted by llurpsienoodle on April 27, 2008, at 19:47:07
In reply to Re: thanks, **triggers** » llurpsienoodle, posted by Dinah on April 27, 2008, at 19:43:20
bicolor (blue)
-Ll
I think my zyprexa is wearin off. I feel emotions again. ;'(((((
Posted by Dinah on April 27, 2008, at 19:56:45
In reply to Re: thanks, **triggers** » Dinah, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 27, 2008, at 19:47:07
My favorite!! Do you have names picked out?
Feeling emotions in manageable quantities is probably a good thing, don't you think? Losing a family member is something to grieve.
Posted by llurpsienoodle on April 28, 2008, at 8:11:16
In reply to Re: thanks, **triggers** » llurpsienoodle, posted by Dinah on April 27, 2008, at 19:56:45
I can't believe how numb the klonopin and zyprexa made me feel. it took a full 24 hours before I was able to cry again.
This morning I took a xanax because I thought I had a dentist visit. I get there, and (stoopid llurpsie) it is actually tomorrow. (dammit!)
I think I'll paint my fingernails now. they are begging for some kind of crazy goth color.
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