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Re: My Comfort Book » daisym

Posted by littleone on January 10, 2006, at 13:59:52

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book trigger » littleone, posted by daisym on January 9, 2006, at 16:18:00

I'm sorry I was such a mess yesterday morning. I'm feeling a bit better now. The posts from you and gg and falls helped a lot. And I'm sorry I was so upset about Babble. The no one likes me thing is such an old and deep hurt. Very ingrained. It makes it very hard for me to see the truth about a situation. Even now I still believe what I wrote, but at least now I can keep some of the reasons in mind and try to act as if it isn't true.

And I feel so bad for saying that stuff about Babble. I try to never say the no one likes me stuff because then people feel obligated to respond or act as if they do. And having people obligated to like me is another old and deep hurt.

But I am feeling a bit better now. I'm even able to look through my comfort book now. And I must say I was pretty flabbergasted that it *did* comfort me. I really didn't expect it to work.

I feel truly honoured that my post has a place in your comfort book. Is the photo of your T a colour photo? If so, you could probably try getting a colour photocopy at a print shop or even take it to a photo place to get scanned and copied. You'd probably end up with a better quality reproduction which won't cost you very much at all. Your post reminded me that I don't have any pictures of my cat in my book which I will definately have to correct quick smart.

In my comfort book I've written down things I believe when I'm well, but that I don't believe when I'm unwell. eg telling myself to journal, that writing really does help with the feelings, that my T really does care about me, that feelings don't last forever, that cutting off bad feelings cuts off the good ones too, that I should draw if I can't find the words, that you are never bad for feeling a feeling.

I also found some good little snippets of wisdom on the musing archive pages of this site:

http://www.forthelittleonesinside.com/

I didn't read all the articles, I just printed out the little boxes with the snippets.

I put in a list of things to do when I have empty weekends.

I put in a list of things to do for a young part. And everything is written in really bright colours. And I draw some of the nice things in there.

I put in photos from my hikes and bird photos and a decomposed leaf I picked up on a hike.

And I put in lots of photos of my T. Plus I'll scan some of the notes he's given me in the past and put those in too.

Thanks for your ideas re coping while my T is away. I'm very torn over your idea of keeping in touch every day. Part of me loves it and part of me is terrified. Partly terrified of hurting you if I withdraw or do a pseudo runner. I don't think I would be very healthy for you. My withdrawal defences with your abandonment issues. People probably have good reason for not liking me.

I could probably give it a go, but please don't feel like you have to. You can pull back at any time. I'll understand.

And I don't mind which parts of you respond. I think you're a very special person. All of you, not just this part or that part.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » gardenergirl

Posted by littleone on January 10, 2006, at 14:09:47

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book trigger » littleone, posted by gardenergirl on January 9, 2006, at 16:31:13

Sorry your T is going away too. Pretty lousy timing for you hey? I'm sure there's still vacancies at Camp Comfort if you want to call in.

Re my T's note, he's mentioned it in a few previous sessions and it was just in the most recent one that I was able to ask him for one.

He's going overseas to a yucky country during his leave and I have written to him that I'm scared of the germs there. That they'll get him and kill him or make him real sick. I told him he's not allowed to die/retire/move away/get a terrible disease/etc. So he wrote a little paragraph about how he's taken the necessary precautions to stay safe and well and will definately be back to see me on such and such a date.

And he could tell I didn't like it one little bit and was trying to find out from me what was wrong with it or what I did want and I just couldn't tell him anything. I didn't know and couldn't think and wanted to hide.

I think I need a long letter (a page or two) because I'll wear out a paragraph way too quickly. And I think it needs to be about how he cares about me or what he wants for me or things he still wants to talk about with me. So it feels like he does care and does want to come back to work with me. I get so lonely and feel totally alone when he's gone. I need the letter to help me feel less alone.

And yes, I know I should give him this post (as well as the others). But ugh ugh ugh. Even my comfort book says "Write to T. He needs to know". At least it wouldn't be a limping along vegetable session.

And I will talk to him about seeing another T while he's gone. But I don't think he's gonna like it. If I get to know another T now it makes it easier to do a runner down the track. Plus I think he's trying to make it so I'm not left feeling abandoned when he goes. To try and counter beliefs around that. Whereas if I see another T to fix up those feelings, I don't think that does anything towards undoing the abandonment beliefs. It just makes me feel better.

Thanks for your comments re dealing with the accident. I do understand all that in a way. But part of me still just wants to bite the bullet and get it over with.

If there's something I really need to do, I can just cut everything off inside to get it done no matter what. And it's that part that just wants to get the accident stuff done and dusted. It just can't comprehend that you can't cut off to do the accident stuff. That it only gets done from doing it without cutting off.

Thank you for caring gg. It meant a lot to me.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » fallsfall

Posted by littleone on January 10, 2006, at 14:15:20

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book trigger » littleone, posted by fallsfall on January 9, 2006, at 18:17:30

Thanks for your reply. I had briefly thought of getting a couple of massages while he was away, but kind of beat myself up for such a dumb idea. Except it doesn't sound dumb at all the way you put it. I really need to listen to myself more.

My T will be gone for 3 and a half weeks I think. I'm not sure because I haven't been game to look at that appointment list from the receptionist again.

I try to post, but it's hard for me. I'm more a hide in my shell type. I'll get into a little bit of a roll with posting, but always end up pulling back. And it's not just my T I run from. I run from Babble as well.

Re Camp Comfort, I've never been in or even seen snow. I've seen it on TV, but I just can't feel myself somewhere like that. I just can't comprehend what it would be like.

Maybe I could just stay inside at Camp Comfort in some sort of garden conservatory. Like a bubble protecting me from the world. With a big neverending revolving bookcase so I could have at my fingertips any book I could ever wish for. That would be nice.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » littleone

Posted by daisym on January 10, 2006, at 15:04:31

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » daisym, posted by littleone on January 10, 2006, at 13:59:52

As usual, in my haste to comfort I neglected to ask, "how would YOU like to be comforted." Sigh. I have the right answers but I don't always put them to the right questions. :)

If you need to do a turtle and pull in, go right ahead. I'll still be around. If I need to stay in bed all day, I'll let you know that too. The lovely thing about Babble is the ability to sign off and then back on again.

I'm glad you are feeling a bit better today. I was putting things in my book last night and now my son wants to make one. It is going to be hard for me not to control this because so far in his box he has pictures of the Simpons, a Halo emblem, the words to Free Bird, and pictures of his brothers, his friends and his cats. I'm tempted to say "what about me?" but I kept my mouth shut. OH -- the cutest thing, he put the wrapping to a tea bag, because that is what he drinks when he feels bad. He was also going to go through his football cards.

Thanks for the scanning idea. I didn't think of that. I have one so it will be easy to do.

Never feel bad about being honest. You were very civil about it. I doubt Babblers won't be understanding, we are a forgiving group!

Take good care,
Daisy

 

Re: My Comfort Book » littleone

Posted by fallsfall on January 10, 2006, at 19:42:49

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » fallsfall, posted by littleone on January 10, 2006, at 14:15:20

The beauty of Camp Comfort is that you can do whatever you want.

I'm studying to be a librarian. Wouldn't it be a perfect job to be the librarian at Camp Comfort??

Definately go for the massages!

 

Re: My Comfort Book

Posted by gardenergirl on January 10, 2006, at 23:02:45

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » fallsfall, posted by littleone on January 10, 2006, at 14:15:20

> Thanks for your reply. I had briefly thought of getting a couple of massages while he was away, but kind of beat myself up for such a dumb idea.

Ooh, not a dumb idea. I'm getting one tomorrow. It's a great thing to do for your body and mind if you enjoy them. I've noticed that when I get them regularly (bless my husband!), I am less stressed. Hmm, maybe that's why he doesn't complain about the cost. He gets a benefit too!


> I try to post, but it's hard for me. I'm more a hide in my shell type. I'll get into a little bit of a roll with posting, but always end up pulling back. And it's not just my T I run from. I run from Babble as well.

I do this at times, too. I still read, but sometimes I just don't feel I can post, and I don't quite know why. I think it's okay though. And I bet there are others who feel this way, too.
>
>
> Maybe I could just stay inside at Camp Comfort in some sort of garden conservatory. Like a bubble protecting me from the world. With a big neverending revolving bookcase so I could have at my fingertips any book I could ever wish for. That would be nice.

Oooh, sounds nice. Of course I would like a garden, lol.

But lately, I've been thinking of Camp Comfort Tropics. Sort of like Jimmy Buffett's "One Particular Harbor"

ONE PARTICULAR HARBOUR
Jimmy Buffett & Bobby Holcomb

IA ORA TE NATURA
E MEA AROFA TEIE AO NEI
IA ORA TE NATURA
E MEA AROFA TEIE AO NEI

Nature lives (life to nature)
Have pity for the Earth
(Love the Earth)

I know I don't get there often enough
But God knows I surely try
It's a magic kind of medicine
That no doctor could prescribe

I used to rule my world from a pay phone
And ships out on the sea
But now times are rough
And I got too much stuff
Can't explain the likes of me

Chorus:
But there's this one particular harbour
So far but yet so near
Where I see the days as they fade away
And finally disappear

But now I think about the good times
Down in the Caribbean sunshine
In my younger days I was so bad
Laughin' about all the fun we had

I've seen enough to feel the world spin
Mixin' different oceans meetin' cousins
Listen to the drummers and the night sounds
Listen to the singers make the world go 'round

IA ORA TE NATURA
E MEA AROFA TEIE AO NEI
IA ORA TE NATURA
E MEA AROFA TEIE AO NEI

Lakes below the mountains
Flow into the sea
Like oils applied to canvas
They permeate through me

And there's that one particular harbour
Sheltered from the wind
Where the children play on the shore each day
And all are safe within

Most mysterious calling harbour
So far but yet so near
I can see the day when my hair's full gray
And I finally disappear

IA ORA TE NATURA
E MEA AROFA TEIE AO NEI
IA ORA TE NATURA
E MEA AROFA TEIE AO NEI

UA PAU TE MAITAI NO TE FENUA
RE ZAI NOA RA TE ORA O TE MITIE

Bounty of the land is exhausted
But there's still abundance on the sea

Wish I could visit that harbor sometime. Wouldn't it make a great alternative site for Camp Comfort? I especially like the part "where the children play on the shore each day and all are safe within."

gg

 

Re: My Comfort Book » gardenergirl

Posted by daisym on January 10, 2006, at 23:06:46

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book, posted by gardenergirl on January 10, 2006, at 23:02:45

My favorite is still "Cheeseburger in Paradise."

Wonder what that says about me? And should I tell my therapist?

 

Re: My Comfort Book » littleone

Posted by gardenergirl on January 10, 2006, at 23:11:15

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » gardenergirl, posted by littleone on January 10, 2006, at 14:09:47

> Sorry your T is going away too. Pretty lousy timing for you hey?

Actually, I'm going away. Sigh. It's my own fault. But thanks.
>
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> I think I need a long letter (a page or two) because I'll wear out a paragraph way too quickly. And I think it needs to be about how he cares about me or what he wants for me or things he still wants to talk about with me. So it feels like he does care and does want to come back to work with me. I get so lonely and feel totally alone when he's gone. I need the letter to help me feel less alone.

I can see why his note wasn't what you wanted and also how it would be hard to ask him for what you do want. It sounds like you want him to validate your therapy relationship in order to hold that feeling close to you while he's gone. It may be that you will need to write this type of info down for yourself to keep it close. It's still about your relationship, whoever writes it. But I know. It would be so sweet and special to come from him. I treasure those tiny and rare moments when I really feel he cares and he somehow shows it.
>
> And yes, I know I should give him this post > And I will talk to him about seeing another T while he's gone. But I don't think he's gonna like it. If I get to know another T now it makes it easier to do a runner down the track. Plus I think he's trying to make it so I'm not left feeling abandoned when he goes. To try and counter beliefs around that.

Ah, a therapeutic opportunity. Why are those usually so painful? Ugh. I know you'll do what's best for you however it turns out.

>But part of me still just wants to bite the bullet and get it over with.

I think that's only natural. Hopefully this will come around in therapy for you soon and you can find some relief.
>
Glad you are finding comfort with your comfort book. I'll have to check out those links. Thanks for posting them.

((((littleone))))

gg

 

Re: My Comfort Book » daisym

Posted by gardenergirl on January 10, 2006, at 23:35:43

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » gardenergirl, posted by daisym on January 10, 2006, at 23:06:46

> My favorite is still "Cheeseburger in Paradise."
>
> Wonder what that says about me? And should I tell my therapist?

Hey, I like mine with lettuce and tomato, too!

gg

 

Re: My Comfort Book » daisym

Posted by littleone on January 11, 2006, at 14:59:08

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by daisym on January 10, 2006, at 15:04:31

> As usual, in my haste to comfort I neglected to ask, "how would YOU like to be comforted." Sigh. I have the right answers but I don't always put them to the right questions. :)

No, you did just right. In fact it's probably better you *didn't* ask me what I needed because never in a million years would I have suggested some regular contact. And you didn't steamroll me with it. Just offered it and gave me a choice. I think you did just right.

> I was putting things in my book last night and now my son wants to make one. It is going to be hard for me not to control this because so far in his box he has pictures of the Simpons, a Halo emblem, the words to Free Bird, and pictures of his brothers, his friends and his cats.

This is so sweet, it really brought a smile to my face. A little kid's secret stash of special stuff. It's funny how what's important to us changes as we get older. I kind of have a feeling that I used to have a secret stash of stuff when I was younger, but I really can't remember. It's sad how I'm missing so much of my childhood. I wonder if it ever comes back.

> I'm tempted to say "what about me?" but I kept my mouth shut.

Maybe he doesn't need you in there because you're always there for him. He knows you'll be close by if he needs you. Or you have such a strong attachment to him, he doesn't need reminders of you. You're safely stored in him (I guess I'm trying to say he has good object constancy with you, you stay with him inside all the time).

> OH -- the cutest thing, he put the wrapping to a tea bag, because that is what he drinks when he feels bad.

Oh, I loved this. It is cute and he is so clever to think of that. And it would be sweet to see a kid drinking tea. It's such a grown up thing.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » gardenergirl

Posted by littleone on January 11, 2006, at 20:21:12

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book, posted by gardenergirl on January 10, 2006, at 23:02:45

> Oooh, sounds nice. Of course I would like a garden, lol.

:) That's why I suggested it. I wanted a nice garden sanctuary in the middle of the snowy Camp Comfort.

> Wish I could visit that harbor sometime. Wouldn't it make a great alternative site for Camp Comfort? I especially like the part "where the children play on the shore each day and all are safe within."

That does sound really nice. Do you mean a harbour with a beach and rock pools? I'm not sure if your harbours are different to ours or not. I love exploring the rock pools.

 

Re: My Comfort Book

Posted by littleone on January 11, 2006, at 20:42:04

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by gardenergirl on January 10, 2006, at 23:11:15

Well we had a bit of a silent session yesterday, but that wasn't really a bad thing. I took in this thread to him which took ages to read through and after telling me how well I'd done, he said that we better fix up this letter.

So then he started to write. And write. And write.

When I said a page or two would be better, I was thinking about his normal type of page. He writes really spaced out and only fits maybe 4 sentences on a page.

Instead he wrote out 4 completely full pages, ie how a normal person writes. Which really blew me away.

So it took ages to write. Then he had me read it and that took ages. And then we just had a couple of minutes at the end to talk.

But that was okay because he did up the best letter ever. Better than what I could have even thought up for myself. I've been dying to re-read it over and over but I can't because I gave it back to him so I don't wear it out before he goes.

It was *so* good. It had everything I'd mentioned in my post and so much more. It left me feeling like I could handle his holiday. And not just handle it, but look forward to the challenge of getting through it (okay only one part thinks that, the others are still dreading it, but are probably more hopeful of getting through it).

I was even confident enough to cancel the appointments I made with the other T. And yes, I was right with my reasons as to why he wouldn't like the idea of seeing someone else.

There was heaps more good stuff in it, but I just feel like hugging it to myself and treasuring it.

Can you tell I liked the new note? :)

 

Note the Smile » littleone

Posted by daisym on January 11, 2006, at 21:00:41

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book, posted by littleone on January 11, 2006, at 20:42:04

:) :) :) :) :) :) :)

I'm SO GLAD!!!

I can feel your smile all the way out here. I guess the silence was worth it. I'm sure it is something you will treasure always.

I like that you can think of it as a "challenge." It will be but now you have even more tools to get through it. I bet he is glad to know that you have what you need, except him, of course.

Did you show him your comfort book?

 

:-) (nm) » littleone

Posted by Dinah on January 12, 2006, at 12:25:28

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book, posted by littleone on January 11, 2006, at 20:42:04

 

Re: My Comfort Book » littleone

Posted by daisym on January 14, 2006, at 19:29:51

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book, posted by littleone on January 11, 2006, at 20:42:04

Just checking in to see how you are holding up. I know yesterday was your last session -- was it hard? I'm around if you want to talk about it.

Hugs,
Daisy

 

Re: My Comfort Book » daisym

Posted by littleone on January 17, 2006, at 15:16:50

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by daisym on January 14, 2006, at 19:29:51

Yesterday was a day I normally have a session. I got a massage that was okay, but it didn't really get my knots out. Afterwards I just felt incredibly sad. I had been pretty cut off before the massage, not feeling much. I don't know if that sadness is better than feeling nothing or not.

It always feels like an eternity between sessions, and I still have 5 more missed sessions to go. And I'm running out of things on my things to do list.

I feel sad down to my bones.

How are you doing? I've been thinking of you. Here's a daisy for you. *-> On its side. Okay, that was incredibly lame.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » littleone

Posted by daisym on January 19, 2006, at 0:57:22

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » daisym, posted by littleone on January 17, 2006, at 15:16:50

It wasn't lame. It made me smile. :) Nobody ever gives me flowers!

I'm buried at work and yet can't concentrate. I've been struggling with lots of old stuff; I posted below.

I was thinking about you today and wondered how you were. I think getting a massage is so brave. It sounds good but I think I'd go off the deep end having someone touch me. I wish I knew how to practice being touched in a safe, nonsexual way but you can't exactly go up to someone and say, "hey, touch me please!" now can you?

I added a page of daisies to my comfort book today. They are stickers but fuzzy and fun. I'm gonna have to call it my comfort dictionary soon.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » daisym

Posted by littleone on January 19, 2006, at 23:41:55

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by daisym on January 19, 2006, at 0:57:22

Before my T went away, he was looking at a photo and asking me a question about it and I had to look at it. But I don't like looking at him, so I kind of grabbed it off him to see better and as I grabbed it I touched his finger.

It was really warm. And nice. But it kind of scared me and I felt bad even though it was an accident. And I still had to rub it off cause I felt so uneven. But it stayed there for ages and ages.

Maybe you could practice touching someone else for a while first. Like maybe put your hand on someone's shoulder (like maybe a safe lady from work) or something like that.

> I added a page of daisies to my comfort book today. They are stickers but fuzzy and fun. I'm gonna have to call it my comfort dictionary soon.

Your book sounds nice. Stickers are a good idea and daisies are such happy and sunny flowers. I have a sticker book, but I have to keep it hidden under the bed so my husband doesn't see it.

I forget to look at my comfort book when I'm not feeling well. Do you remember, or not?

Why is it your comfort dictionary?

 

Re: My Comfort Book » littleone

Posted by daisym on January 20, 2006, at 18:01:47

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » daisym, posted by littleone on January 19, 2006, at 23:41:55

I leave it on my dresser so yes, I remember to look at it. I'm calling it a dictionary because it is getting so big! I guess I need lots of things to comfort me.

Touching is a strange thing. I want it -- but I know that the minute it happens I'll get terrified and uncomfortable. My children are touchy and huggy. They like to hang on me and I have to pry myself loose in a way that doesn't offend them. My husband has always commented on how stiff I am slow dancing but only recently did I figure out that it is because someone is invading my personal space.

I just read this whole thing on touch and body size. It seems that this researcher thinks that often people unconsciously keep themselves large to create more body space between the inner them and the world. Makes sense in a weird way.

You made it through the end of the first week. Have you been writing your feelings down so you can share them with your therapist when he comes back? Do you have plans for the weekend?

I was thinking that if you don't want to keep your comfort book out, just keep a small symbol out that will remind you to go pull it out. Sometimes that works for me.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » daisym

Posted by littleone on January 21, 2006, at 1:19:13

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by daisym on January 20, 2006, at 18:01:47

> Touching is a strange thing. I want it -- but I know that the minute it happens I'll get terrified and uncomfortable. My children are touchy and huggy. They like to hang on me and I have to pry myself loose in a way that doesn't offend them. My husband has always commented on how stiff I am slow dancing but only recently did I figure out that it is because someone is invading my personal space.

I was thinking it might be easier for you to initiate the casual touch because it gives you more control. I think there's a difference between someone invading your personal space (like in the above examples) and you reaching out to someone from your personal space.

I have a very large personal space. It is always being invaded by people behind me in queues and at the supermarket and whatnot.

> You made it through the end of the first week.

Yeah. One down, three to go. He specifically told me NOT to count down the days, but I simply can't cope without that solid end to aim for. I have 16 days to go.

> Have you been writing your feelings down so you can share them with your therapist when he comes back?

Yeah. His big letter practically orders me to keep journalling while he's gone and to mail it all to him so he doesn't have to "lever" it out of me when he gets back. I'm real uncomfortable with mailing him stuff (I've done it before and it's never turned up. I hate the thought of it still floating around somewhere) and I was very concerned about writing too much for him. He kind of waved all that aside and said it could never be too much. So far there's 10 very very full pages and I'm only 1/3 of the way through. He's gonna have a book when he gets back.

> Do you have plans for the weekend?

I'm not sure. I had planned to do some things in town on Saturday (which I've just finished doing) and then go for a hike on Sunday. But it is too rainy to go where I wanted to and my husband wanted me to stay home. I thought that would be okay because then we could go to the movies together which we haven't done for years, but he's not happy about that at all. I don't understand why. So Sunday's looking a bit empty at the moment. I have some books to read and a jigsaw to do and some pictures to put in my comfort book. Oh, and the housework.

I think Tuesday will be harder (when I normally have a session). I was thinking of calling in to my T's office (it will be open with his receptionist and other T's) and sitting by his door and read/write/draw. Then I can slip all the junk I've written under his door instead of mailing it.

If you went to see your T and saw a client sitting on the floor outside another T's office door, would you think they were a fruitcake? Would you think they were bad or doing the "wrong thing"?

> I was thinking that if you don't want to keep your comfort book out, just keep a small symbol out that will remind you to go pull it out. Sometimes that works for me.

Yeah, I don't understand yet why I can never help myself when I'm feeling very bad. I actually carry my journal and comfort book around with me everywhere. You'd think I'd remember to look at them. Maybe I should put something on my pillow or bedhead and on my computer screen at work and with my chocolates as an added reminder. I'll have to think about it.

Thank you for helping me through my T's holiday. It's really meant a lot to me.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » littleone

Posted by Daisym on January 27, 2006, at 17:47:38

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » daisym, posted by littleone on January 21, 2006, at 1:19:13

Yeah. One down, three to go. He specifically told me NOT to count down the days, but I simply can't cope without that solid end to aim for. I have 16 days to go.

>>>>I'm checking in on you. You are more than 1/2 way now. Are you doing OK?

I've had the week from hell so I'm sorry I haven't been here much. Things have improved slightly so I'm hoping for a calm weekend. I'm currently baking cinnamon rolls and if the house stays empty I may just eat them all myself. So there!

Not the best coping strategy but it works. :)

 

Re: My Comfort Book » Daisym

Posted by gardenergirl on January 27, 2006, at 20:32:40

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by Daisym on January 27, 2006, at 17:47:38

>I'm currently baking cinnamon rolls and if the house stays empty I may just eat them all myself. So there!
>
> Not the best coping strategy but it works. :)


Dare I say that I just did that yesterday?

gg

 

Re: My Comfort Book » Daisym

Posted by Daisym on January 28, 2006, at 14:40:11

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » littleone, posted by Daisym on January 27, 2006, at 17:47:38

I burned the first batch. Completely forgot about them. But boy did the house smell good! Something about all that cinnamon.

So I made another batch. And they were just finishing up as the pack of 14 year olds trooped in after a mud football game. After making them strip down in the garage (hilarious to hear all the catcalls), getting them into warm clothing -- they had hot chocolate and the cinnamon rolls. I got ONE!!! *sigh*

However -- my son said, (mouth full) "mom, I don't think I need therapy if you were just home every afternoon to do this for us." His friends said, "Mrs. Daisy, we love you. We think you should listen to M. We can help be part of his therapy by helping him eat stuff."

Gotta love teenage boys. And the fact that my kid is suddenly sharing pretty openly about being back in therapy reminds me how close knit this group is. He is very lucky. Like have Babble IRL for him.

 

Re: My Comfort Book » Daisym

Posted by gardenergirl on January 28, 2006, at 15:57:02

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » Daisym, posted by Daisym on January 28, 2006, at 14:40:11

That's great, and it sounds very comforting.

gg

 

Re: My Comfort Book » Daisym

Posted by Dinah on January 29, 2006, at 11:45:51

In reply to Re: My Comfort Book » Daisym, posted by Daisym on January 28, 2006, at 14:40:11

That's wonderful! Maybe it's a new age. My son doesn't see anything particularly unusual about seeing his play therapist, or the school counselor. He's very matter of fact about how it helps him. Maybe therapy has become so much part of the culture that the next generation will consider it as natural as going to the doctor.


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