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Posted by llurpsienoodle on March 7, 2008, at 19:19:47
I have been very stressed and distressed about my job for some time. T finally coached me into quitting. My supervisor was very taken aback, but I was able to convince supervisor that it was the right decision. Whew! And supervisor will still be willing to write me recommendations. and socialize with me.
whew. I (almost) feel better. If I had another job it would be nice...
In other news we discussed the fact that llittle llurpsie continues to believe that what happened is her fault. sigh.
-Ll
Posted by Phillipa on March 7, 2008, at 21:46:30
In reply to t and I talked about quitting my job, posted by llurpsienoodle on March 7, 2008, at 19:19:47
Li so you will have human contact with supervisor so not totally alone? Li you were a child it's not your fault like I think I killed my Mother cause she said carrying me up two flights of stairs to an apartment made her sick. Now I believe I did do you? Love Phillipa
Posted by MidnightBlue on March 7, 2008, at 22:10:16
In reply to t and I talked about quitting my job, posted by llurpsienoodle on March 7, 2008, at 19:19:47
Is this the coffee job?
MB
Posted by ClearSkies on March 8, 2008, at 6:56:26
In reply to t and I talked about quitting my job, posted by llurpsienoodle on March 7, 2008, at 19:19:47
Llurpsie, I do think this was the best possible move for you and leaves you open for better opportunities. AND you got a new social contact out of the job, which is a great reward in itself. I hope that you're able to see that you've gained a lot overall with the experience, especially in learning how to set your own boundaries at work - this is something that takes some of us decades to learn! Brava to you.
CS
Posted by muffled on March 8, 2008, at 10:04:12
In reply to t and I talked about quitting my job, posted by llurpsienoodle on March 7, 2008, at 19:19:47
llurpy, would it be too triggering to go to a park and watch kids playing and look at ones that remind you of ages you were when there was trauma situations? Look at those kids.
A percentage of them DO/will have trauma....will it be their fault??? Can you look at those kids and think its their fault?
I spend a fair amt of time in an elementary school. I sometimes just look at the kids. Some times I will meet their eyes and we will share a big smile, it is so sweet. When I work with them, there is such a range of personalities, but they are all wanting to be cared for.
I guess I have an advantage? I dunno.
To be honest i have put all my own 'stuff' back away for now.
Just don't want to look at it right now. I need to keep going in day to day stuff.
Never mind i am accomplishing next to NOTHING these days.
Arrghh.
I shut up now.
I say stupid stuff as usu.
Take care.
M
Posted by Phillipa on March 8, 2008, at 18:25:56
In reply to Re: t and I talked about quitting my job, posted by muffled on March 8, 2008, at 10:04:12
Muffled I don't think you do and I think when you have kids to think of them and volunteer with them the best way of healing. I did the same when my own kids were in school. But you're ahead of me as you recognize and have worked a lot on the issues. I didn't so it biting me now. And Li you will get a job when the time is right and it's the right one. Love Phillipa
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 11, 2008, at 6:22:20
In reply to t and I talked about quitting my job, posted by llurpsienoodle on March 7, 2008, at 19:19:47
I feel SO much better about putting in my (3) week's notice. Things seem so much more hopeful. I don't wake up with the feeling of dread.
I applied for 5 jobs, and I hope I get an interview. Two of them are really well-suited to me, 2 are "okay" and the last one is a back-up plan.
I've also been accepted to start a business with someone, but it won't have cash flow for sometime, and I need money at this point, not my own business.
well, that's what's going on with me.
-Ll
Posted by Phillipa on March 11, 2008, at 20:06:10
In reply to update, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 11, 2008, at 6:22:20
Li I definitely could see you running a business. You sure do move fast in a good way. Congrats Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on March 12, 2008, at 22:58:00
In reply to update, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 11, 2008, at 6:22:20
I'm so glad you quit, llurpsie.
Work takes up so much of our days that a job that makes us unhappy generally makes us very very unhappy. I'm glad you took care of yourself and left.
At least my job, however much I hate it and feel like it's bad for my health, has some very nice qualities as well.
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 13, 2008, at 4:00:10
In reply to update, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 11, 2008, at 6:22:20
I'm so worried about getting another job. Money is important like never before in our household. I haven't gotten any interviews yet. Everyday I check job postings and am getting freaked out that I'm not qualified or that nobody wants me.
I spoke with my supervisor and she encouraged me to shuffle my hours around and ask for a pay raise. I know that this job has the kind of flexible hours that allow me to do my post-doc position (which doesn't pay jack).
I'm SO torn. I need to talk to T about this (and I'm not just saying that because this is the /psycho/board. I genuinely need to talk to T. He's got a lot of experience in career counselling, believe it or not.
I'm worried that if I apply for a raise I will get more STUCK (psychologically speaking) than ever.
In the meanwhile, my job this past week was very nice and low stress. Maybe I even got some good work done, who knows?
**** <--- that's a four-letter word. unspecified.
I've been waking up in the middle of the night. poor me. waaaaahhhh. ****.
pathetic.
-Ll
Posted by MidnightBlue on March 13, 2008, at 13:58:19
In reply to Oh No!, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 13, 2008, at 4:00:10
Ask for a raise and shuffled hours ONLY if they can assure your safety--mental, physical, emotional. And talk to T. You don't need a job that will do you more harm than good.
MB
Posted by Angela2 on March 14, 2008, at 18:10:58
In reply to Oh No!, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 13, 2008, at 4:00:10
> I'm so worried about getting another job. Money is important like never before in our household. I haven't gotten any interviews yet. Everyday I check job postings and am getting freaked out that I'm not qualified or that nobody wants me.
>
> I spoke with my supervisor and she encouraged me to shuffle my hours around and ask for a pay raise. I know that this job has the kind of flexible hours that allow me to do my post-doc position (which doesn't pay jack).
>
> I'm SO torn. I need to talk to T about this (and I'm not just saying that because this is the /psycho/board. I genuinely need to talk to T. He's got a lot of experience in career counselling, believe it or not.
>
> I'm worried that if I apply for a raise I will get more STUCK (psychologically speaking) than ever.
>
> In the meanwhile, my job this past week was very nice and low stress. Maybe I even got some good work done, who knows?
>
> **** <--- that's a four-letter word. unspecified.
>
> I've been waking up in the middle of the night. poor me. waaaaahhhh. ****.
>
> pathetic.
>
> -LlI know it is hard but for me, knowing that good things will come with time, helps.
You should do what you're comfortable with at work. I hope all goes well for you!!
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