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Posted by B2chica on May 3, 2006, at 12:19:12
This weekend i decided to just stop therapy. i'm sure it's not the best decision for me but the thought of therapy with my current therapist is anxiety provoking. it's not helping me. only making me worse. so i see her today and i'm going to talk to her about our miscommunication last week, my frustration, how over emotionally i respond and how this is just not good for me. ever since i made that decision i've already felt tons better.
i did see that guy T last week. he was ok. but...i just don't thin khe has the skill. the other female T i saw the week before, well, she's in residency and i don't feel she has the experience. i'm in a medium size town and just feel surrounded by mediocrity.
i see my pdoc next week and will see if he recommends anyone. though we've been through that before and he doens't really like any of the T's here either (except he did like last t i picked!-good taste). anyway, i dont' think i could have picked a worse time. me being off my meds, trying to get pregnant, which btw i saw obgyn this morning and she said i will have a very difficult time getting pregnant on my own and wants to start me on hormones right away. sort of depressing. but i should have known, it seems i have to fight for everything. why should this be any different.anyway. ya, bad timing. but i'd rather be with no one, than with a T that makes me worse.
send good vibes that i don't chicken out.
need a little support.love you all
b2c.
Posted by curtm on May 3, 2006, at 13:34:35
In reply to i've decided to terminate, posted by B2chica on May 3, 2006, at 12:19:12
Hi b2chica
I think most therapists don't know what they are talking about. They should listen to themselves sometime. I've seen some before, but not for my neurological situation, and I never will. They are either too pushy or too lackadaisical. They are too opinionated and indirect. I have trouble with opinions a lot, thank- most of them here I can relate to. I believe I can get by without one. I have a very good pdoc. I think I got lucky because the first one I was referred to is working out extremely well.
I don't know if that is the support you were looking for, but I support any decision that you feel is in your best interest. You can always change your mind...
Posted by muffled on May 3, 2006, at 14:23:23
In reply to i've decided to terminate, posted by B2chica on May 3, 2006, at 12:19:12
Posted by LadyBug on May 3, 2006, at 14:32:14
In reply to i've decided to terminate, posted by B2chica on May 3, 2006, at 12:19:12
Good vibes are comig at ya. I know it's a hard choice to make but you have to do what's best for you. I can see why this T is actually making you feel worse. Best of wishes on finding someone new that you can feel comfortable working with. Stick to your decision. You need to be cared about and your T isn't giving that to you.
LadyBug
Posted by ghost on May 3, 2006, at 18:20:10
In reply to i've decided to terminate, posted by B2chica on May 3, 2006, at 12:19:12
good for you!! i think it's an excellent decision. you've sounded so stressed since you started seeing her.
do you think maybe the hormones to get pregnant will help you with your moods, too? although i do wonder if just not seeing that T any more will help you.
good luck
*thinking positive thoughts*
ghost
Posted by gardenergirl on May 3, 2006, at 23:34:54
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » B2chica, posted by ghost on May 3, 2006, at 18:20:10
Hi b2c,
I know that's never an easy decision, to end therapy. And I know how important it is to find the right person for you. I do admire your openness to continue your search despite all that you have been through.I hope that the session goes well. And I hope that your path to pregnancy is smooth. I can relate to the experience of being told that it's not going to be easy. That can be very discouraging. I'm glad your doc is offering postive steps to address it.
Take care,
gg
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on May 3, 2006, at 23:37:37
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » B2chica, posted by curtm on May 3, 2006, at 13:34:35
Curt, I need to point out that I know 3 very good T's:
1. me
2. GG
3. my TThat said, I'm sorry you haven't had success and that b2c is in a tough situation now. I hope that things turn around for both of you.
Best,
EE
> Hi b2chica
>
> I think most therapists don't know what they are talking about. They should listen to themselves sometime. I've seen some before, but not for my neurological situation, and I never will. They are either too pushy or too lackadaisical. They are too opinionated and indirect. I have trouble with opinions a lot, thank- most of them here I can relate to. I believe I can get by without one. I have a very good pdoc. I think I got lucky because the first one I was referred to is working out extremely well.
>
> I don't know if that is the support you were looking for, but I support any decision that you feel is in your best interest. You can always change your mind...
Posted by gardenergirl on May 4, 2006, at 0:32:41
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » curtm, posted by Emily Elizabeth on May 3, 2006, at 23:37:37
Posted by Racer on May 4, 2006, at 1:39:27
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » curtm, posted by Emily Elizabeth on May 3, 2006, at 23:37:37
Posted by Dinah on May 4, 2006, at 8:29:10
In reply to i've decided to terminate, posted by B2chica on May 3, 2006, at 12:19:12
I know it's been rocky from the start. If you don't feel like it's a good match, it's probably best to start the search again. I hope you can find one that *is* a good match. I remember thinking that you seemed to be in less distress when you were seeing your old therapist than you were before seeing him.
Posted by B2chica on May 4, 2006, at 9:11:27
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » B2chica, posted by curtm on May 3, 2006, at 13:34:35
Hi curtm
i just hate the way she acts like she's ALL THAT to therapy. granted i'm sure she's good at what she does or my last T wouldn't have recommended her. but she tells me things that I KNOW ALREADY but she acts like she's the first one to ever tell me! i guess i feel sometimes that she's talking down to me.
glad you lucked out with your pdoc...that's great news!
thanks
b2c.
Posted by B2chica on May 4, 2006, at 9:13:58
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » B2chica, posted by ghost on May 3, 2006, at 18:20:10
thanks sweetie!
i'm hoping the hormones help me and don't hurt me. but on the other hand my obgyn is very laid back about meds and pregnancy. she said she's been doing this for 28 years and would much rather see a mother on medication than be suicidal. and she thinks the medical field freak out way too much about meds and pregnancy.
so anyway, we'll see.
thanks ghost. it's always good to see you around.
b2c.
Posted by B2chica on May 4, 2006, at 9:16:21
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » B2chica, posted by Dinah on May 4, 2006, at 8:29:10
thank you all So much for your support.
maybe taking a breather for a few weeks will be good for me anyway.
if not, i'll be here night and day.
Posted by happyflower on May 4, 2006, at 20:12:39
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate » ghost, posted by B2chica on May 4, 2006, at 9:13:58
Are you still feeling at peace with your decision? If you are, then you are doing the best thing for you.
I hope you the best in getting pregnant. I would read up as much as you can about it and know what to expect as to the side effects if any. I know when I tried hormones (progersterone) it really messed me up emotionally. So be carefull and eat well ! ((((B2))))))
Posted by B2chica on May 5, 2006, at 9:13:08
In reply to Re: i've decided to terminate, posted by happyflower on May 4, 2006, at 20:12:39
ya i think i feel good about my decision. though i still really think i need a T at this point, i was just waisting my money and time with her.
she was nice and all but besides all the miscommunication i felt like i was being talked down to, like even before i left she made little comments like "sometimes its not what you are discussing but the fact that you are talking to a woman that is the point"...well DUH!!! i'm thinking why in the h@ll else would i even be seeing you!
i want a man! the only reason i agreed to see a woman is because i thought i needed to work on my trust issues with women....so no sh@t dumb @ss!!!!then i told her i saw a couple other people just to see if i was doing the right thing...and her comment to me was "well, now don't expect to instantly bond right off the bat, you must work at your relationship, that's all part of therapy".
again...NO SH#T!!!
but even more to the point, i have a pretty good instinct about people and though i don't know for sure about if it will work or not- my gut instinct is usually pretty right. i knew it about several other T's i saw that weren't right, i knew it about her. the ones that worked i pretty much knew right away-my old T, my pdoc and gp i pretty much knew right away. so over all i'd say DON"T DOUBT MY JUDGEMENT! MY CHOICE NOT YOURS!dang, so much anger.
so i've decided that until i've worked on my other issues i can't work on the woman thing. besides, it's not like i hate all women. infact i have a girlfriend that i talk to alot, there was a student here that i got along Great with and talked to about depression and stuff. Overall i get along with women i just tend to feel more at ease with guys. besides who in the h@ll said i have to get along with and trust every woman??!! that's not right.
but again, i need to talk about my other issues and to do that i must feel safe and protected.sorry for the rant.
thank you very much for your support HF.
b2c.
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